i'm about to go into high school and i've been playing soccer since i was about four. i was on a really good soccer team but then it wasn't fun anymore and i quit. my dad really loved to watch me play and he keeps bugging me every time he sees me to go to tryouts again and re-join the team. i like my team mates and traveling but there is just too much pressure on me and i don't really like the coach. the coach just yells at us and puts us down. it especially got out of hand when we had to use soccer journals!!!!!!!!!!!(don't ask) i want to make my dad happy but i really don't want to play. instead i want to play volleyball and other sports for my high-shcool. WHAT SHOULD I DO!!?? HOW SHOULD I TELL MY DAD????? no one i talked to has really helped me out yet. i'm hoping someone here can. thanks
2007-06-05 07:03:07 · 10 answers · asked by Hannah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just talk to you dad. I know you want to make your dad happy and proud and all of that good stuff..but in the end you need to make him see that you need to do what makes YOU happy. It's not like you don't want to play any sports, you just want to play different ones. You might actually go back to playing soccer another year.
Explain to him that you don't want to play soccer this year and you want to try something new. Don't let him discourage you. And if you have to, just tell him your soccer coach is an asshole and treats all of you like crap. Plus, it looks good for college applications that you were highly active in school. (As long as you keep your grades up!)
2007-06-05 07:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by michelle b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all Is there a compromise? Anywhere at all?
Example: Is there a local or intermural team you can join instead of your high schools'? It won't be the same but at least he can watch you play somewhere.
Freshman year is a tough year as its a whole new transition. Juggling soccer and fitting in might be a tall order for your first year. Explain that to him. Earnestly and calmly state that you're just don't know about this year.
Don't rule out the possibility of playing sophmore though. You never know what could happen in the future. Tell your dad that you both can re evaluate before next year. NOT NOW. Try to be firm and yet sincere.
BUT... to have a place where you can play and to keep yourself in shape ask him about a smaller scale team and perhaps soccer camps in the summer.
You should'nt ever make yourself play something or do something when its a drag for you. If you do, you're likely to lose all passion for it. No one wants that.
2007-06-05 07:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are "soccered out". At your age, sports should be played for enjoyment. It is obvious that you do not enjoy it.
Tell your dad that you want to get more rounded in your sports. Do not tell him all the negative stuff about the coach and the journals.
This is your life. Unless you are Hindu, there are no second chances (ha ha). So make the most of it.
2007-06-05 07:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad shouldn't be giving you such a hard time just because you've lost interest in soccer. I would sit down with him and let him know that you want to branch out into other sports. He may have enjoyed watching you play soccer, but he should care more about what YOU enjoy taking part in.
2007-06-05 07:13:15 · answer #4 · answered by Kori spelled backwards is Irok 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your dad that he is putting too much pressure on you and that you want to try something new and that soccer is just not fun any more
2007-06-05 08:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by coolbeth93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your father that your interests have changed....this is something he should already know. As you go through adolescence your thoughts, interests, and emotions go through many changes. Soccer may have been important to you last year, but now you have developed and interest in something else which is normal. Have a talk with him and explain it and Im sure he will understand....if not, he will need to embrace your difference in opinion and let you move on.
And its always good to know a little big about alot of things. Good Luck!
2007-06-05 07:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my little friend,life is too short to have a coach that doesn't play for fun,instead just to win.it makes you hate the sport worse and worse,and you almost liked it at first,and making your dad happy is wonderful,and he should love you to enough to not make you play some kinda sport that will give you ulcers,and hate all kinds of sports..i'm so sorry you're going through stuff like this.and tell him , you like to play to play and then when you enjoy it,you will win....enjoying playing and not like pro's do .do it fora business. they don't like the sport,they like the money,most anyway...its' a business and not a fun game.... same with you... i'll keep you in my thoughts.... good luck buddy.
2007-06-05 07:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by jcr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice to want to play soccer for your dad, but honestly it's your life... If you don't enjoy it you shouldn't have to do it. Just tell your dad it isn't as fun as it use to be for the reasons you listed. Hopefully he'll be understanding.
2007-06-05 07:14:07 · answer #8 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! tell your dad. He should support anything you want to do and it will be a way for him to see you display a new talent. =^.^=
2007-06-05 07:08:08 · answer #9 · answered by punkfairie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-06-05 12:20:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋