my ex boyfriends birthday was on june 3rd. he's with a girl now and shes either pregnant or has had the baby already should i send him a birthday card? well its in the envelope with a stamp on it already, all it says is "i dont mean any harm by this but i just wanted to wish you a happy birthday i hope your doing well and i hope the wifey and the babe are good too. happy birthday -me, i hope this doesnt get you in trouble because it shouldnt."
now i was with this kid for almost 4 years and they have been together well.... maybe 1 year.. she got pregnant when they had been together for 5 months.. if your b/f got a birthday card like this from his ex girl would you feel threatened?
i really dont want to cause trouble but it was such a big part of my life and i miss him, not as a b/f because the one i have now he couldnt even compare, but as a friend. i really just want to know he's still alive and doing good. so do i send it or not?
2007-06-05 05:19:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i really dont care to stir anything up, its been 2 years since we broke up. and ive been with my b/f for 1 yr now. and i wouldnt trade him in for the world.
2007-06-05 05:28:49 · update #1
melanie j
I HAVE.. is that hard for people to believe or something?
2007-06-05 05:34:14 · update #2
Ok hon you asked us to be honest. What it sounds like to me is you still may have some deep feelings for this guy. Not saying you want him back though. It took me 3yrs to get over my first love and it that time I was with someone else trying to make it work. I have been with my recent partner 6yrs now. Thank God they stuck beside me. I relized I had to give up contact because everytime I would have some kind of contact then it would stir up old feelings again. It was the hardest thing I had to do. I would tell myself I just wanted to see how they were and if they were still alive, but in the back of my mind I think I was thinking "I wonder if they still think about me" and by contacting them I would secretly find out. Make sense? So hon even though it won't hurt if you said the card but it may make things harder on the inside for you and it may be so subconsious that you may not be to aware of it. I am sure you love the man you are with now. As I loved the person I was with but I for 3yrs I kept doing the "what if, maybe and the should woulda coulda. It ate me up inside and I knew I had to get on with my life. I seen my ex about 1yr ago in a bar. We actually got along great but then I relized she was trying to hit and me and get me back. Oh yes I am gay case you look at my profile and think (her g/f)? Crap hit the fan. I was actually glad to see her because it made me relize even more that I couldn't stand her anymore but yet she wanted me back and couldnt' have me. It felt great. I really wish the best for you and if you still have wondering thoughts in the back of your mind then it will take time to get over it, possibly years, but you will see a rainbow on the other side. Good luck hon.
2007-06-05 05:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by heavenseyes98 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 22:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by kelchner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can send a card, but I would advice you to take out all the explanations. They are not needed and make life more complicated than nessecary. Ifyou send the card with nothing but: happy birtday!, wish you and your wife a party day! and then leave it at that, then you will do alright. then there is no confusion. you wish him a happy bd and them botha pleasant day. What else is there? if you talk about that you dont want to stir, what do they think of? stirring.... so don't. Just leave it at the card. go buy a new one and a new stamp too... ;-)
2007-06-05 05:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by freebird31wizard 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't send the card. Just let him go. His new gf might not like it. He has a new life now and you have a new life now. Just leave the past behind.
Trust me that will be much better.
So don't send the card.
I'm not very happy when I hear my bf talking to his very first ex. They are friends but I kinda feel insecure about it.
I hope I helped.
2007-06-05 05:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by ilzjux 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't feel threatened so much, but i would be kinda pissy if i were the preggers current girlfriend. you don't wanna mess with girls on pregnancy hormones, sister!!
tell ya what... if you really do just want to be friends with him, you really do just care how he is doing and about his life in general, then make sure you include HER in his life.
don't send him a birthday card. find out when the baby is born, or if it has been already, and send THEM a card congratulating them. address it to the two of them, and don't include any personal messages for him. if you want to be friends with him and not be a pot-stirring ex-girlfriend, then you have to accept the current woman. especially if she is having his baby...
down the road when you know you are more accepted by the babymama, maybe then you can send him a birthday card... but be respectful of HER man. you'd want the same from your man's ex, wouldn't you?
2007-06-05 05:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by tracii 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to understand that like you said he is with some other person now and also has a baby. His wife is the jelous type she might get a little mad. if she knows the kind of man she is with it should'nt bother her with you s4ending him a bithdat card. you said that you are with another person now and that you want him to know that you miss him as a friend and that ur guy now does'nt compare to him. I think that deep down in your heart you still love him no matter wat you wrote in the question. bottom end i think that you should send the card to let him know that you are still there if he needs a friend. maybe if you still love him even a little he may feel the same way about you.
2007-06-05 05:35:08 · answer #6 · answered by ARELY 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with sending him a birthday card, nor should his wife get upset.
2007-06-05 05:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont send it. Leave it alone. I understand what you're feeling but it's time to leave it in your past. I do agree that if you DO send it then you need to include the wife.
If you're happy with the man that you have, have you asked him how HE would feel if you sent it?
I say leave it alone.
2007-06-05 05:34:10 · answer #8 · answered by freed1one 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you end it with him or did he end it with you? if you ended it with him I wouldnt but if her ended it with you then i would just as a friend just as a nice thing to do. But if you ended it with him and you mail it. the card might send mixed feelings.
2007-06-05 05:30:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send it, but I wouldn't put a return address on it. I wouldn't get mad if my bf got one like that from his ex.
2007-06-05 05:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋