Today is our 8th wedding anniversary. Last week we signed the settlement papers for a divorce. I am so sad about all of this - wish it was different. Counseling etc didn't help. We are in contact - emails, instant msgng, etc. Should I acknowledge that today is our anniversary? If yes, any ideas on how?
2007-06-05 03:23:52 · 17 answers · asked by echolaine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We do not have children, and the divorce is bringing huge amounts of pain to both of us. There is still much love there, but it isn't possible for me to remain married to a man who has shown me repeatedly that he is not trustworthy. Thank you all so much for your thoughts. I am awarding points to all great answers even though I will only be able to choose one 'best answer'. I appreciate your time and thoughts.
2007-06-05 04:47:37 · update #1
Send him an email or e-card thanking him for the good memories you have. Tell him that you feel some remorse that things didn't work but you wish him the best for the future.
Things will turn around for you both in the long run. You will love and happiness again. Celebrate a fresh start in the world, celebrate the good memories and try to remember that maybe it wasn't meant to be. You have a different path to follow, something better is meant to be for you.
Good luck and take care of yourself!
2007-06-05 03:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by great_expectations 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you loved him at any point, then yes. Send him a brief e-mail acknowledging the day that was once special to you. Divorce does not need to always end badly. Remember the good times and just agree that it was time for the both of you to move on. No reason that you can not remain as friends. I am sure if he loved you, he is thinking f this day as well.
2007-06-05 10:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by elb366 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kind of odd you are wanting to acknowledge the beginning of your life together while in the middle of ending it. I would suggest though if the 2 of you are still on fairly good terms maybe an anniversary dinner...not to celebrate the marriage but to begin a friendship. Its always easier to move on in your life if you have an amicable arrangement with your ex. Especially if you have children because they will always still be a part of your life. Good luck!
2007-06-05 10:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by linda m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still on reasonable terms, then I would at least acknowledge it. Eight years ago you both had the best intentions and surely there was a lot of love there. I would at least remind him and tell him you still wish him to be happy (if you mean that). Best of luck to you and sorry for your divorce.
2007-06-05 10:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will know this person for the rest of your life. Don't ruin it now by doing things that will forever ruin your relationship. I know that is hard to see at this point, but I am very good friends with my ex. Send a card, or a voice mail and tell him that you are sorry about the past, but that you wanted him to know how special the day you got married was to you and that you hope that you can be friends one day.
2007-06-05 10:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by Ranger D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I don't know what to tell you to do. The worst anniversary I had was when my husband was in the hospital and we almost forgot it. I don't think it would hurt anything to acknowledge it and at least let him buy you a nice meal.
2007-06-05 10:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by Ima Stressed Out 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, the anniversaries stopped the day the divorce was filed for.
2007-06-05 10:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you are on good terms you could just remind him that 8 yrs ago you had the best intentions for a life long of happiness and you're sorry for the both of you that it didn't work out.
2007-06-05 10:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by Luv2RIDE 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
e-mail, better yet call & say just that. It's our annerversery, I'm sad & I wish things were diffirent. Who knows, he might be feeling the same way. If he is arrange a meeting just as friends to talk about hte good ole times.
2007-06-05 10:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by shellysd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you are divorced so it no longer your anniversary. Stop torturing yourself and move on.
2007-06-05 10:30:09 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋