this my dream
i want to play in the NFL
she wont get abortion she wont give it up for adoption
My dad thinks she used me for my money because my football
and being known around my town as the best line backer
this cant get in my way what should i do
2007-06-05 06:57:45 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
They don't take out of shape linemen at Notre Dame ...
Babe , keep your stories straight . Any one of us can see every question you've ever asked , and NONE of your stories hold water .
If you have a real question ask it , if not just stop wasting the time of the good people here who actually TRY and help others .
2007-06-05 16:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by Ej G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate when people think having a baby is going to ruin there lives! Yes, it will be difficult but it's not impossible to accomplish your goals just because you have a child. If anything this baby should be your motivation to do the best you can!
I was 18 full scholarship to University of Southern California I have a couple more months to go until I am done and head to grad school, I am now 21 and almost 6 months pregnant..becoming a single mom.....I work full time, school full time and about to head to grad school for Forensic Pathology....with my baby almost here, I am scared as hell and again yes it will be hard but not IMPOSSIBLE.
Man up....talk to your girlfriend...inform her you have a great future ahead of you and now that you have a baby on the way this could give your child a great future...don't leave her just because of your selfish ways...you either step up or step down because either way you will be responsible for your child.
As far as your father saying she got pregnant on purpose because of your money....
1. You may be a great line backer in high school, college and pro are totally different..a lot of high school stars head to college and don't make it the way they thought they would
2. You had sex w/her you are a big boy who knew what he was doing..it takes two to create a child.....
2007-06-05 07:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by oOoLaLaiTzSina 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the beginning of another Pro Sports Star drama gone bad.
Geeze! Wake up kid, or this won't be the last of your "expensive misjudgments".
What should you do? What do you expect to see here? You can't force her to have an abortion. You can do nothing now but face your responsibilities as the father of her baby. That is, are you certain you are the father of her baby, or is there a chance someone else could be too? Just curious. It's not unheard of especially if you aren't "in love", which you obviously aren't with anyone but yourself.
Hopefully, your father will have a better handle on this situation and be able to advise you more effectively than those of us here on Yahoo Answers.
2007-06-05 09:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by nighthawk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, quit watching "Varsity Blues," "Rudy," and whatever other football movies you're watching. As of three weeks ago you were an out of shape, fat (by your own description), 250lb kid who hadn't played football in years, who wanted advice on getting into shape to try and make the Varsity team at school. Now that we've got that out of the way.....you had sex with this girl. She didn't get herself pregnant. Obviously she isn't after you for your (potential) money, because you aren't even on your high school football team yet. I highly doubt you were scouted out and offered a football scholarship by one of the top teams seeing as how you haven't played in "years."
You can't make her have an abortion or give it up for adoption. Here's what you can do. Be a man. Don't be rude to her, treat her with respect. Support her if it's needed. Oh, and here's the best part, be a good father to your child! Ready or not, here it comes.
Listen to Kenny Chesney's, "There Goes My Life." Everything isn't all about you hun. Best of luck.
2007-06-05 07:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by duckygrl21 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because your girl is going to have a baby, your life won't change. The thing is that you got a little more responsibilities to take care. You can still leave your life like anyone else, but you got to leave them with a little less fun because there is a baby way which is going to need a lot of attention. Also, both and your girl need to sit and talk together; then, y'all talk together with both of y'all parents together in the same room. Trust me, things will eventually work, no matter what people say; ah yeah, don't stop playing football because you are doing something that people notice you for, so keep your head up, because things have only begun
2007-06-05 07:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Own up to your responsibilities and be a man. You HELPED create a child, now you need to take care of him/her. Having a child doesn't ruin your life, yes it may set things back a little but it will not STOP your plans. At 17...your GF is taking a step forward in life and making herself responsible for her decisions, kudos for her. Regardless...if she decided to keep the baby, you have no choice. You can be a woos and leave her and be stuck with child support I hope or stick around and be there for your GF and help raise your child. Either way, DO NOT LISTEN TO YOUR PARENTS!!!! This is your decision and hers and as for reasons why it happened, it was simpley because you guys were NOT CAREFULL. I was 18 when I had my daughter, my life I see is a lot better WITH her in it than it ever would be without her in it. I never thought of giving her up and if I could go back, I wouldn't change a thing!
2007-06-05 07:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it wont stop your scholorship..you will need to work like crazy now..to pay child support
she gets to chose, not you, get a paternity test after baby is born..
have you already got your scholorship?
you may find the baby is the best thing that ever happens to you, remember ever town has the best line backer..few make it to pros..but Ive known two that did...and it can happen,..you are going to just have to make it happen....along with a baby
BTW//when you had sex....you took this risk...
esp if unprotected..and I dont care if she said she was protected...you job to protect your self....
Your dad and you need to not make excuses for YOUR behavior...if you did the deed...and planted the seed...it is YOUR responsibility...quit the belly aching..get a job..bank the money..no more goodies for you, set it aside to pay child support while classes are on..and then do this for the next 4-5 yrs til you make the pros...
I dont think unless you are rolling in the bucks...and dont need the scholorship anyway..she did this for the money..you may have at some point...WHO cares that u are known as a line backer...you wont be known as a real MAN..unless you quit acting like a vain butt, and act like a man
2007-06-05 07:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by trudi100 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok first off you need to get over yourself bud! You don't think your girl is scared? Especialy with how your acting- ya know she's not the only one that had sex- you were the one that got her pregnant. Its called wrap it up if you don't want a baby. You need to tell your Dad that you 2 made a mistake. Of course she doesn't want an abortion, they are very traumatic. Its a horrible feeling to kill life inside of you.
Sounds like you need to stand up and be a man- you thought you were man enough to have sex, well guess what - you got what you wanted to be a man- so make her feel a little more reassured like your there for her.
Quit being so selfish.
2007-06-05 07:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by 4Real 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well you didnt care when you were havig sex with her about using protection so why should she care what you want now??? you can still go to school and have a great life the only difference is that you're going to be a father!!! now would be great for you to grow up and instead of worrying about you wanting her to get rid of it start helping her.... what!! do you think its easy for her to have had this happen? shes probably freaking out as much as you are also. but she s doing what any mother would do--- love her child no matter the situation... at least you have money and you'll be able to provide for the child. good luck with both school and your kid. i hope you grow up and just enbrace this, its already happened and theres nothing you can do except own up to it and do whats right by you.
2007-06-05 07:42:23 · answer #9 · answered by emerald 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you had sex and can't take care of what happened that is a shame, you have no right to tell your gf to get an abortion or to give up the baby, you shouldn't have had sex without protection, that is your bad, about you wantting to play yoru little football well its up to you but you should be a real man and step up to the plate at which you created, you and your dad need to stop thinking of yourself's and your dumb money and help out your unborn child, and if not chop off what you dont' want to creat, why have it if you can't deal with your problems?
2007-06-05 07:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by L.R. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋