Why are people so quick to judge a suicidal person?

Question

They are hurting so badly they have no hope left.Depression is debilitating and an illness.So is cancer...but noone judges a person dying from that.
Major depression makes you feel dead already most of the time.

Answer 1

People are arfraid of those people. Just like people are afraid to even talk to a person with AIDs

Answer 2

Because I've been suicidal, I understand how scary this can be.

But, what I can judge is that a person who is suicidal wants to end the situation. It's just that they don't realize that most situations can be worked on and improved. So, when I see someone who is suicidal, I want to help them find that hope.

You're right about how depression is debilitating and an illness and how you feel dead. But I want to help that person feel like they have an opportunity to come back from those feelings. I think a lot of people want to help that person as well!!

Is the judgment criticism, or is it someone who wants to help the suicidal person find a way to come back from walking on the edge of the cliff? I think that if a person says crass or offensive statements, that is wrong. They should not judge, because they have not walked a mile in the suicidal person's moccasins. But I know that if I meet someone who is suicidal, I want stop them before they make an irreversible mistake. No matter how bad life can be, there is always hope. It's a case of helping that person find the hope.

Answer 3

Unfortunately, there's really no easy way to end your life without feeling extreme pain first. If you attempt, there is a 99% chance you'll just hurt yourself really really bad and you'll just end up in the hospital where the doctors will be upset with you and could refuse to give you any morphing for the extreme pain you're in, to teach you a lesson, just so you won't be tempted to harm yourself again. And then, you'll end up in a mental institution where you'll never get out and will be watched like a hawk, you'll never get any privacy. You'll eventually go mad because of lack of human contact after being in the institution for a while. Trust me, kid, I've had a friend whose tried to attempt and failed and it just made him even more miserable, plus agonizing pain. If you don't want to that to happen, then you should get help, while there is still time to get help. Talk to your parents, school counselor and/or teacher. One of them will get you the help you need to get back on the right track. I know being in this situation sucks. We've all been there and I know you're tired of hearing that we've all been there, but it's true. You're still very young and this cruel world needs you, if only for you to help make this cruel world a better place. The world can't get better on its own. Believe me, there's a lot of people out there that needs your help, too, just like you need others. Volunteer for a charity, any type of charity that is near you. Take care of the ill, do arts and crafts for/with kids, become a role model. You were born to do great things. Being a person whose destiny to do great things doesn't come so easy most of the time, that's why most people doesn't do it. But you, starting with you, you can be the world newest generation of people that will change things around here, even if it's only a little bit. P.S. Some people believe that when people commits suicide, it is said that those people that commits end ups suffering and feeling the exact same pain and sorrow they've been feeling when they were still alive; the only difference is, it's 10 times worst and it is for an eternity, so there's no way to get out of it. Think about it, there is still time to make you feel better. If you end your life now and if what those people believe is true, you'll end up feeling worst then ever and it'll be too late to change it. I hope you feel better.

Answer 4

maybe because those people who judge have no understanding of the illness....no understanding of the person. Some people believe that the person who is commiting the suicide is being selfish--not thinking about how their suicide would hurt their loved ones. Maybe people think that the depressed person didn't do enough to get help---maybe the depressed person didn't take their medicine or didn't get help. There are alot of opinions on this subject and different views from different people. If you are the one who is depressed I strongly urge you to see someone or talk to someone in your family. If not, then the person you know who is depressed or suicidal should be encouraged to get help.

Answer 5

because the people left behind by those who commit suicide are the ones who have to deal with their loved ones depression from now on. It not that people are quick to judge a suicidal person its just a form of illness which has massive impacts on those around. When you lose a loved one to suicide it feels like it was your fault as you feel like you could have done something to prevent it. Often there is nothing you can do but the "what if" thought never goes away.

I lost my first love to suicide just over 16 months ago and honestly i dont know if i will ever get over it, my life is on hold and i cant get over it. That is why people judge suicidal people it affects so badly they people closest to the sufferer.

Answer 6

I try not to judge anybody and I certain would not judge a person with an illness such as this. I have fought depression for some time but have just experienced the devastating depression you speak of thru my husband. He is going thru post tramatic stress disorder and is suffering from physical pain and suicidal depression. It is a life altering illness, and should never be considered a weakness or a disease that they have any control over.

Answer 7

I try not to judge ANYONE unless I am in a position to judge them (ie.. they murdered someone in cold blood or molested a child and I know this for a fact) but I think I can answer the question about why people do.

Its human nature to have that "survival instinct". This is why people try to "put right" what is going against that instinct by trying to convince people to not kill themselves. And then again some people are just a-holes.

Hope this helped!

Answer 8

I think that a lot of people are quick to judge because there are options out there for people who suffer from depression. Medicines, therapies, even rehabilitation programs can help you to understand and manage your illness better. And in a lot of people's minds, suicide is a cop out. You are saying I don't want to deal with this so I'll just kill myself. Cancer and depression are two totally different diseases. For almost all cancers there is not a cure or even an effective treatment, but again there are ways to manage and treat depression and anxiety.

Answer 9

Just so you know this is not true for all suicidal people. and you are asking for my opinion so here it is: People judge suicidal people because they think they just want attention. People who say they're going to kill themselves just becasue they don't like life or if a certain person doesn't like them or won't be friends with them is just a way for people to care about them. But really its just someone thinking "I am going to be the one feeling guilty if they really do kill themselves" why would anyone want to take their life away from them? Killing yourself is like the worst thing you can do.

Answer 10

They judge because they feel that the person who did it was extremely selfish to choose to die. They leave behind family & friends who sometimes have no idea why they did it or even knew what they were going through. It makes people angry that the person couldn't talk to them & try to explain how they were feeling.
On the other hand, that person is obviously going through something that they can see absolutely no way out of, they think no-one can help them & the only way is to end it. Its very hard on everyone involved.

Answer 11

"Suicide is not chosen, it happens when pain exceeds our resources for coping with pain."
Excellent quote, and what I would see as very fitting.
Unfortunately many people see suicide a selfish and cowardly, in fact it is not. It is the last instinctual coping mechanism we have, to save ourselves from further pain when we have no more ways to cope with it, we end the pain.

As society we see suicide as a chosen path and an a fatal illness as something we could do nothing to prevent.

A smoker could've significantly decreased the likelyhood of lung cancer if they had never smoked - Why isn't this treated as suicide?

For many people who chose to have unprotected sex with many people or random strangers and contracted HIV. If they chose to use protection or take more care in who they slept with they would never have contracted HIV - Why isn't this considered suicide?

We kill ourselves - high risk behaviour, smoking, drinking, drugs, sex, extreme sports, occupational hazards. But when that happens it's considered a bad choice, the hand of fate, an accident or "natural causes".

It's not suicide. But if you "choose" to take your life into your own hands and end it, that is suicide. Suicide is often associated with mental illness. Mental illness is not something we choose like smoking, drinking or sex.

I think there would be lower suicide rates if people knew how to understand a suicidal person better. Rather than tell a suicidal person their a coward or selfish we need to support and understand their decision and offer another coping mechanism so that they are not resorting to their last one.

For anyone feeling sucidal, please actually take some time and read this website first; finally, it is someone who seems to understand. This website has helped me in the past and I hope it will help someone else too. http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/