My husband yelled at me for no reason in front of others, and of course I didnt like it. So I sent him to sleep on the couch since saturday night. how long should I keep him there for him to learn his lesson ?
Note: we've been married of almost 3 years and this is not the first time he does it, but is the first time I do something more drastic than just tell him how hurt I am.
2007-06-05 06:10:03 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i know we get to a point where we cant just let them know our feelings and do drastic things to them but we have too i mena if we let them go one inch forward they take it as one foot so yeha iv done that and i usually just let him sleep oout in our living room one time but he gets the point
2007-06-05 06:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound harsh, but you may have did him a favor sending him to sleep on the couch....if he feels he has to yell at you regardless if your in front of people or not, he doesn't respect you. He doesn't care if you make him sleep on the couch, its not going to stop anything....you've said it before that this is not the first time... Another way to teach him a lesson, when he is fussing walk off...don't say anything, just walk off... Remind him that you are an adult, you had parents who raised you and since thats not his job. Demand that this IS the last time....good luck....
2007-06-05 13:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by Lil_MissVal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Until he apologizes, keep his butt on the couch. If he finally does, you better look him straight in the eye and tell him he better never do it again or the next place he'll be sleeping is at his mommas house. One of the biggest No-No's in a marriage is yelling at your partner in front of other people. Argue and fight in private, not in public! You better get a handle on it RIGHT NOW cause it'll only get worse if left unchecked!
2007-06-05 13:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by SGT. D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree. Making him sleep on the couch is only going to upset him. What you SHOULD have done was kept your cool and tell him with his friends watching "Keep it up and you'll be on the couch tonight" and leave the room. I guarantee you the best way to get your husband to stop degrading you in front of his friends is to embarass him in front of his friends.
P.S. He's VERY wrong for doing that. A man should NEVER yell at his wife in front of his friends. That's almost as bad as cheating.....seriously....
2007-06-05 13:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by Eddie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ignorance is the best policy
Ignore him as you are doing so
he realises his mistake
he may not apologize its ego
but I am sure he will convince you to go to him
might be words
might be body language
its life
but once you get into bed with him the first thing you could make him understand you felt bad
never punish him
its an ego booster
2007-06-05 13:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by praksum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think that punishment will do? Nothing I suspect. Sleeping on the couch is not hurting him. You need to put your foot down and not tolerate his behavior again. He has no respect for you and you are a doormat.This is not how married people act towards eachother. Leave his controlling butt.
2007-06-05 13:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is sometimes important for spouses {hubby or wife} to do something to show how hurt we have been. I would let him stay there until he tries to come back and at that point let him but let him know that you missed him sleeping with you but he really hurt you and would be great if he didn't do that again.
2007-06-05 13:15:04 · answer #7 · answered by The Voice Of Reason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sleeping on the couch is like camping.
It not that great, but its not that bad either.
2007-06-05 13:57:41 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep up the good work! Clear and brutally honest commuincation will make your marrige really good. Make sure you sit down with your husband and have him explain why he felt the way he did, and why he did what he did.
2007-06-05 13:16:09 · answer #9 · answered by flyfish_777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going without sucks, he has probably learned his lesson by now, if not than he has a temper problem and needs some anger management.
2007-06-05 13:18:55 · answer #10 · answered by Joe H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋