What should I do really really need advice?

Question

Her mother and I are curently going through a court battle in regards to her residence. I asked what contact I can have with my daughter until then but on all the dates I have proposed she has said she is working. But she said she only works every 2nd Sat so I can see her this Sat but then in the same letter she said she is working every weekend until Sat 7th July (as you can see this is not every 2nd Sat) But then she went on to say if I drop going for residence then I can have her for half the holidays and staying contact every fortnight comencing this weekend. Should I give up on residence and take the contact or should I stick to my initial intentions. There were reasons I initally requested residence in my favour I didn't just want to take her from her mother. The reasons in my eyes were valid. We have done things through court for contact 6 times and she has broken every court order and still nothing gets done. should i give up she calls another man daddy she is only 3 help

yes I have a lawyer he is very good. I am definetly her father as I got a DNA test done when she was 4 months old this has been going through court for the past 3 1/2 years but she keeps getting away with breaking orders and has never had any punishment all the courts said was she a young mum give her a chance oh she is pregnant we dont want to push things. she was 20 when she had my daughter.

Answer 1

i say stand your ground that is your daugter you do not give up on your kids if you are going through the courts keep going and do what the courts tell you if ex dont agree to what the court say or do not attend court this will go against her and in your favour so be strong and it will take a bit of time but do every thing right i went through the same with my ex and in the end she gave in and i have my children every weekend and holiday times so just be strong and try and let your daughter no that you care about her and you are thinking about her every day

Answer 2

Do you have a lawyer? Because I don't know where you are from but in the state that I live in breaking a court order is called 'contempt of court' and you can go to jail. Hang in there and demand to see your child!! It took the two of you to make this little girl, you have every right as a parent to see her. Do you know for sure this little girl is yours? I hate to ask you that but if she calls another man daddy...If your lawyer is not good enough and is not doing their job, then get another one. Demand your rights as a parent.

Best of luck to you!!

Answer 3

No dont ever give up,your daughter will appreciate and love the fact that you fought for her when she's older.

I would carry on with the court case,but specify to the judge that she keeps breaking the court orders and you need something solid from them.

Has she never been punished for keeping breaking the courts decision?

Why oh why do some parents do this for spite,all they are doing is breaking their childrens hearts.

I wish you luck,please dont give up on the little one.

Answer 4

If this was me i would really be upset (i love my kids) hang in there mate. The courts are sexist pigs even though i have never had a personall problem with them but they will generally find in favor of the mother. The reason is that there are many fathers out there that have messed it up for the rest of us. Once again a minority spoils it for the majority. Stick it out, get a female lawyer (one with kids - she will understand your case and try harder). Remeber its going to be emotionally trying on both of you both. I would fight untill i couldnt fight anymore. Frankly if she is getting govenment benefits yet disobeying court orders the morons at family law court should get a refund from kelloggs for their law degrees.
Hang in there!

Answer 5

I am sorry to hear that the infectous poison is still spreading. You are now the countless next victim you and your daughter of "PAS" Parental Alienation Syndrome, I could speak on the issue all day and run out of space to answer you.

The very reason I created the persona of "Daddy In a Box" was a a result of loosing my children to "PAS", its a tribute to my kids I will never get to raise, to all those who are missing their dads, I offer them,, "Daddy In a Box".I went to court 154 times, I started battling her when my oldest son was 5, he is now 14 and thinks he does not want anything to do with me, While the Judge who currently sits on my case, Told the mom she is Guilty of Parental Alienation, When I was screaming it at the top of my lungs, while there was still a chance to stop its corrosive effects, no one did a thing, now that the damage is done, the impotent courts say, yes she did do it, but theres nothing we can do to fix it,,, The FAMILY COURTS are a JOKE!, I never thought I would say that, in my early days of making all my appointments on time and weating my best suit and having total faith in the SYSTEM, I lost all respect when I realized, its just a process to them all, from the Bailiff to the court reporter, it's all a drullery they go through to get their money, mean while you will watch your relationship with your even younger daughter than my sons, melt in the furnace of a vengful, angry mommy, who has the weight of the legal system and the apathy of the police behind her , you are not in a good position. I spent every dime I had on lawyers who could not muster enough enthusiasm to really be of help, I lost my business and caused great strain on the relationship I am in , because of the Alienation Efforts of my BABIES MOMMA!
In the calm of the chaos I realized something. If I knew then what I know now, I would have shut my mouth, smiled at her and not cared what she did, loved on my kids and stuck it out for 18 years until they were grown and mature enough to have a relationship with both of us,but because of this "Woman Scorned Crap", and mommies who think Daddies are disposable and easily replaced I lost , my sons lost, I offer you this; my brother of the LostandFound, If you can get back under grace with your Babies Momma,, for the good of your little girl, go back to her and just eat crow for 15 more years, if not,, gird yourself for true, let slip the dogs of war and cry Havoc! and get the best lawyers you can find who are versed in "PAS" and whatever you do, don't say anything to her that can be twisted to sound like a threat or show a potential of being dangerous, you will have lost for sure , keep it non Violent, even though what mommy is trying to do to you is as Barbaric as it gets, you must keep your cool above all, don't forget that.

Either choice I truely wish you luck, let me know who it turns out for you

Answer 6

No fight for her, even if she calls another man daddy at present, in years to come when she has kids of her own she will realise what you went through for her etc etc

Good luck

Answer 7

Don't give up.

At least the courts will make a binding judgment rather than you having to 'trust' her un-trustworthy words.

Answer 8

dont give up !!!
you will regret it in yrs to come
when shes older and she will find out who her real father is ...she will come to you and ask why you didnt fight to see her
you need to fight for her ....
as long as she knows you have made the effort to fight
i hate it when the mother uses the children as weapons they give the rest of us a bad name ....
hope this helps you
good luck xx

Answer 9

don't give up stay strong and i hope in the end it will all turn out well for you all the best and a big good luck

Answer 10

dont give up man u is mor than entitled to see ur kid,if only all dads were like u...keep goin 2court but there has 2b sumfin the legals can do if she keeps breakin orders,get on 2ur solicitor man &make him do his job......absolute besta luck 2 u man