who's the head of your house?

Question

i belive that there should be one that always has the final word on a subject and thats my husband i like to try and be a surrendered wife .If the man and woman are fighting for top spot you get lots of arguments whats your view

some one has to have the final word like on what car you have holiday ect that shhould always be the man

jane my hubby respects me for being a good mum and a caring wife and he get all he want's in the bedroom from me all he has to do is ask he said this morning that i was the most beautiful amazing woman and he feels blessed to be with me

we are equal just have different roles in the house

Answer 1

I agree with you.

In our house, He is the head of the household but I am the heart of the home.

This works for US.

Answer 2

I don't believe there should always be ONE who has the final word on a subject. I think a relationship involves the two ppl committing to each other and coming to an understanding...not that one has more power over the other*~ but to each and their own. I don't know of anyone that fights for top spot in their household...and gets into arguments because of it.
COMMUNICATION TRUST AND HONESTY are the keys to a long healthy relationship* without those you have Nothing*~ goodluck* and ps..whatever works for you..if you're happy to have someone in your household have the final say..that's great*~

Answer 3

There really is no head of the household in our house, we are both equal. If we are getting a new car, my husband usually gets to have his choice, since I won't be driving it, If we are getting new furniture of any sort, I usually get to have my choice, since I am the one who stays home all day, while he goes to work. Strange that many people say the husband should be the head, because my husband always says the woman runs the house, since it is she who does most of the work, bringing up the children, seeing that everyone is fed , washes the clothes, makes sure all the bills are paid, and generally tries to see that everyone in the household is happy. My husband and I both pride ourselves that neither of us have "surrendered" to the other, and are truly a partnership, where both have equal rights.

Answer 4

After being divorced for 13 years I have a hard time letting any man have control over me. I have been with my man for 7 years now and he wants control but I am my own person and I feel I want to be friends. I already had a Dad and a Husband now all I want is a friend and lover who can communicate with me as a friend.We got along great until he started to tell me what to do and when to do it. I have children and 8 grandsons
and he tells me when I can see them and have them around.I dont think we will make it much longer in this relationship, because my children come first in my life.

Answer 5

We both are I think. Depends on the arguement.
When we were younger I would have to have the last word. We also argued more too. I could sure hold a grudge when I was younger. Now, it rolls off my back and I don't take things so personal anymore. Plus, we are much more laid back with one another now and really "know" each other.... how the other ticks. After 19 yrs we have hashed out our differences, so most of our arguements are little things that blow over quickly...like him snoring, what's on tv, ect.

Answer 6

I have to say.... What a load of bo11ocks! In my house we are equal in decision making. If its something that effects us both equally the the decision is equal' If it effect one party more than the other then the person it effect most has the final decision but the other persons vies are considered. My house is a balance, Give and take. Thats how it is be it in making the decisions, cooking dinner, anything really. I hope you find the benefits of a equal partnership.

Answer 7

If you like being a 'surrendered wife', then go ahead. That's your choice.

But it's not the choice *I* would make. In my house, the 'top spot' is a *jointly* shared.

I’d like to leave you with this thought: “Men are NOT smarter or superior merely because they have dangly parts”

Answer 8

if you have a child they have the last word like if you say oh lets get this kinda car and they say no it's yuk so you don't get it to make them happy so i think it's the child hehehe now and then but most of the time it should be both of you and if you still can't make up your mind put it in a hat and pick it out

Answer 9

Oh give me a break! Sounds as if you kiss his a** in every sense of the word. Beautiful indeed, he would say that because you are his slave IN EVERY SENSE OF THE WORD. Lol, but anyway, we are partners and we talk out any situation that arises. Good luck in the future, and no insult to you, i am glad you are happy.

Answer 10

Funny thing is I was just having this conversation with my 5 year old. I was telling him "I was the sheriff in these here parts and what I say goes." He just looked at me and laughed and then said, "No your not, your just the dad!"