What do parents have to do??

Question

The UK news tells us this morning that not giving your children freedom to play outside and preventing them from climing trees, running about etc in case they hurt themselves is damaging to childrens development and prevents them learning about life and being independant. However, parents are constantly bombarded with news of paedophiles on every street corner and, should a child be lost or hurt, the parents are crucified for not taking proper care of the child. No wonder they're scared to let the kids out of their sight for 10 seconds.

How are you supposed to know what's right?

Answer 1

great question

i grew up in a small village (i was born in 1960), we played outside, rode our bikes on the roads, spoke to people, etc etc etc

I now live in a big city (nearly 2 million inhabitants) and I have to worry about my kids doing these things...
All we can do is give the kids their freedom, but make sure they know the rules.
Unfortunately (or not?) we can't keep our kids wrapped up in cotton wool forever

At the end of the day every parent has to make their own decision what's right and what they can trust their kid(s) to do, or not do

Good luck to you in any case

Answer 2

Often parents SHOULD be crucified for not taking proper care of their children. It's like the little girl who was allegedly kidnapped in Spain. Why on God's green earth would parents leave a four year old and two-year-old twins alone in an unfamiliar resort whether the children were asleep or not? That is ridiculous. Especially after a man had been taking pictures of the kids earlier (as reported).

It is the responsibility of a parent to keep a watchful eye over their children while the children are playing outside, and everywhere for that manner. Why have children if one doesn't want to take care of them? So, parents should put down the remote or turn off the vacuum and go spend time outside with the kids. It's good for parents, too.

Answer 3

I was lucky to grow up in a Communist country which although had it's mostly negative effects on adults, would provide the safety we children needed. I carry the most precious childhood memories of playing freely with friends outside, climbing trees, playing ball and having all kinds of adventures in the neighborhood without even once feeling threatened in any way. Unfortunately times have changed and we can't trust people the way we used to. Now that I am a parent myself, I can't imagine letting my child go free for fear of something happening to her - getting hit by a car or the worst of nightmares - getting kidnapped by a psycho. So I agree it's a difficult dilemma. Children do need freedom, however, or as we all know, they make us crazy if closed at home for a whole day. One thing we can do is watch them, which will definitely take up our time, or another is to find a daycare that provides lots of space for running around. Or something else, if we have a house with some free space around it - put a high fence around it and relax a little.

Answer 4

I agree. I live in a cul-de-sac, you'd think it would be perfect for kids. The street is silent, you can hear every word someone says on the other side of the street. But the cul-de-sac is a roundabout for cars, and they like to go REALLY fast. Are people so stupid they don't realise kids play in cul-de-sacs?! Everytime I let my daughter out there, I end up calling her back in after 5 mins, cos I have to shout out to her every few secs 'mind that car', 'it's reversing', cos the drivers don't look - it's incredible. Even neighbours who know she's there reverse without looking, then look at me like I'm to blame that she was there! Lucky we've got a big garden, but it doesn't make them street wise to be in the garden all the time. There's no way she'll go out on her own, though, the drivers round here are nuts.

Answer 5

Use your common sense - I am a parent and let my children play out - I regularly check that they are still in the street - which is a cul de sac.
They have to tell me/ask me to go elsewhere - I make them well aware of stranger danger
Parents who are keeping there children indoors and letting them play incessantly on computer games are depriving there children - if they are allowed to play - they will learn how in interact with other children - and also get some fresh air - plenty of exercise running up and down.
I understand the fears of pedos - but it has gone overboard and we are smothering our children - we need to stop wrapping them up to tight in cotton wool

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Answer 7

u dont that is the thing u try to give them freedom and tell them to take care of themselves but u cant be there all the time, sadly ma kid was indecently assaualted last year by a 20 year old in the afternoon at 3 oclock the bugger had followed her i woouldnt let her out ma site then but she was the one that said she had to get on with her live so i respect her for that she said its life at mo i just make sure i pick her up at night and always ring to know where she is

Answer 8

It really is difficult to decide what to do; it's either you let them go outside and play and hope nothing happens or, restrain them from going out and be guilty about repressing their right to play outside. Well, maybe, on weekends when you are at home and can keep an eye on them, you can let them out for a while.

Answer 9

they are more likely to have a serious accident in the home than harm coming to them outside when they reach the age of 10 is what they are talking about,and there are just as many paedos about now as there was 40 years ago ,except the media is better now

Answer 10

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