where I am now, people ask their friends/family "what do you want for Christmas?" (or birthday, or whatever holiday)... where I'm from, that would be considered incredibly rude- like asking somebody to give you a gift... what do you think?
2007-06-04 18:38:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Actually I'd be using the question as an opportunity to quietly explain that you come from a different cultural background.
I'd be not agressive about it - just thank them for their consideration, but give the reason why this makes you feel unconfortable.
Good luck.
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2007-06-04 18:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by Rai A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving a gift should come from the heart. I like to give gifts that I have really put some thought into rather than just what they want right now. I don't think it's rude to ask if, but I think it's better not to.
2007-06-05 04:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by winnie2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This was not always the norm. Things have gradually changed. I ask relatives what their children are interested in since I know nothing about toys.
Wheras with my close family, i.e, partner, daughter. I get them what I think they would like, enough already with the 'what would you like' business. My way they are always surprised.
I don't do christmas. For us its a celebration of light - solstice.
2007-06-05 03:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But in America when we celebrate Christmas people give gifts to others to show that we can see God's love in them too. When baby Jesus got gifts from the wise men they knew of his hertiage and that he would be King. Although I don't know anyone that will be king of anything I would like them to know that I love them and I hope for their future
2007-06-05 01:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by truely human 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't like anyone to ask me that question. If someone wants to get me a gift, then they should choose something and give it to me. Often times people ask children and teen-agers because they usually have a long list of wants. I don't ask adults and I don't care to be asked.
2007-06-05 02:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where are you from? i mean, seriously, where are you from?
asking somebody what he/she wants for christmas, nowadays, generally is already WIDELY accepted. however, people who have not outgrown their inappropriate(as in, inappropriate in today's standards) beliefs to fair with society's present norms, will certainly feel offended by said statement. but i hardly know one place/race(that celebrate christmas, of course) that will be offended by, "what do you want for christmas?"
i think this is "generation difference" more than a cultural difference.
2007-06-05 01:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by AMIEL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do good things with a good intention in mind you are much more likely to be successful than if your intentions are not good.
I think people will go along with it and will embrace your cultural difference if done in good faith rather than shun you.
Good luck and I wish you success!
2007-06-05 01:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by keemster05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is it rude?
2007-06-05 01:47:40 · answer #8 · answered by mzbizkit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋