Does she love me?

Question

I asked my first question in thsi forum about whether the lady i like really LOVES me or is she after permanent residency. Now 8 months later and seeing each other everyday it is very strong between us...2 nervous, anxious creatures we are waiting. Waiting for what??......she wants to sign up lease with me, start a family on top of her 2 kids she has back in Nepal and be with me all her life. She texts me like 30 times a day on average and even though we cannot communicate the best because of language barriers we try. I travel to her like over an hour driving a night to be with her....she demands i come to see her or ELSE!!!!!.......i am getting counselling for depression and bipolar disorder but stilllllll working fulltime in IT and tryign to cope. The pressure is mounting...i am lost by myself.....she is their waiting for me...she has spent more then 30K dollars on immigrqation courts..cannot stay here i think.....mmmm.....i am not rich..i have bills to pay...i cannot go to nepal.

Answer 1

I am not so sure that this is true love. You need to be very, very, very, very careful if you suffer from depression and bipolar disorder. You may have a tendency to depend too heavily on her affections. This is a big decision. I would talk to people close to you--people you really trust. If you are "lost by yourself," you will be lost with another. This woman cannot become the source of your happiness and fulfillment. You will be entering a very difficult life with her and all of her children. It will not be paradise---It will be a lot of work and stress.....

Answer 2

Love is a wonderful thing, and it certainly does appear that you two at least have very strong feelings for each other, which is one indication.

The one comment you made raises a red flag to me, and that is the comment that she DEMANDS that you come to see her, or ELSE!!! Or else, what? If she is in a position of demanding, or you feel as though she is, you may have to investigate these demands, and determine why she is being so forceful.

I think you have given yourself ample time to discover one another, and with seeing each other every day for 8 months, that appears to be lengthy enough to at least get a good feeling of how she feels about you.

Perhaps she is feeling the pressures as well as you, to have a family and have a functional relationship. Women don't want to be strung along for a lengthy time without knowing the outcome, or if there is a future for you two.

One strong suggestion I would make, if you do intend on marrying her, is that you don't have children for at least a couple of years, because you will need the first few years to spend time developing your own relationship, and getting to understand each other. If you have children immediately, it will only add more dynamics and complications into your relationship, if you have had the time to get to know each other fully.

Good luck, and I wish you all the best.

Answer 3

Only you know if she loves you...Do you feel like she loves you?
If you are asking us on these boards, then you really need to ask yourself why. It sounds like you have legimate reasons for doubting her. If its love, then there is no need to rush anything, right? Try the test of time and see if she is still around. This should tell you if she is looking for residency or to be with you.
You should not make any major decisions while going thru a major depression. Get your self straight and dont get pressured into doing something this serious, as you may regret it later. Explain to her that you need to straighten out some things for yourself first. If she loves you and wants what's best for you, she will understand.
good luck

Answer 4

I suggest that you slow things down a bit and don't make any hasty decisions about marriage or anything. Continue to receive counseling for your bi-polar disorder. This is most important to you at this time. I am concern that the woman you have fallen in Love with is very demanding that you see her every night. She is to controlling. That may not be something in your best interest. She will eventually control your Life, Money, friends, family and your every movement.

BEWARE! before you say "I DO".

Answer 5

Honey, it sounds like she's waiting to swoop in while your defenses are down and get you locked in. I don't think that she loves you, from the short description you gave of the situation. If she loved you, she wouldn't DEMAND that only you spend the gas money to go see her, she would be willing to do what ever she had to do to be able to see you as often as possible, if you couldn't afford to be the one always traveling. What you need to do is find a support group, IRL or on line, of people who are bipolar. Apparently you are in a pretty deep depression, and now would be the time for her to play on your emotions and lure you into marriage. In all honesty , I think she is USING you!

Answer 6

Love is love

Answer 7

Love is not demanding. If she really loved you she would be very understanding if you are unable to to see her. Your instinct is telling you that she wants your residency, otherwise you would not be asking that question. You don't sound very happy with her and what happens when you get her with you and things turn even worse. You might want to think about ending it. You can find another woman in life. You don't need a woman to survive. You are looking to someone else for your happiness. You can only make yourself happy.

Answer 8

if she is doing this just ignore her and break up u will find another girl that will be better

Answer 9

You should answer this question yourself,If you still don't know that she lovesyou or not...So forget your obsession!

Answer 10

i hate to burst your bubble but NO WAY DOES SHE LOVE YOU IF SHE IS ACTING LIKE THAT AND NOOT EVEN THINKING OF WHAT YOU WANT!