Isnt it hard to be a loner?

Question

I mean when you think about it - not many people choose to be that way because they obviously have trouble finding friends who are like them or whatever and it is challenging to go at everything alone and not have anyone for advice or guidance. I think being a loner deserves a lot of credit, especially for people who manage to still be successful.

Answer 1

I am a loner....after traveling for work over twenty years and staying in motels it gets kind of common place. Being alone is what you make of it. I would read, write and really developed myself into I think a successful person who likes to be alone most of the time. I was best man in 5 weddings and all but one have dissolved. When I think of that I am glad I did not have to endure the pain of losing a partner.
Don't get me wrong I am not an introvert I just have learned to enjoy bettering myself for my own self being. I am at peace and still enjoy going places and seeing others.
I have always believed you don't miss what you never had.

Answer 2

I agree. Being a loner was hard while I was still in school, but after that things changed for me.
I find that I love my alone time (which is most of the time).
I prefer to be alone. I do have a few friends that I get together with now and then and that is enough for me.
As for how successful I am, well, I believe I am successful as a person, but I can no longer work because of medical issues and even when I was working, climbing the corporate ladder wasn't ever a part of my life's goals.

Answer 3

It is hard, much more harder for others to understand. When people sees me, they don't see me as someone who's life is a little tougher than theirs, they sees a weirdo who's doesn't fits into anyone's social life.

But I think people who are loner usually tend to be more independent than others. They don't have any friends to turn to when they need help, they always have to solve their problems on their own. They don't need anyone's attention, they does things by their own and makes their own decision.

The downside though, is these people may not know how to deal with peoples very well.

They tend to be more naive. And yes, its hard to find a life partner.

Answer 4

I would hate to not have friends because they're all I got and a few of my family members. You are right we should give them credit but i wonder why they feel they have to push everyone away when it would be so much better for them to open up to someone that loves them. but some of them still do good it's just they don't have anyone to share their glory moments with.

Answer 5

it is hard but you put your self there so you work at it with all you being. i think it is harder to make friends and keep them. if you are a loner you only have to keep your self happy but with Friends you have other people to think about. i rather have friends than be a loner. it is a proven fact that people wiyth friends live longer!!!

Answer 6

i know what you mean. i used to be like the 'leader' person, who everyone went to with their problems, but people i was hanging out with started getting all bitchy and nasty, so was like "no thank you" and then summer came

and then the next year (this year) i found some new friends, just like 3 close friends and we just hangout with eachother, and sometimes it does get lonely..

but i just think that college is next year, so its going to be different, and people are going to be more mature, and not talk as much crap about people as highschoolers do.

Answer 7

Yes it is hard being a loner.
Sometimes I don't see another person for two weeks.
But it's very peaceful, no arguing or complaining .

Answer 8

of course it's hard!

i'm a loner....(:
sometimes it's just cos ppl are in their own cliques, and it's hard for them to be accepting of someone outside of their grp (AKA me)

Answer 9

I agree

Answer 10

Yes, it's hard.

You're very understanding.