Single Dad again?

Question

I told her she has to get fitted for a bra tomorrow now she is mad and hates me. I don't have the experience to deal with this. I don't know what to tell her.

Answer 1

deep down it probally bothers her that her dad is having to do what mothers usually do, sounds like you are being a great dad! It's hard, and even harder for single fathers(no offense) maybe you could get a female to go with her to do that, or let her know next time she needs to be fitted/ sometimes it could make the situation a little better coming from a woman, if that's not possible , maybe you could have one of those father daughter conversations, and tell her that know it probally bothers her that you have to do this, and you don't want her to be ashamed that you are in this situation, and maybe you both could come up with a solution that makes you both comfortable with her life changes

Answer 2

Being a woman and being fitted for a bra the first time can be the most humiliating feeling in the world. It is awkward enough to have a stranger measuring you, let alone having your father take you there. Use a little love and logic to help get her there. Give her options. For example say "You are needing to get a bra fitting. Would you rather have me take you or you choose (an aunt, cousin, sister, grandmother, mentor etc.) to take you?" This way, she feels empowered by making the decision, and you win because she went to get fitted without hating you for the rest of her life.

This may sound a bit cheesy, but, try it. Empowering young teenagers by giving them choices is a great path to take.

Answer 3

It is your approach. Say hey " find a girlfriend to go to the mall with and come home with a couple of bras, OK?" Then call Victoria's Secret let them know she will be in and ask what she will need and how much money should she have with her to cover it. I am very close with my Dad and would have killed him if he ever said that to me. Letting her handle it with a friend and a professional at a store like a lady whether she is 12 or 15 is the way to go.

By the way, my daughter is 16 and we still haven't bought bras together, she prefers going with her grandmother. I really don't care as long as she is taken care of.

Answer 4

I am assuming you are talking about your daughter. It is not unusual for young girls (grades 4-6 especially) not want to wear a bra. You would be surprised how many are found in the rest room waste basket. They are uncomfortable. Time to get her mom, aunt, grandma, or friends mom to take her to the store for a proper fit and to suggest comfortable styles.

Answer 5

And this too will pass. She will get over it. You are only trying to do what is right. Try to understand that being the parent doesn't mean always making them happy, it does mean sticking to your guns and doing what is right for them.

She'll get past it, you just keep being a great dad!

Answer 6

i hate discussing things like that with my dad
see if she is willing to go with a friend and her friends mom
this way u will still get her to wear a bra without making her feel uncomfortable
tell her that u wll never mention it again
if she gets one

Answer 7

it sound like she just ashamed that her dad is getting her
first bra. so may be you can get a women friend to go with
her. good luck to you. and for the record she does not hate
you. she just a young lady.

Answer 8

have a trusted aunt or female cousin take her... or her best friends mom.... it is such an awkward time for young girls and their daddies..... i sure do remember that. it will soon be over and done with... (i know, i know-not soon enough) pray for strength ,guidance, and patience. Good luck!