My child will not listen, what to do?

Question

My daughter just doesn't listen to anything, like "stop", "no", "quit" she runs out of her yard outside and doesn't listen to 'come here", she just smiles and keeps on going. Timeout doesn't work, she gets down and runs thinking it's a game. How can I get her to listen?

Sorry I didn't mention this but she is barely 2.

Answer 1

i just read about that in the June issue of Parents magazine. here's their suggestion:They recommend playing a game. Turn music on and then switch it off and yell "freeze". When they get good at the game, try it without music. Dance in the silence, then yell "freeze." Next, practice in the outside world. "no' and "stop" is used for non-emergencies but "freeze" is used as a safe word, one they associate with a fun game, and therefore do not defy. And it gives the parent enough time to pull their child out of danger.

hope this works!

Answer 2

Mysticmary, I so see where you are coming from. I'm a mother of a three year old son who by the way will be turning four soon. I'm also studying to be a teacher and/or caregiver for the early years. Sweetie, what your child is doing should come as no surprise. It is entirely normal for them to act that way because they are seeing how far they can push you before you give into their demands. Honey, what you need to do is quit saying "NO" to her all the time because it will only make her more upset. You see, when you tell a child No too much, they get frustrated because they feel that you are not wanting to listen or communicate with them, so that is why a lot of children act out and wine, much less disobey mommy and daddy. Never give your child options either because she will become frustrated easily because she will not be able to tell you what she wants. I found myself doing all of these things and when I quit, my son's behavior changed instantly. Another thing, don't let your daughter see that she is getting to you cause if you do, she will only continue her behavior. Good Luck!!!



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Answer 3

I'm not sure how old. My son is almost 2 and if he doesn't listen the first time, I stop him from doing it. What I mean is if he's going past our property outside and I say, "Stop, turn around, come back," and he doesn't, I go get him. Take him by the hand, turn him around and lead him back to where he is supposed to be.

The way I look at it is if I say 'no' and let him keep doing it he's going to learn that 'no' doesn't mean anything except that I'll keep saying 'no' and he'll keep doing whatever he wants. So, that's what I do.

It is to be expected. They test boundaries constantly. Not to annoy us, but in order to find out how secure they are. Knowing that the rules always remain the same makes them feel safe. They want to know that the rules will be enforced (and that doesn't have to mean spanking or even time out--I find that simply stopping him has pretty good results). They want to know that us parents are more than talk but also actions and that we'll put our money where our mouth is.

Another thing I've done is when I say "Stop, turn around and come back," and he does I praise him and say "good job" and even give applause. Now he goes to the end of our yard, turns around, comes back and starts clapping. It's fine--he's staying where he's supposed to.

Answer 4

Mysticmary, I so see where you are coming from. I'm a mother of a three year old son who by the way will be turning four soon. I'm also studying to be a teacher and/or caregiver for the early years. Sweetie, what your child is doing should come as no surprise. It is entirely normal for them to act that way because they are seeing how far they can push you before you give into their demands. Honey, what you need to do is quit saying "NO" to her all the time because it will only make her more upset. You see, when you tell a child No too much, they get frustrated because they feel that you are not wanting to listen or communicate with them, so that is why a lot of children act out and wine, much less disobey mommy and daddy. Never give your child options either because she will become frustrated easily because she will not be able to tell you what she wants. I found myself doing all of these things and when I quit, my son's behavior changed instantly. Another thing, don't let your daughter see that she is getting to you cause if you do, she will only continue her behavior. Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

Dude, she is so playing you! Kids will only be as bad as you let them be, you as the parent get to decide how your kid acts. If you want to let her be a little brat, keep being a permissive parent (but if you love her you will knock it off). Kids love rules & guilelines- they only know what you teach them and if you don't tech them to behave properly, how are they supposed to know how?

You didn't say how old she is (2, 5, 10?). The thing with "time out" is that you have actually do it every time they misbehave, no matter where you are and keep doing it. Pick her up, sit her in the "time out place" and keep puting her back there till she stays. One minute for every year of age, time starts over every time she gets up.

Answer 6

Hi I think every child can go through a stage like this. My girl is 2 and 1/2, when she plays up I usually say that she has to go into the portable cot that is still set up in her bedroom and lay there till she calms down. I have found this works reasonably well for me and she is starting to listen if I threaten her with it when she behaves naughty. I hope you find some helpful advice amongst your answers as it can be v trying at times, good luck!!

Answer 7

when giving instructions get down and look her in the eye. If outside never chase her it is then a game to her and make her run more. Just make sure she is safe and cannot get out. if you are out walking make her hold your hand and if she does not want to then she has to be strapped in a stroller. Time out will work if you continue to take her back to the same spot and say STAY HERE FOR TIME OUT.

Answer 8

I think things like that just happen with children. You might want to try taking away things ie. her favorite doll for 30 mins. or if she watches t.v. take away time from that.

Answer 9

Give her a light smack on the Bottom to make clear who the boss is.

Answer 10

Tell her what the problem is and explain to her that you want to be her friend (well and a good parent to her) but you need her help in that to cooperate. Be calm but stern and make sure she knows you are not joking. :) i hope I helped!