My ex boyfriend the 52 year old came round yesterday night at 1 am, our baby was awake so he attending to her, he did't even speak to me the Whole night, if I sat near him he moved, at night he slept on the sofa, I asked if he wanted a blanket etc.he said no, but I did come back and put one other him as he was asleep.
In the morning the same he didn't speak to me at all, when he left I unlocked the middle door for him and took the baby, said say bye bye to daddy and went into the living room, he then left in a huff, left the door next to the front door open and went. aarh
Yesterday morning when I phoned him if we could be friends for the babies sake, because the tension is hurting me as it seems that he HATES ME! but before he slaped the phone down he say the problem is that he loves me, he doesn't hate me?
I dont understand, I thought being in your 50s you were more grown up, 40s is the midlife crisis.
Can anybody tell me why hes acting like this?
2007-06-05 02:38:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh yes we don't live together and hes older than me, old enough to be my dad.
2007-06-05 02:52:30 · update #1
It is very obvious that he is trying to keep his distance between the two of you. Not because he hates you, but like he said, he loves you. When you act kind to him, sit next to him and things like that, it probably gives him some kind of hope that things could work out and he fears letting his heart get involved with you again. By being cold and aloof, he is protecting his heart and does not want to let his guard down and have you hurt him again. I am guessing that you are the one the broke it off with him, but that is a guess based on what you have said. He probably has no idea how he can be Friends with you when he has much stronger feelings for you.
2007-06-05 03:03:01 · answer #1 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even at the age of 52 some guys are still immature. If this is the way he shows his love for you and his child, run. Run as fast and as far as you can, becasue when the day comes for him to act like a man, (which it already has), you can count on him to be nowhere in sight.
2007-06-05 09:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes 52 with a new baby. That would be hard to deal with, in your 50s your kids are supposed to be grown, moved out and on there own, not infants. It is a hard adjustment for him. I thought I was having a hard time with my now 39 year old BF and our 2 year old, hes other kids are teenagers. I couldnt imagine how hard it would be on your man. Good luck.
2007-06-05 09:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is trying to work it out in his head. Some guys are just like that. They go into a shell till they find the answers to whats troubling them. Just leave him alone & be there to comfort him. Don't bug him for answers or ask whats wrong, for he dosn't have the answers yet. Don't try to bring him closer to you either. No pressure at all. Just give him his space.
Take comfort that at least you & the baby are in his thoughts.
This is going to be very hard for you to do, but don't take it personally. He's not doing it to hurt you. He'll come to you when he gets the answers.
2007-06-05 10:00:12 · answer #4 · answered by shellysd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is mad that he loves you. Simple as that.
Being 50 or 100 doesn't mean your grown up.
He wants to love you, but knows he can't, and that is driving him nuts. Right now he is like a time bomb, let it defuse a little, and he get over his attraction to you. Then you two can be friends, careful thou, it may blossom into something more.
2007-06-05 09:46:12 · answer #5 · answered by David G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being mature doesn't mean you don't have feelings. He's entitiled to be distraught or even depressed. What is it about his behavior that you find immature?
2007-06-05 09:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is still in LOVE with you dummyâ¥. At your ages, love is nothing to toy with of take for granted. He is hurt and wants you back. HELLOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
2007-06-05 09:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think both of you should be mature, this child needs two mature parents.
2007-06-05 09:43:37 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is an immature freak. tell him to get over it and move on!!!!
2007-06-05 09:46:20 · answer #9 · answered by SWT 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk it out
2007-06-05 09:42:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋