Wearing diapers for me is an emotional need. I always have needed them at night for bedwetting ever since I was little. Now I wear them because it makes me feel emotionally grounded and safe and secure and content. However some co-workers know and they tease me. I ignore them but they still make mean comments. I don't want to tell my boss because I'm not sure if she knows I wear them. Plus I don't have medical reasoning for doing so. What do I do?
2007-06-05 06:05:59 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ People with Disabilities
The next time someone teases you about it, just tell them this
"It's hard enough that I have live with the fact that need to wear these, but your insults are huring me even more. Try putting yourself in my position. It could have been you. I would appreciate it if you would recognize all of this and stop the insults."
2007-06-05 06:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by Hestia 4 · 6⤊ 7⤋
I'm sorry to see you've not gotten much better response here than you did from your co-workers. That's too bad because this is where people come for help and support.
An emotional dependency on things like diapers is just as much of a real problem as a physical dependency on them. Your co-workers are guilty of harrassment and I think if I were you I would tell them so. You can always go to your HR office and file a report about it without being too specific and they will go into the work area and talk with people about what harrassment is and maybe that will take care of the problem.
You should not feel guilty about wearing diapers, for whatever reason, you have a need and you are fulfilling that need the best way you know how. You have no reason to be made to feel guilty. If you are living a happy and contented life and you are being productive at work and there aren't any other problems, then you have no need to see anyone about your wearing diapers.
It may be something that in time you may just stop doing because you don't need them any more, then again, you may not, who it is hurting that you wear them, anyway? Just do it and enjoy it and don't let those others get to you. They are probably just jealous that they don't have the courage to stand up for something they believe in.
You take care of yourself and relax and don't show any emotion when they tease you and they will eventually stop.
Good luck.
2007-06-06 17:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by wetsaway 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tiffany, as long as you don't have a medical reason to wear them to work and your co-workers are so totally immature as to tease you about you wearing adult diapers even though you have admitted that you can use the ladies room with no problem during the time that you are awake then you really should feel confident in yourself to wear regular adult underwear. Maybe if you could find some cute and sexy bikini panties or thongs that would help get you over the hump, but I would strongly suggest that you go see a shrink to get to the root of why you still have bed-wetting issues as an adult. Good luck with your loser co-workers, and don't pay attention to most of the people that did answer you in mean and hurtful ways.
2007-06-05 14:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
As for the coworkers, you can go to a Human Resources office in your town or contact ADA or the Department of Labor about workplace discrimination.
And personally I think if you have no medical reason to wear diapers other than at night than I think you should let them go. It seems like you are treating them like a security blanket because there was some comfort associated with them as a child. You may want to speak to a counselor/psychologist about this emotional need, and/or slowly ween yourself off them. Maybe you can wear panty liners, I think they have some deorderizing ones.
But whatever you choose, I think you really should ween yourself off of them.
2007-06-05 17:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you tell your co-workers in the first place? What did you expect? Face it, you are different. People don't like different things and feel uncomfortable. I can see wearing protection at night since you can't hold your bladder while sleeping or sleep so sound you don't wake up when you have to potty. But to wear them for secure reasons during the day when you KNOW you don't have an uncontrollable bladder and don't need them during the day. Sorry, but your co-workers are human, cruel, but human. You should have had enough common sense to know this and kept your little secret to yourself.
2007-06-05 06:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by Vida 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u r not clear / on your story / u say u have no medical reason to wear them / BUT!!!! / yet u say u have a bedwetting problem at night since u were little / that sounds like a medical problem / go see urilogist / to be sure no problem/ to begin with / how did ur co-workers ??? / find out u wear diapers / u will just ignore them /i know it will be hard / but this too shall pass / good luck
2007-06-05 06:18:54 · answer #6 · answered by hotdogsarefree 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Seek counseling. Your going to wear them and you don't want to be teased wear your diapers away from work. If your a big baby do a search for adult baby clothes and live your life the way you want, but seek help.
2007-06-07 08:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by RANDALL 5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok. I know how you feel and I am serious about this. Some people think your to old for them but you really aren't. Everybody in the world has some problem or disability and people don't deserve to be teased about it. When the people tease you about your problem do something. Like tell them it hurts you to hear them saying bad stuff about you and you and other people don't deserve to be picked on. Its just rude.
2007-06-06 15:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by ESCAPE THE FATE FREAK! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how your co-workers found out, but that's part of your problem. The other part is wanting to share this with your boss. This is not something that you share with a boss, just like other private things.
What you need to do, if this is a real question, is to develop better judgment.
2007-06-05 17:31:07 · answer #9 · answered by salsera 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should speak with your doctor about the fact you feel the need to wear diapers. As for your co-workers they are immature. It's sad to think that anyone who holds down a job is so immature that they feel the need to act so childish about your problem.
2007-06-05 06:12:47 · answer #10 · answered by Awdrat 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Ask them how they would feel if you started laughing at their big noses, funny accents, funny way of dressing, weird habits, strange beliefs, shortness, glasses, a funny sounding name, or any other attribute that they may have that would enable you to make fun of them. Maybe they are stingy. Maybe they are overly religious, or blab too much, or wear funny shoes.
If they laugh at you for something you cannot help, then you should laugh at them for something they do.
2007-06-07 07:31:03 · answer #11 · answered by Tom S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋