Should children be thought about sex at a young age?

Question

I think children should be thought about sex at a young age.Currently,in our society sex has been kept as a secret.Because you have kept it as a secret the problem arises.For example,if you are having some secrets with your friends,the more you keep it as a secret,the more keen they will be to know what it is.In the society sex has been kept as a very big secret.Your parents know about sex,they have experienced sex,but if you ask them what sex is,they just ignore you and act as if they do not know anything about it.Why does a man want to see a women naked,why should he go to **** sites.The reason is from your very childhood what you see is everybody is covering their body with clothes.So the moment they start covering their body you are more eager to know what is there.This is the reason why men and women want to see each others naked body,they go to ****.Dont keep sex as a secret,cause your born out of sex.Teach every child what sex is,show him naked women or show her naked men then

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then there will be no problem.People will not become sex obsessed.Look at humanity,your poems,your statues,your movies,everything is sex-oriented.Stop branding sex as sin and teach every child sex.

I am not saying they should have sex at a very young age,but after they get older.The whole of humanity is obsessed with sex.HAVE RESPECT FOR SEX.Why is there so much rape,why because everybody is sex obsessed.TEACH CHILDREN SEX AT A YOUNG AGE THEN NOBODY WILL GET OBSESSED BY IT.

Instead you teach children values,you teach them religion,you force it on them.Then why not teach sex.Sex is more important than values.

Sex is something tough to understand.You tell them about about the penis,about sperm,how it will develop and also tell them not to have at a young age,because if you tell about sex they will start having it.When I say young age I do not mean 5 years old but ten.That will be the right time.People say if you teach them sex at a young age you wont understand sex,you idiots teach them mathematics,language,science,which is so difficult to understand,so dont just simply give an excuse by saying that they wont understand it.

Answer 1

I can only reply as a parent and as a person who was taught about sex at a young age.

If you introduce a child to sex slowely, it's not a shock. My parents were always honest about what sex was, but they never went further into detail until I was older.

There are books you can buy a child--"Where did I come from?" is one, for example. It is filled with cartoons explaning the penis, vagina, sperm, etc. It makes sex seem like a fact of life, not something that should be exploited.

In our society, sex is only a "secret" because people have used **** to exploit it. Nudity in itself is a very beautiful thing, but in this society we cannot look at sex beyond extreme pornographic frames.

And while I agree that children should be introduced to sex, I do NOT believe that it is a quick fix to anything. Even a child introduced to sex at such a young age could become a **** addict. There's nothing to say, no scientific research to prove that teaching a child earlier will rid them of their desire to explore more and more about the art of sex.

Answer 2

I think sex at a young age (unless in marriage) is completely wrong. For girls it's a bigger deal necause 1) it has a bigger effects on the body and 2) hormones are released when a girl has sex so she is attatched to the person she is having sex. I think it's ridiculous to say "yeah, if you're mature, go ahead!" Sex can simply be performed in the heat of the moment...and a younger person, no matter how mature, may not fully understand the implications of having sex. Seriously, what happened to morality and traditiona values? I sound really old, but I'm a 15 year old guy.

Answer 3

What exactly is a young age? Being a mom of 2 kids, the oldest 8, I know I will face this sooner than later, but for the actual act of intercourse I do not think my 8 year old girl is ready. As a parent you can read the clues as when is the right time, and I definitely want her to know before someone else tells her. If she asks me a question, I answer it. Honestly. At age 5 she asked where the baby comes out...NOT how it got there. I told her the truth. She asked me if it hurt, I told her yes. She said she didn't want to have a baby.....I told her that she wouldn't be able to have one for a long time. Her body needs to grow into a woman's body, she needs to be married. There would have been NO reason to tell her how the baby got there...she didn't ask.
We are a christian family and when I do tell her, it will be from a biblical view. It was created by God for 2 purposes.
She sees me naked, she has seen her brother, whose 5, naked. She knows what the parts look like. No big deal there.
A girl SHOULD learn about her period before the actual act of sex.
I am sorry if your parents did not sit you down and talk to you before your friends got to you and they wouldn't honestly answer your questions. Remember that when you are a parent.

Answer 4

I don't know where you live, but where I live sex IS taught in schools starting in 5th grade. That's the age of ten or so.

And frankly, I think kids are a lot keener than most adults like to believe. They know what's going on. They just don't talk to YOU about it. Even about sex. The juvenile grapevine is just as active as the adult one... maybe more.

I don't think there's an age when children should NOT be told about sex. The caveat is, of course, that what they are ready to learn and understand is less and less the further back you go. A two-year-old doesn't need to know about sperm and eggs... just that babies grow inside a mommy. But since ten-year-olds can and have become pregnant, at that age it IS important that they know at least some of the mechanics of how it is accomplished. If for no other reason than to avoid it.

As others have mentioned, knowledge is not a panacea for problems that may occur. But HONESTY and TRUST are criticial and precious things that every parent should try and foster as much as possible. If your child thinks you are holding things back, he or she is simply going to stop asking you questions. And who will then answers come from then?

I'd rather not find out, myself.

Answer 5

At what age are you talking about?? Young adults should be told but I disagree that young children need this information. It's not that it's all a secret. It's that it's a private form of communication and intimacy between 2 consenting adults. Children have nothing to do with it. People are always very curious, interested, obsessed, whatever you want to call it because it's something that's not talked about in the mainstream conversations with people. Just showing pictures of naked people to children will not make them understand sex and the important role it plays in our relationships. I totally disagree with you. I hope you don't have young children that have to be exposed to all that confusing stuff that they have no way of understanding at such a young age. Just my opinion you asked for....

Answer 6

It depends on how much & by whom ?

Initially children must be taught to refer to their private parts using such words which donot embarrass them as well as others. It is consider a taboo in many households.

Answer children honestly when they ask questions in simple language.

when they ask regarding any sensitive issue, donot evade the question try to give as much information as needed.
Children who live in rural areas learn certain factors regarding sex & delivery of puppies & calves by observing dogs & cows. They accept them as facts of living.

Now sex education has become compulsory, in high school level as a part of AIDS awareness program. The teachers are doing a good job. Though the students feel shy initially they overcome it gradually & accept the information.
We can be proud that it was from our country where Vatsyayana's Kamasutra has reached the western world.
because of the life style & social norms such openness has been accepted in the west. But in our tradition we give respect to sex education & would like to keep it as a secret & reveal at the right time.
You can go back to the starting sentence!,

Answer 7

This is a very touchy subject. Nakedness is different than sex, per se. Sex is the act. Nakedness is the being. I don't care if a little child runs around a house naked...sometimes they feel better this way, as long as their waste management is under control...otherwise a diaper. My kids have seen me naked on rare occations...its not a big deal--I don't make it a regular occurance, and I ask for privacy. They are comfortable with themselves, as I am comfortable with mine. But I also make it a point that my daughter should not be running around naked in front of older men. Its not appropriate. As a child gets older, and they see certain individuals naked, like mom and dad...it shouldn't be made an issue, per se..but it shouldn't be a situation that potentially confuses the child or potentially brings about the issues of pedophilia, or statutory rape. These serious societal ills are the reasons that we, as humans, have set certain sociatal expectations about sex, the appropriatness of topics provided to children and why we clothe ourselves in public.

The topic of sex, in my opinion, should be addressed with the child as the topics come up. I openly talk about MOST issues with my young children, but I do not talk about ALL, since certain things are inappropriate for their age. There are topics like bondage and S&M that a 10 year old SHOULD NOT be discussing with their same age playmates. Its not necessary. It is usually a WARNING, of potential sexual abuse, if they do. As a child becomes older, more complex issues come to the forefront to be discussed. My 10 year old is learning more about sex and I also am trying to also educate about responsibility....about pregnancy, the issues that come with getting STDs and shallow relationships. Its hard for many topics, since some concepts ( some issues of sex are extremely complex) CANNOT be understood or grasped until they are older--this is a well documented socialpsychological proven fact.

To counter-argue on your point about ****: Men seek out ****, not because they didn't see it or naked bodies as children, please. Men seek out **** because they are visually stimulated. And, there is such a thing as looking at too much **** to the point of obsession, distraction that effectually makes them sit at a computer instead of interacting with their mate, and it also has the potential of false expectations--where they see these beautiful women, and then look at their mate (who happens to be wonderful in many other aspects) and decides that because they aren't like these farie-tale sprayed & touched up pictures, to end their relationships. **** movies are the same way...they give a false impression of what sex and intimate relationships are really all about. But, if they are understood to be a visual aid...and that they are just a picture and just a movie...it can enhance an intimate relationship.

I do agree that we shouldn't make a healthy sexual relationship between parents/committed partners an issue with children, to the point of completely hiding it...to not engage in it...it is not something that should be engaged in, obviously, on the living room floor, during a family function that is watching the super bowl. If children accidentally walk in on mom & dad, or the bedroom door is locked...they understand something is going on...and it should not be something that is totally admonished or to be embarrased about...since it happens. But, it should understood that it is a loving act---it is adult play. But, to explain this to a 6 year old, might be more difficult than you think, without confusing them in the mean time. It should be something that is acknowledged but is PERSONAL between the two. Just like it will, hopefully, be personal between them and their mate, when they become responsible adults.

Answer 8

NOTHING need to to be thought as its a natural process, once the children grow up as adult they wil learn, only thing those time we need to keep a track of them and see that they don't become a victim of perverts.
what wil the child understand when u explain to them what is condom or sanitary napkin pads before the age of puberty. so think before making a general statement. don't try to corrupt children's mind, let the child be like a child
teaching maths, science subjects makes one person to earn his livelihood, teaching sex leads to population and u dont have any right to call us idiots, unless u learnt to read and write you wouldnt be sitting front of the comp now. teach children moral and educational value, do u think u r parents were thought to how to make s... to give birth to u?, it is a god given mechanism and it wil hapen for everybody at a right age

Answer 9

yeah. I totally agree. Children become curious and end up falling into a trap. Sex is not a sin. Sex is something pure and was created by God for a man and woman to enjoy. I think it's rediculous to try to shelter children so much to the point you ignore their questions. If they don't learn from you they will learn from somebody else and in turn come to a bad position.

Answer 10

I Agree of the Fact that Young Children must have known sex since from the beginning.i know some of my friend go to some chat room just to see some girls naked in their camera.this generation some people is just Greedy to have sex.