so pretty much every guy ive been interested in lately has been treating me like crap and im getting sick of it. I was best friends with this guy for about 2 years and i fell in love with him but he never liked me. he admits that he used me to do stuff for him because he knew i liked him. yet after are arguments and despise his meanness i kept going back to him. And it seems i pick out guys who are mean and yet i keep going back and talking to them. any advice on how i can stop?!?!?!?!
2007-06-04 17:05:07 · 35 answers · asked by .:Jessica:. Go Spartans! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you need to go see a counselor, or just talk to someone about it because it could be that you're the type of girl that abusive guys go for. Even when abusive guys don't consciously know it, they target girls with low self-esteem because they are easier to manipulate. (I don't know if you have low self esteem or not, but this is just the psychological profile of abuse victims). They'd never go for me, because I'm a beeotch. Trust me, guys can sense this type of thing. So if this applies to you, then you need to see a counselor to learn how to build your self-esteem and learn how to assert yourself to be able to say, "Enough is enough!" and leave those scumbags when you feel that you have had enough. Good luck with everything!
2007-06-04 17:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by Chocolate_on_the_Moon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some pride and stop going with guys who see you as an easy target. What is it about you that makes you pick the bad guys all the time, when there are so many really interesting people to know?
Why not start with just making some friends (male and female) and tell them stuff you know, interact, share, listen and learn.
You'll feel better about you in the long run, and when you are not trying so hard, perhaps you'll meet someone who wants to be with you for who you really are?
2007-06-04 17:13:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are selling yourself short. These guys are not worth your time and effort, yet you give them everything including your trust. You deserve better. Do not just settle. When they treat you with disrespect, drop them like hot potatoes. Have a list of priorities. Know what you want in a man, and don't settle for less. It is okay not to have someone at your side, if there is no one that is worth having you. Be strong and independent. You will find the right guy one day. If you settle for less, you will always end up with the jerks. It almost seems like they belong to a club. Once you have been with one of them, the rest flock to you. Get out of their club, and set new standards for yourself. I guarantee that you will be happier.
Good Luck!!
2007-06-04 17:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, think about what kind of guys you're attracted to exactly? What makes these guys attractive? Is it because they're aggressive, controlling, "mean", funny that draw you to these guys? You have to figure out what makes you fall for certain guys over others. A lot of girls love the "bad boys" who live on the edge, because they're exciting. The problem with these "bad boys" is they also happen to exhibit other negative qualities, like being disrespectful to authority (and women), manipulative, and unfaithful.
You need to find the good qualities that draw you to a guy, but, also don't have the negative qualities that go along with them. So, maybe you want your guy to be assertive, but, not too pushy, humorous, but, knows how to exercise restraint, etc. It's going to take some contemplating on your part.
2007-06-04 17:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just turn you back on them. Refuse to talk to them. You need to relize you are a human and have feelings. They say/do something you don't like DO NOT be affraid to open your mouth and let them know. no one deserves to be treated like dirt. I would tell your ex's to f-off and don't bother you. Take a brake from the dating scene and get to know yourself beter so you can look for what you wan't don't just grab the next guy to ask you out, Spending some single time can realy open your eyes as to what you want i have been single a year and 5 months now and i know what i want in a guy and i will setel for no less. A guy that treats me good, a guy who loves kids, a guy who is responsible, a guy who knows when to be serious and whent to be a complete goof ball.
2007-06-04 17:11:38 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were a guy i would say grow some balls, but your not so i will say that i think you like being treated like that by guys and thats why you keep doing it. i once knew a chick who always complained about being treated like **** from her boyfriend, yet she never did anything about. all her freinds told her to leave the loser f--k but she wouldn't. the reality of the situation was she just wanted attention and drama. And she loved the "fight and then f--k" syndrome. It was pretty pathetic if you ask me, but whatever turns you on, just don't complain about it when you could easily do something about it if you really wanted to. Maybe it's time you looked in the mirror and reflected upon your own sick desires. Fullfill them if you want, but don't bore everyone else with with your pretend to hate it ********
2007-06-04 17:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE MISSING CONFIDENCE!!!! If you feel good about yourself and love yourself more than you love these a**holes, then they will follow suit. Why wouldn't someone treat you that way if you are letting them.
You only go around people like that because you don't have enough respect for yourself.
I do, and my guy friends and potentials know that I don't play. I'm a dime piece and I won't waste my time nor my breathe talking to a guy who does not recognize that!
2007-06-04 17:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by Nika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do some soul searching to get your self esteem back. Maybe you feel like your nothing without them. When you start feeling good about yourself, and say that you need to be surrounded by people that will treat you like a human being, you might be stuck in this for a while. Go to a book store, or google how to get my self esteem back, and find ways to make friends with people who value you for the great friend that you are. Trust me when I say they need you more then you need them. Start with fixing who you are first, and the rest will follow.
2007-06-04 17:14:06 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will only be treated like dirt if you let them. stand up for yourself and love yourself first. if guys perceive you as a strong, confident and self sustaining girl you'll get all the respect that you need. that's for sure! and go out and look for other options in life there is a big world out there where you can find a guy who will love you & respect you. you don't need guys who will only put you down!
2007-06-04 18:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by bebe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't let people treat you like ****. you need to kick them to the curb. you should never take a guy back who treats you badly. you are worth more then that. the only way you are going to stop is by putting your foot down and decide not to take them back or even go out with someone like that. you deserve better. you shouldn't think that you deserve this because you don't. no does. all it does is give women low self esteem. and no one likes that. good luck.
2007-06-04 17:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by thydarknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋