theres this guy and i know that he realy wants to have sex but i'm not sure if i'm ready,but he told me that if i didnt that he would brake up with me.i hate always doin and sayin and acting and wearing cloths a certain way because he makes me but for some reason i do not ever wanna break up with him and he realy dosent need to break up with me help!
2007-06-04 18:37:11 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He only want to pop your cherry. Dump him. At your young age please don't be foolish enough to start letting a boy tell you what to do and what not to do. You should give your age since we don't know who you are. Your first clue to dump him was when he started telling you how to dress. How does he "make" you. Do you obey your parents that well? They are the ones who love you and who will be there when he dumps you.
In addition to pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, him bragging all over school about how easy you are you should know he can go to jail for having sex with you. He will become a registered sex offender for live. Even prison inmates have standards and they hate sexual offenders so they will feel free to rape him at will. Although it sounds to me as if he deserves that treatment, you might not want him to undergo it. Can you talk to your mom about this? She must not be paying a lot of attention if he is allowed to boss you around. But, if possible talk to her. She has been through a lot and will be able to guide you. If you can't talk to her do you have another female relative you can talk to? I ask these questions because I think it is important to bounce this off of someone who cares about you. Good luck and email me if I can help you..
2007-06-04 18:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by arejokerswild 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No guy is worth having Sex with if you are not ready!
If you are questioning whether or not to have it you are not ready! You will have sex and then you will regret it. The relationship will probably end. This guy is only after what he wants once he gets it he will be off.
If you are not yet sixteen then you shouldn't really be thinking of having SEX as in most places it is illegal. If he is over sixteen he would get into big trouble especially if there was a pregnancy. He will go to jail.
This guy sounds abusive you are already doing things for him that you feel uncomfortable about.
It is time that you started to think about yourself and what you want. HE IS NOT WORTH IT!!!
Believe me there are plenty of other guys out there. Especially if you are female.
2007-06-04 18:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by peter w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do in a situation like this is leave. One...you are way to young to be serious (take it from someone who knows) two...the only person that should be telling you what to do is your parents. You many not "want" to break up with him,but you "need" to..You dont want to be 25yrs old and hating your life. Also if you are not ready for sex then dont do it....any guy that says he will break up with you if you dont have sex with him,isnt really worth your time anyways. You may think you are "in love" with him,but you may realize in time,especially after you break it off with him..that you were just being silly. Dont kid yourself,possessiveness like he has....is not love. I wouldnt say all this if i didnt know.
2007-06-04 18:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by kirsten * 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is someone you need to break up with. There is no way you should be having sex if you don't feel ready and someone who is threatening to break up with you if you don't have sex doesn't really love you. I would want my first time to be full of love, wouldn't you? Unfortunately, many girls in your situation crumble under the pressure and are traumatized by it, and I don't want you to be one of those girls.
Also, this boy sounds beneath you and I think you know this. You don't want to dress, act and say certain things (or not say them for that matter) but you do because he has all of the control in this relationship. Stand up for yourself - you deserve so much better! Don't wait for him to dump you - dump him and get someone who really respects and loves you. Best of luck! :)
2007-06-04 18:50:02 · answer #4 · answered by Kathryn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he truly cares about you, he will wait. If he forces you to do things that you don't want to do, or feel uncomfortable doing, he is just using you no matter what he says. Guys will tell you anything to have sex with you, including that they love you.
Don't be a fool and fall for the threats. He is just trying to control you. Be mature and stand up for your right to make your own decisions! If you let him do this to you now, you are starting a pattern that could last for the rest of your miserable life. You should be making decisions that will make you happy. If you feel unsure about doing something, then wait until you feel right about it.
Make your first time a happy one, not one that you will regret. You only have one chance to do it right. Save it for someone that you truly love and that deserves you.
2007-06-04 18:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah coming from teenager to teennager its not a good time to do it. What is the worst that can happen if he breaks up with you? Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but you guys will eventually break up anyways. Relationships under the age of 16 rarely last because you grow up. If you do decide to do it, dont do it because you love him, do it because you want the experience because you will feel a whole lot better in the end.
2007-06-04 18:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by The Worrywart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you at all, he won't make you have sex. Likewise, he shouldn't be trying to control how you act or what you wear.
Personally, I don't think this guy is worth your time at all. There are definitely better guys out there--don't have sex with this one. Actually, I wouldn't advise doing much else with this one. I would advise that you stop seeing him, because this control thing of his is really not loving or caring. Go out there and find someone better, because I guarantee he exists.
2007-06-04 18:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by Sepharium 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a boy (he is not a man) tells you he will break up with you if you don't have sex with him is after only one thing. He is only looking for a piece of a$$. You need to break up with that snake first. You and your body are special, and not to be handed out to any boy that wants some. He is a DOG! Kick him to the curb.
2007-06-04 18:46:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it if you are not comfortable. If you are not ready, and he can't accept that fact, then you should break up with him. If he is abusive you should call an abuse hotline or see your school counselor. Don't change yourself for a guy. And if he would break up with you for a reason like sex when you are younger than 16, you shouldnt be with him. how do you know he loves you?
2007-06-04 18:43:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take control of your body back. You shouldn't feel intimidated by him or pressured into anything. If he truly cares for you he wouldn't pressure you into anything especially something that important. Confront him on that. You're not his little whore. You are a unique and amazing human being that deserves so much more respect and honor than that, and if he doesn't change then let him go. Rise above his immaturity and take back control of your life. Be yourself and let nobody try to change that.
2007-06-04 18:47:08 · answer #10 · answered by Jace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋