My mother's entering menopause, but that's not the cause of her Bipolar moods, depression, and verbal abuse; fore it has existed for many years now. My father left our family leaving us all verbally and mentally abused. I was the only one who had experienced both forms. Now that it's just the three of us, my mother and younger brother, I am left to be verbally and sometimes physically abused by my intermediate family. Everyday I cry, I plead for them to stop yelling at me, this "family" always takes sides, we gang up on eachother. Everyone is unhappy but my mother is too stubborn to admit that anythings wrong and refuses to get anyone help, plus she blames all our unhappiness on myself. My younger brother reflects an exact image of my father, and curses me daily, for hours even, without me getting a word in edge wise. And if I try to yell back, or defend myself from physical violence, then my mother threatens me with a police call and abandonment. She dreads that she raised a "whore."
2007-06-04 18:52:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Speak out against domestic violence!
Your story is so sad to me. You need to let someone know what is going on, especially if you are being physically and emotionally abused. Please go to the police, and start there. Keep talking until someone listens that can help you. Just know this...you are special, lovable, and worthy of being treated the right way. Hang in there. Don't ever give up. It will get better, no matter how bad it gets. You have to take the first step and speak out against domestic violence!
2007-06-04 19:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by Spendelicious27 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm really tired of the family problems, too. My Mom gets all whiny when someone talks while she is reading something, I barely even come downstairs, when I do. Boy, do I regret it. Everyone has a different personality, but you shouldn't turn off yours, to make them happy, do you. Make them more angrier, shoot. Life is unfair, everyone will not get along, when are we Americans gonna stop living in this fantasy world of sing along
2014-06-10 13:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother has a lot on her mind. It's hard to raise kids in this day and time. I feel she is trying to keep peace in the family. It's possible she needs some time for herself. Especially since she is close to the age of menopause.
One thing that will help your family is to pray. I know that she wants the best for you. She doesn't want or need physical violence in her life right now. The worst thing you can do is to rebel against her.
Sometimes when we are trying to keep our families together, it's like walking on eggshells. Everybody in your family has a different personality. The best thing to do is to accept your brother just the way he is, unless he is drinking or doing drugs. Don't start fights with Mom or brother. Try to be a role model. When they talk loud, stay calm and lower your voice this will cause them to lower theirs. Buy books on healthy communication. Quit blaming Dad since he is away. Everything can be changed, if all three of you want things to be different. Tell your mother you love her and you are sorry. I know this is hard to do even if you don't feel like it's your fault. If your family needs support call a friend of the family to talk to your mother. If this doesn't work go to a support group alone. Set an appointment. If you feel there is nowhere else to turn call a hotline for domestic violence. What seems to be happening here is a re-run of the way your dad treated your mother. Don't let your brother make you or your mom's life miserable. If mom doesn't go for help you can. Remember: Do whatever you can to keep peace in the family.
2007-06-04 19:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Bust them out. Tell everyone your counsler at school , social services, the police, let her abandon you you would be better off without her. I am so sorry. I wish I could help you. I suffer to this day from a horriblly abusive verbal mother. Being called those names damages you and hurts you. Just don't believe them be brave and get out of there.
Lady too busy is dead wrong, its not your fault your mother is a cruel person shes sick, but you need you get out, tell everyone, its wrong what they are doing to you and the consequence of their abuse will effect you your whole life. It is abuse, it is wrong. don't make peace with a monster thats impossible
2007-06-04 19:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by beatch38 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell them that you not going to respond to yelling and verbal abuse. After that, just ignore them when they yell at you, or leave the room. Do not give in until they learn to speak in a normal tone. It's going to be hard, but if they keep getting a rise out of you, they won't quit.
2007-06-04 18:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's really a hard life to have to live. You should talk to someone, a friend, a counselor. Get help some way. Let someone know this is hapening so perhaps your family can get the help they need. God bless and good luck.
2007-06-04 18:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Im so sorry. Have you tried calling the cops? Cops work. It ALWAYS works. They take them awy 4ever. trust me. call 911 or something. Im verbally abused too so i can cope with dat. Call the cops or stay at a friends 4 help. :(
2007-06-04 19:12:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
move out. .cut your ties and get some counselling... my mom has BPD (Borderling personality disorder) and did exactly to me what your mom is doing to you, when i was 19 i had to put a restraining order on her an di have talked to her in 2 years... just make yourself happy. Your mom needs to be humbled before she can admit she has a problem.
2007-06-04 18:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your family sounds a lot better than mine. At least you don't fear for your life like I do.
2007-06-04 18:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋