Okay. I've known my best friend for 15 years. we dated a little in highschool just never worked out. He was a player and played me. He has long since changed. We know each other inside and out. He finally realized in april when i had my official big wedding that we are ment for each other! I would never cheat on my husband so we are strictly friends. the problem is I am happiest when i'm with my best friend. All my husband and i do is fight. He is disabled and when we married it was agreed he would be mr. mom. Well that isn't happening. I go to work and he also expects me to take care of the house and cook dinner all the while he is home all day. I don't know what to do! please help!
2007-06-05 01:57:58 · 13 answers · asked by catdogpenny 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i understand the grass isn't always greener, i only knew my husband seven months before we got married! So i know i rushed into it. no wonder his past relationships didn't work!
2007-06-05 02:06:57 · update #1
wait. He was a player up until a couple of years ago. Both of us just didn't make a move for the other for fear of loosing our friendship. I've tried talking to my husband once a month since we got married and he won't change! he's stubborn andonly thinks of himself.
2007-06-05 02:33:06 · update #2
You are going through the exact same thing I did.
I got married too quickly to a man I thought I was in love with. My parents pressured me into it because I was pregnant and due in May--my wedding was in January.
3-4 months after the baby was born it was like our marriage was dead, and I started having feelings for my best friend, my current boyfriend. When we confessed that we both had feelings for each other, he wanted me to seek a marriage counselor. I didn't do that, but I did try to make things right with my husband myself, and it didn't work.
Now I'm with said best friend and I'm happy, but I won't ever be married again.
My advice to you...yes, you got married too fast, but give your man a chance. Tell him you're unhappy and see if he tries to change it. Try going to a marriage counselor if you need to. If you communicate with him and he still does nothing to satisfy, it's probably safe to say find an attorney.
2007-06-05 02:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all congratulation,,wish you can lead a well,loving existence with Ur husband. See u love your pal and that's very well intent peers love and take care of each and every different,,and there is not any damage in that. But to depart the whole lot at the back of and walking after Ur pal is whatever now not compatible,, now u have a brand new existence plus a brand new tasks. I'm sUre that Ur pal will realize quickly that Ur main a totally new existence,, so do not think responsible intent seeing Ur pal as soon as a susceptible is simply too well,and whilst she married she'll realize the entire stuff from being a wake the entire night time :) ur pal unhappy intent she felt as wasting you ,, however think me the whole lot will difference quickly.
2016-09-05 22:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Admit that you made a big mistake and then do something about it. You need to go and get a divorce before you get pregnant and bring a poor child into the mess you have made of your life. I would suggest marriage councelling but I don' t see the point. You are already dissatisfied with your new husband and you realize that you are in love with your friend and not your husband. Cut your losses now and get a divorce and go get your love. From now on promise yourself that you will put a lot more thought into your decissions and avoid any more huge life altering blunders. Good Luck
2007-06-05 02:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My opinion is you are way immature to be married or in a serious relationship such as marriage. As for your "Best Friend" he wants whats not available. This way he doesn't have to commit. You need to grow up and start putting forth some effort into your marriage. The grass is not always greener on the other side dear...
2007-06-05 02:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my eyes, youv'e made your bed, now you have to lay in it.
And take a long hard look at your best friend, has he really changed that much....you said your self, he's a player who played you before, what makes you so sure he aint still doin it.
marraige should be a life long commitment, sure, some things are not ment to be. But think long and hard, before you make any more rash decisions, like you already have.
2007-06-05 02:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by mark d 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take a step back and really evaluate the situation. You need to break up with the man you are marrying if you love another. October isn't here yet so you have time but do something. You owe this to yourself.
2007-06-05 02:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dear friend you put your self in fire while you love your best friend why u married mr mom .my dear god when creat humen man is man woman is woman if you are muslim a real muslim respect your huspand because he must be your best friend as he will be your children daddy and let hım to be mr huspand .dont follow devil no one no religion allow to married one and love another .sit with your self if you can change your mind and live with your huspand cleanly pls do if not i think devorce is best way dont hurt your self and dont hurt your hasband feelıng ,if you feel the same feeling it will be so bad ..
2007-06-05 02:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by shan 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you are with the wrong person you will just resent your husband if you stay with him. Think carefully about what you want. If you are in love with someone else you can't be happy with your husband.
2007-06-05 02:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
that so called best friend don't love you ,he wants to play you again. BE WISE.It is your duty to care of your husband and your home.
2007-06-05 02:26:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
things happen for a reason. i would say follow your heart , but make sure what ever decision you make you feel 100% happy with.
2007-06-05 02:05:06 · answer #10 · answered by pitbullmom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋