there is this women at my work, she is married, she is always changing her story, one minute its she only lives with her daughter, the next minute its, her husband is back in the house, then its he comes and goes but doesnt sleep there, then now she says she is trying to get him out of the house. she claims she is going through a divorce, one minute she wants the divorce, the next minute he wantsit, what the heck is wrong with this women?? we have gone out twice and every time i question her on things she looks defensive? any advice is welcome?
2007-06-05 02:29:13 · 12 answers · asked by louvandam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Getting divorced is a huge deal. Divorce is not only painful but draning. If you really like this woman be patiet and maybe she will come around. About her changing her stories all of the time. Have you ever thought she was lying for attention or has though of cheating on her hubby and, decided to back out and thats why her story has changed. Whatever the case I would be careful if I where you. O yea if she is REALLY getting divorced maybe you should give her some time to accept it you dont want to be the rebound guy. Good Lucky
2007-06-05 02:40:59 · answer #1 · answered by Brandie L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave this women alone! She is already confused and you are making things worse and confusing her more. She obviously doesn't even know what she wants right now and I would tell her that you're taking a break from it until she knows for sure. and when and if she does figure it out you will see a great deal of change in her. The proof of it will show. But you being in the picture and in volved in soemthing like this means you don't think much of yourself and that you are setting yourself up to fall and hit hard. Back off - timing is everything! No more dates til' the divorce is final! Sorry but it's the right thing to do and the best thing to do for her mind and so that she can figure it out for herslef without having a charming man at her side convincing her life would be better off with out him. Let her make that decision. It will only make the relationship between you and her stronger!... Trust me Oh by the way one of you may have to seek a different job - never get involved with someone you work with!!!!! Too late now You'll learn as you go and from your own mistakes. Take care!
2007-06-05 02:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run as fast as you can! This lady sounds as if she has some serious issues. Perhaps her story about her husband moving in and out of the house is true, and she is confused about what she really wants out of the marriage. It could also be that she is just a congenital liar, and just saying these things because she wants sympathy and attention.If she looks defensive when questioning her on things, I would say it is probably the latter! Either way, do you really want to get involved with someone who lies to suit her own agenda, or who is unsure of what she really wants? Obviously, it is your choice, but I would seriously distance myself from a relationship with her.
2007-06-05 03:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by sparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY VERY VERY FAR AWAY! This woman has no clue what on earth she wants, that is obvious by far! I am sure the hubby is moving in and out, as she says. And I am sure there are days she wants a divorce and days he wants it. Her poor kid! You do NOT need mixed up in anything like this at all. A relationship like this could go on for years, hubby there one day, gone the next. IF you really like her, tell her to look you up AFTER the divorce is final. Your best bet though is to just tell her you don't want involved in her personal life and leave it at that.
2007-06-05 02:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by mrsmommaid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either she's simply cheating on her husband and doesn't want you to know the real story OR she's got a lot of drama and confusion in her life. Her story is far from being impossible. Maybe part of her wants to save her marriage.
Either way, I wouldn't mess with it.
2007-06-05 02:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this lady has too much drama going on in her life. Do you really want to get involved with all that? Best of luck to ya.
2007-06-05 02:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by mel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This woman is a walking soap opera, even if she becomes divorced and single I'd give her a wide berth.
2007-06-05 03:21:49 · answer #7 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from this mess of a woman, you are only asking for trouble if you continue to see her...
2007-06-05 02:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go out with her. She has too many issues that you should get yourself involved in. Aside from that she is married!!!
2007-06-05 02:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by Schwinn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you going out with her? Tell her you like her, but you have enough drama in your life. Tell her to call you if/when she is available.
2007-06-05 02:32:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋