Is marriage sure to succeed when at least one partner loves unconditionally, meaning they will never say/think things such as:
I love you if...
I love you when...
I love you except you do such and such...
Or do you think BOTH have to love unconditionally otherswise the marriage is destined to crumble?
Unconditional love is that love likened to a mother loving a child that only a mother could love, and I believe it is possible to love someone unconditionally provided you stop thinking about your selfish needs for the rest of your life and are able to forgive always and show mercy always no matter what wrong they cause you.
Never assuming and never speculating, always trusting, always believing.
So one or both?
2007-06-05 00:30:09 · 13 answers · asked by Sweet n Sour 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Both is sublime, one is okay, and nothing on this earth is "sure to succeed". But unconditional love is a VERY good start. You should never put conditions on love.
2007-06-05 00:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by justme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you consider a success. There are many marriages where for the sake of the union one party loves unconditionally to the point of blindness while the other cheats, lies, and breaks every rule in the sacred book of marriage. So if by succeed you mean last forever, then sure. But if by succeed you mean that both people will live happily ever after, then sadly the answer is no.
2007-06-05 07:35:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is important that both spouse respect each other. The true love sometimes comes after the couple spend some helpful time with each other and it may take up to few months or less . Like being there for her and showing her that you are financially stable ,etc. And at the same time she does what pleases her husband or makes him happy. Therefore both side should be humble and not selfish. The answer is No. If one likes it and the other don't , sooner or later it will crumble.
2007-06-05 07:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, I don't think so. For a marriage to be true marriage, both people have to love, understand and respect each other.
For the kind of love you mention, it has to be kept alive. If the other person does not love the first person, something dies within the person, and eventually the unconditional love will wither and then die.
One can only get so far...
2007-06-05 07:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by Balaboo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should not be an attachment to love. The person should be saying they love you. No BUT after it. They are the one with the problem if you are doing things that annoy them. They need to get over it. It sounds like your partner has some issues.
2007-06-05 08:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage could never succeed if only one partner loves the other. What a dumb question!
Marriage should only be when two people fall in love and they make a commitment to spend the rest of their lives together, till death do them part, because they could never be apart. If that's not how you get married, your getting a divorce.
Answer your question now. Could only one partner MAKE LOVE?
2007-06-05 07:53:52 · answer #6 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A marriage needs two people that feel unconditionally for eachother and dont assume, speculate, trust and believe if not that why marry that person if you dont feel that way?
2007-06-05 07:41:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is human to not be perfect, judge each other, and to wish for better. The key is to realize that what you have is great and that settling in life is more about finding your comfortable place with someone you can get along with, than finding someone who's so "perfect" that you can't help but be googly over them all the time. I have a good man-quote that works well here...
Show me the most beautiful woman, and I'll show you a guy who's tired of "sleeping" with her.
2007-06-05 07:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by I hate Comcast 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No.
It is not even relevent. A marriage is only sure to suceed if both parties are intent on making it suceed. The fact that they may or may not love each other guarantees nothing.
2007-06-05 12:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be good if both had unconditional love. Always being able to forgive is a good way to live.
2007-06-05 08:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by davey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋