I stalled, and stalled and my beautiful girlfriend of 4 years brokeup with me. I am suffering enough as it, I dont need anyone else to tell me that I blew it. She just got sick of waiting for me and she told me she couldnt wait more and for my false promises, brokeup with me in January ( i thought we were simply taking time to think well) and married some ex-boyfriend 4 months later. Since she has been married, she has told me via email, phone, or messenger, that she only wanted to "be a wife, and be married." She contacted me each time. Says her husband treats her nice, but that she is still in love with me, missed me, and should have waited to marry me. However, she tells me she cant consider divorce as she just got married, but is confused bcs. she loves me too much.
As she seems to have married out of desperation and only wanting to be married, will she make herself happy? Is there any hope she will ever change her mind and get divorced? What should I do? I am too devastated.
2007-06-05 02:57:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, you waited TOO long! But at the same time, she jumped the gun, so to speak.
Her getting married, just to be married wont make her happy.
However, she's got to learn that there are consequences to her actions. She's married now and now she has to deal with that. Looks like she would have validated her feelings for you before she got hitched to someone else. I believe marriage is honorable and sacred between two people for the rest of their lives. I don't believe in divorce except for abuse or adultery cases. That's what the bible says and I believe it, so I don't know what else to tell you.
I do hope you recover from a broken heart. Best wishes.
2007-06-05 03:07:30 · answer #1 · answered by mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a big issue with women today...me being a woman i can speak with complete certainty. We all want to be married, the problem is we settle for the first perosn who asks us. That is not the way it should be. Patience is something that we all should hold is high regard and seek to obtain. No one should just get married just because they "want to be" married or want to have a wedding. Marriage is so much more than the wedding....it is the next day ...after the honeymoon is over...Sadly, she will not make herself happy because she still loves you...divorce may be an option that she will have to consider but that doesnt mean you have to wait until that day comes. Time heals all wounds. In time Im sure you would have proposed, when you felt it was right but now it is to late because she was impatient. She has to deal with her decision and , my advice to you is to move on..I know it is hard, but she made her bed and now she has to lie in it. If it was meant to be for the two of you, then over time, some events will have to take place in order for that to happen. If you leave your heart open waiting for her, you may remain the guy on the side and I'm sure you dont want that. Use your head and not your heart when deciding what your next move will be.
2007-06-05 03:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by onetel4u2love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a firm believer in marriage, and eventually I hope to be happily married. However, I would never compromise just for the sake of a title. It serves her right to be missing you. Acting on an impulse almost never pays off. You should focus on finding a way to live happily with yourself, and without her. Don't concentrate on why she left. If anything, concentrate on why you faltered so long and now feel you've made a mistake.
2007-06-05 03:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by Manda Nickel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She married for all the wrong reasons and is being dishonest to her husband. The guy deserves more respect than what he is getting. Eventually she'll end up in a divorce.
2007-06-05 03:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by Luv2RIDE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen it is considered as a sin in bible-to make any one divorced, but if she really loves you, and want you then she will definitely come back, but in that time don't try to interfere in there family matter. Else if she changed her mind you'll be counted as a fool.
2007-06-05 03:04:08 · answer #5 · answered by Jeen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She made a choice. Whether her reasoning was right or wrong, it's her life. You had your chance and obviously didn't love her enough to marry her so move on.
2007-06-05 03:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get away from it . you wernt ready she was and mif she loves you she wouldnt of married him . not trying to get you down but you really need to move on
2007-06-05 03:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by lildementedcountrygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋