I'm 13 and all the boys I hang round with or know won't take no for an answer! Why??
2007-06-05 04:49:08 · 36 answers · asked by Mariah♥ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Boys love a challenge but if a boy loves you he will respect your wishes. You're worth waiting for, enjoy knowing you're too good for a lot of them.
2007-06-05 05:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by Dawn-Marie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand what u mean by wont take no for an answer. If they dont take no for an answer it means that they have sex with you despite the fact that u tell them 'no". Which means that they rape you.
If u mean that they are persistent in their requests for sex no matter how many times u refuse, then that is another thing altogether.
All I would tell u is to get used to it. Your body is probably now developing & you will be happy to know that from now until hopefully when u get old & bad-looking, u will have guys coming on to u.
They will do it in all forms. Some will be open & bold, others will be smart but with an ulterior motive.
My advice to u is to be smart & very selective ...& wait until u are a few years older.
Also be very cautious of who u go out with & the situations u put yourself in. It is best to talk to an older female u trust to advise u.
2007-06-05 05:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by Ethslan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to convince your parents to get you the book "Mars and Venus in the Bedroom" by John Gray. Have them read it first if they show resistance.
Its one of those "V8" moments for parents, if we had only known, how much better our adolescence could have been.
It talks about sex, and the differences between guys and girls in that respect, but not the physical issues, rather the emotional and psychological issues.
The brief answer to your question though is that boys WILL take no for an answer when it concerns sex, but only if that is the only answer you are actually giving. If your body language, the way you dress, the way you act are all saying YES, then when your lips say no, the boy will only get confused and take the side he wishes to take.
2007-06-05 05:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most boys and men are into one thing and one thing only - their own gratification and pleasure. For the most part - at least the younger guys don't care about anything but how they feel and what they want. It's a man thing honey. When you are young it's sex... when you get older its not only sex but material things. The best car or truck... the coolest bike... the best equipment for sports/gaming.The hottest girl on their arm....it goes on and on. There are a few guys out their I still believe that are decent. Good luck finding one... That's what I tell my teenage sis too.
But under no circumstance do NOT let anyone pressure you into anything you do not want to do.
2007-06-05 05:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women of the world STOP TRYING TO THINK LIKE MEN! You are trying to apply logic or emotion to something that in a man's (or in this case a little boys) mind is a purely physical thing. Men create sperm on an hourly basis where your creation is on a monthly one. Take what you feel and think how it would feel to be that way every hour of every day with no release!!!!!!!!! IT SUCKS!
But that doesnt mean the behavior is appropriate. If they wont leave you alone or manage to find a way to solve their problem, solve it for them by taking Jenny84's stance and insuring that they know you mean business!!!!
2007-06-05 04:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by coolhandven 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Budding Testosterone !!!
First off, you have every right to say no. The reason why girls should never be pressured into sex early is that testosterone in boys/men is what controls sex drive. Male testosterone levels are extremely high during adolescence and early adulthood....putting it simply....guys are just "walking horn-dogs." Men can also easily separate their emotions from sex....unlike women. If you are getting pressured from your boy - "friends", take pride in the fact that they consider you attractive enough to ask, never feel like you have to do anything...but don't expect a hungry dog to stop barking.
Respect yourself.
2007-06-05 05:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mr.Fun-TVandDrum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they won't take no for an answer it means you are not being assertive enough.
The boys must feel like you don't really mean it so they keep pushing.
So say it like you mean it and stick to your decision. Tell the boys that under no circumstances will you have sex before you are married and that if they want to be "real men" they should learn to control their passions. It's a sign of maturity.
2007-06-05 04:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by Veritas 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
'Won't' or 'Dont', there's a big difference. If they won't take no for an answer... too bad for them. But if they 'don't' take no for an answer... i am assuming that you are hanging out with these boys and allowing them to have sex with you because they don't care what you say... and that is abusive behavior, not to mention dangerous.
2007-06-05 04:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by ♫Mama of One♫ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Boys think that if they have sex that they are a man, but they really is just a loser, don't do it, and keep saying no, and if you have to say it too many time, just stop hangin with them and go hang wit, some other people
2007-06-05 06:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by Princezz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because that is all that they can think about, and they are dumb to want to go there. I also think that some of them hear other boys talking about it and they want to go there too, just to be the big shot and to be able to fit in. So they keep putting pressure on girls to give it up, even when they are not ready.
Stay strong and do the right thing for you, you will be glad that you did.
2007-06-05 04:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by Cindy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋