How long into a relationship should you expect a proposal???

Question

I am 33 and never had a proposal, i have had a couple of long term relationships, the guy im with now is great, 1st guy ive lived with and so on, we are together 2 years and i was hoping between 2 to 3 year stage, he'll pop the question, im not in a hurry to wed, not the type to be planning or anything, but i would love to get to the next level, we do see each other as very long term, so when is a good time, 3yrs, 4 yrs, 5 yrs???
I wouldnt propose to him, i am quite old fashioned that way.

Answer 1

You may have to! He might want to wait three years or even more. Perhaps he had a previous relationship that broke up after three or more years, so he wants to be really sure. When men get hurt, the wounds go deep. If you are happy to stay as you are, then why not. Count your blessings and stay happy together, and I hope you get everything you want in time.

Answer 2

I would say that there is no time limit for this sort of thing... I never thought i would be married at 21 but it happened and i am very happy and looking forward to a long beautiful marriage.. Now in your case you should focus on the fact that you have some one who loves you and wants to be with you for a long time.. forever... and if so then you should not be afraid to tell him that you are ready for the next step.. Of course not like a proposal or anything but just let him know that you are ready when he is ready.. and hopefully this will make him start thinking about it.. etc.. plus.. maybe have some friends mention it to him or family members, and maybe it will happen soon, if not at least you'll know what he said about the situation..

I wish you all the best! Maybe next question you have is where to find a wedding dresss.. hehe..

Good luck!

Answer 3

I usually expect a proposal after about a year - year and a half. I wouldn't propose myself, but I have no problem bringing up marriage if I feel we are at the right stage. I need to know how the person feels about the prospect of us being married - if marriage was what I was after, and he didn't see us being married, I would be wasting my time by staying in the relationship longer. If after a couple of years we still didn't have a wedding date set, I would be cutting my losses and getting out.

Answer 4

Well, you're REALLY not old fashioned at all, you're shacking up with him! And, that'll be the reason you probably won't be getting a proposal.
In a normal dating relationship, usually two years is enough for the man to know whether he wants to marry the woman or not. Three years would be pretty much a max. time for most women to wait. But with the two of you living together, usually the guy just gets really comfy and realizes he doesn't want to or have to get married.... sorry to let you know that, but there are LOTS of women on this site who have gotten trapped in this situation, and then can't figure out "why" he isn't asking them to marry him....

Answer 5

I proposed to my wife jsut after 2 years, but my sister has been with her boyfriend for almost 6 years now and no proposal. It really depends on where you both are in your life. Me and my wife both had great jobs and had been living together for a year, so the time seemed right. My sister jsut turned 25, doenst have a job and jsut moved in with her boyfriend 6 months ago. I expect her to engaged within a year or start looking elsewhere.

It all depends on the person you want to marry as well. How they view marriage and family and their goals in life.

Answer 6

As soon as possible. I mean no disrespect, but in my opinion, at 33, you don't have time to play around. Old fashioned ideology did allow the woman to hint pretty strongly to the man...

Proposal time is relative, but know this: Love him, but be realistic. You have to love yourself and you have needs and desires too like the desire for security. If he can't accommodate you, then you must factor his reluctance into your choice.

The best way I can analogize this theory is safety versus quality versus cost of a car. Saving lives is very important, but we don't always buy the safest car due to cost and quality. Otherwise, we'd all be pushing car companies to make tanks like the Hummer. A Volvo is just as good even if we'd rather have the Hummer. Toyota suits people too. This guy may be your Hummer, but if he doesn't propose soon, go with the Volvo or Toyota. It will still get you where you want to go, safely, and you NEED to get to where you want to go.

Answer 7

You shouldn't "EXPECT" anything in any relationship, especially marriage. If your partner is looking to be your husband anytime in the future, he will ask you when he's GOOD & READY. I don't think you should push it that far yet, especially if he has not even talked about it. Don't worry about it. You should just keep going with your relationship & do what you normally do. Let him ask you on his own time without you bringing it up. If you think that YOU WANT TO ASK HIM, then go ahead & do so.....I don't see anything wrong with a woman proposing marriage. I see it on TV all the time.

Answer 8

There is no amount of time that you should be expecting a proposal after. It completely depends on where you are in your relationship, where you are in life. I was with my husband for a little over 5 years when he proposed to me. We had lived together for about 4 years. We've been through so much, and we've shared so much together. It came as a total shock to me, but it's a shock that is totally worth waiting for. It will happen one day. Don't try to rush it, or push it. Let it happen when it happens.

Answer 9

All relationships are unique, but after 2 yrs of of dating you have a right to know what the future holds for the two of you.

Answer 10

The number of years doesn't really matter. My son and his sweetheart of 17 years are getting married 7-7-7. They made that decision in 1999.

We knew from the outside that they were committed, after all, they moved from San Francisco to Texas together and bought a house together. It just makes it easier to say, "My daughter-in-law" rather than "My son's POSSLQ [person of the opposite sex sharing living quarters.]

You can close on a minor point: "Jim, on our honeymoon, would you rather go to the Bahamas or the mountains?"

Or you can get his emotional temperature: "Jim, in your opinion do you feel that you will ever get married?" If yes, to whom? And did you have a year in mind?

You can always ask him how he feels.