Women....has your husband ever???

Question

Said something so hurtful and stupid to you (about you) that you can't forgive him or forget he said it?

I have tried to be the bigger person but I have told him it will take a while for me to feel better about myself after what he said so therefore it is hard to feel good towards him

Answer 1

Yes, but unfortunately I have done the same thing so I guess it negates what he has done.

All people will open their mouths and allow stupid, hurtful things to fly out without any regard to the recipient. It's called being human. Find it in your heart to recognize that you have probably done the same and go on.

Sandy :O)

Answer 2

YES. Forgiving is different than forgetting. I personally have found it impossible to forget. Forgiving is easy, especially if you feel the person only said it out of anger, but those words linger in your mind, even when you try to make them leave......they stay, haunting.

I have never been able to forget the hurtful things that have been said to me by anyone, not just my ex. That is why I always choose my words carefully so that I never say anything I don't truly mean.....because as it is said in the Bible, the tongue IS a double edged sword. Once those words leave your mouth, you can NEVER take them back.

Answer 3

Yes, me and my husband are newly weds and he says hurtful things to me a lot and makes me feel horible about myself most of time, I guess its just a man thing. My husband is sweet and then 2 seconds later he shows his other darker meaner side, it makes me mad because I hardly ever know what is gonna come out of his mouth next. So I know exactly what you mean watch a good movie and eat some chocolate and when he trys to talk to you even to say he is sorry or whatever, continue looking at the TV as if he wasnt there works for me. Well most of the time anyway. Good Luck

Answer 4

What was it?
Not my husband but my ex-"best friend" said something to me that made me question 15 years. She is no longer in my life.
It wasn't just the saying it: It was the understanding that the person believes what they're saying and they are unreachable.
I may be way off in your case but that is what upset me. Not the actual words.
What she said, made me want to "fix her" and show her things are better than she feels.
Could you give us a little more details? I'd like to help.

To lover: I'm sorry to hear of your relationship and how your husband behaves. Unfortunately, what you described is unhealthy. Eventually, it may even widdle away at your self-confidence without you even noticing it. Be careful. Negativity is like a poison and will ruin everything around it.

Answer 5

YES! I had a hard time getting over it so I reversed it and would tease him about what he said to me in front of other people. The tables were turned he was humiliated and embarrass at what he said to me because of the comments people gave him in response to his comment he made behind closed doors at me. He hasn't said anything mean since. Does this make sense? I tried writing it but it doesn't sound right.

Answer 6

alot of times men (whether it be your spouse, partner ..whatever) come out with stupid hurtful things and then they get over it and move on like nothing even happend., where as the woman takes it to heart, more sensitive...and can't forgive or forget~*
I would be sitting him down and letting him know what he said to hurt you so deeply*

Answer 7

Ok I have to say this from a mans point, there is a lot of things that we say and or do, and yes sometimes its meant to hurt you, brake you down, and sometimes its just stupid out of the fires that burn us about you women, but you have to keep in mind that you love us and "even when we say we don't " we really do..lOVE YOU .. so unless your looking to leave him over words its a cold cold world out here when your all alone in it........ so forgive him and move on with him...

Answer 8

Be the bigger person. You are an adult and you are not in highschool. Excersise healthy communication skills instead of holding a grudge , which ultimatly, will lead to disaster.

Answer 9

The real question here is whether what he said was true. Is that why you cant' forget it?

Hopefully you can take this information and really think about it and use it to better yourself if it is true.

Answer 10

My husband soon to be ex, once told me that although I am very beatiful, I was the UGLIEST person he ever met in his entire life..LOL I can laugh about it now because I was just a ********* to him. So that's a mere opinion. OH and recently he called me fat a.s.s. Ummm I'm 5ft and 110lbs. DAMN I'm Shamu...This is coming from a man who looks 7 months pregnant. So I'm happily waiting for our divorce court date : )