i have got a friend who is pregnant but is not ready for it.she wants to go for an abortion.?

Question

i would like to find out from other girls/women who have been through the same situation of aborting and the effects they experienced.

Answer 1

I am not against abortion. When I was 17 I got pregnant from an abusive boyfriend, basically well....forced himself inside of me. It was a terrible relationship and I couldn't imagine him being the father of my baby...because of his abusive nature.

With that said, I still, to this day, 10 years later, especially after I had my own beautiful baby boy...it became even more of a regret. I am pro-choice all of the way but to this day, I regret it daily and shed so many tears that I terminated that pregnancy. To this day, I always imagine what he/she would have looked like, and to the day, I have regreted it, every single day, and I will for the rest of my life. Once again, I'm pro-choice but I will never forgive myself and wonder if God will ever forgive me for what I did. It will stay with me forever. Dreaming about he or she, wondering what kind of little girl or little boy he or she would have been, what he/she would have looked like....it's just not worth it.

Once again, I'm pro-choice all of the way...I made my choice, and I regret it. It's made me eternally sad....for the rest of my life.

Even though I think my situation called for it, It doesn't dull the pain that I experience every day, looking at my new son, thinking I took away a life. I hope she doesn't do this. I don't think she knows how heart breaking it would be. Maybe not at first, but once she has a child of her own, when she's ready, she will look at her new baby and feel an enormous amount of regret. That's just my story, my opinion. I hope she doesn't make the same mistake I did.

If she's really young, in her teens, well....It's hard to say what she should do. If she's in her twenties, then my opinion is she should keep it and I guarantee that she will regret it if she aborts it.

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This story has touched me so much. Please let me know what she decides to do. I would really like to know what happens. Please keep me posted, if it's too much trouble. I can totally relate to this, and I'm sorry this happened to her.

Answer 2

Oh no! not abortion.Don't u knw that it have some effects? I hav read in one article that after abortion,women can suffer a range of mental & psychological problems.It will also have effects on future pregnancies. Pls if she dont knw about the effects after abortion,then advice her not to do it.She will just suffer for it once the abortion is not successful. Better u search about the effects after abortion & share it to ur friend.

Answer 3

I have never had an abortion, and unless I am raped, never will. I have had a miscarriage, 5 days ago, and that really hurts! My husband and I are very upset, but we are still young and can keep trying, there are so many couples out there that would love to have a family - please ask her to go for the adoption route, if she is capable of looking after herself for at least 9 months to ensure the baby is healthy! She might not be ready now, but there are so many families out there that are, pleas help them!

Answer 4

I haven't persoanally been through it but I think most abortion clinics do offer counseling also or can tell where to get it.I suggest careful thought,gather all information, consider all factors and things that can be done,make an intelligent and informed decision that you can live with and one that is right for you.

Answer 5

I haven't been through the same thing as your friend, but I do hope that maybe some one can talk to her about giving the baby up for adoption. Everyone has the right to choose, but seems like it would be better!

Answer 6

depending upon were you go its a very safe procedure that shouldnt be tken for granted! there arent many effects!

Answer 7

PLEASE MAKE SURE SHE GOES ABOUT IT THE RIGHT WAY . HAS SHE NOT HEARD OF BIRTH CONTROL PILLS OR CONDOMS ? NOT READY FOR A CHILD , BUT READY FOR SEX .SELF CENTERED AND SELFISH ARE THE RIGHT WORDS.