How can I have tell my parents they need to give me more space? (an adult answering this would be best)?

Question

I've also been dealing with weight issues where i have lost a lot and i'm happy with that. My parents are now trying to send me to a doctor the more they push me to go and the more they push me to eat. I get so depressed a cry hysterically and don't want to eat. How can I tell them to let me stop going to the doctors, don't push me, I'll do this myself?

Answer 1

They are only doing what they know,and thats making sure that there daughter is happy and healthy.Sometimes parents think that they ALWAYS know what's best for us,but sometimes its best for us to step back and let the kids do there job in figuring things out.In this issue its really big, and parents should step in.Leaving you to do this on your own may only may the issue worse.

Answer 2

I am not sure how old you are and what kind of space you are looking for. Obviously your parents care about you or they wouldn't be so involved. You need to remember that good parents WILL be involved in your life. Parents want what is best for you and sometimes when we see our children making choices we wouldn't make or making choices we had made and later regretted, we try to stop them. Sometimes it is hard to let our children grow up. We can't help it, so be understanding, parents are human after all and not perfect.

How much do you weigh? Are you "under weight" and that is why they are sending you to a doctor and trying to get you to eat more.....if that is the case, you should listen to their advice and also the advice of your doctor....
BUT....
If you are not under weight and the space you are seeking is more like privacy and NOT self destructive...I offer the following advice:

First talk to your parents about how you feel. Explain why you feel that way and what you want to do with the "space" you are seeking. I do understand that some parents are hard to communicate with so if you have tried talking to them and that has not worked out, if there is another adult you can talk to that can help you communicate with your parents that would be beneficial.

Hope this is helpful, for you.

Answer 3

I dont know how old you are but is sounds like they are worried about your weight loss and your lack of wanting to eat. Ask them to meet you half way, set out a plan, you do yourself a menu for a week of sensible eating, no missing out on meals thats no good for anyone, you get weighed on the Monday and the following Monday you get weighed again and providing you havent lost more weight then the trip to the doctors can be put on hold. It gives you a chance to prove to them that you are a responsible person and they probably wont push you so much. In the end they do it because they love you its not done to make you unhappy.

Answer 4

Your parents are concerned about your health. They are worried you aren't eating healthy especially if you lost weight so suddenly. Tell them you are happy and are more confident now that you have lost weight so they can understand how you feel. It's a good thing they want you to see a doctor, this proves they care about your overall health and want to make sure you are okay. You have to eat regardless of how you feel about going to the doctors. Doctors are here to help you. If you want your parents to stop sending you to see the doctor then show them you are eating healthy. Then they wont worry and they will get off your case. Good luck.

Answer 5

Put a plan into action, join a gym or some activities and present it to them. Tell them you are doing these things to acheive your goal weight but that you would like them to give you some space and let you do this on your own. I would then agree to go see a doctor with them if it becomes too difficult and you see no progress.
**A doctor might not be so bad in case it's a thyroid problem they also can give you great tips and addvice from a nutritionist, so don't knock it.

Answer 6

If you are an adult, than you should know already how to get rid of them. Tell them it's your life and you'll ask for help and opinions when you need it. Ask them not to offer it without solicitation because it drives you nuts. Now, if you are a minor, than you have to handle things differently. Tell them it makes you uncomfortable when they make such a big fuss over your weight. Tell them you are happy with the strides you have taken thus far to lose the weight and that you want to continue what has been working for you.

Answer 7

The best thing to do is to communicate with them and to act like an adult. If you want to be treated like on you need to act like one. Don't cry and throw a fit when your upset or angry, get a job or take on more responsibilities around the house.

When talking to them about your weight be make ti clear to them that the weight your at is a healthy weight. Do some research. Find your BMI (body mass index) this can be found by googling "BMI" and show them that your in the weight range your suposed to be in (hopefully you are).

Most importantly though be responsible, dont whine dont cry dont yell dont get angry just have an adult conversation with them.

Answer 8

In my opinion just reading your delima is it sounds like your are loosing weight but it seems like your parents may not have a clue as to why or how this is happening. Are you losing weight by not eating? Straving yourslef? or you just so "depressed" that you dont feel like eating? I am also am unclear as to what you want to do by yourself - draw yourself out of the depression state? I think you should talk to your parents or maybe the one you feel most comfortable with and tell them what the real problem is. I know it seems like they are being pushy and they may very well be but they sound like concerned parents wanting to try to "fix" their childrens pains/problems. Sometime us parents are so eager to "fix" the problem that we usually make things worse. You should be honest and open about the problem then maybe they will be more will to let you "do it yourself"

Answer 9

First, who is more approachable your Mom or Dad. Which ever one that is you need to go to them and explain how you feel and if that is too hard which I understand write a letter and leave it for them.

Maybe you don't understand why they have you going to the doctors or they don't understand why you don't want to go. The hardest thing about being a parent (I have a 16 yr old and a 2 yr old) is letting them grow up and make decisions for themselves.

Good luck!

Answer 10

There are some situations where parents should give their children space, but it sounds like in this instance your parents are concerned about your weight loss and what sounds like may be anorexia or some other eating disorder. Your parents love you and are concerned for your health. Your health is their concern, and this doesn't sound like a situation where you need "space".