Is love worth it?

Question

I recently went to visit an old friend from high school. There were definitely sparks! I think hes a great guy and would make me very happy, only thing is we live a bit of a distance apart. I considered moving to live with him, but I have a good job and like the area where I live now. I'm afraid to make such a drastic move, but my intuition tells me this guy may be "the one" Should I stay where I'm content or chance it for love?

Alright, I want to revise this a bit. The two of us have a been friends for years. We've been seeing each other and talking almost every day. A long distance relationship seems a bit scary though. Not for commitment purposes but simple because we both enjoy each others company so much. It honestly hurts to miss someone so much.

Thanks for the other advise though... I somewhat remember him saying that he'd consider moving up with me. That has to prove something, that he really cares. Is it fair though to make him find a new job and leave his life behind?

Answer 1

Well all i can say is that love is a challenging feeling. You have to consider all aspects. Love could possibly be in this relationship but it may not be as well. You could end up changing everything in your life right now that you like and find out that this is really not the guy for you and then where does that leave you? But if love is truly there it would work no matter where you are and where he is. Long distance relationships work if both want it to work. I am sorry if this advice doesnt help you but honestly i would try the long distance before giving up everything.

Answer 2

Long distance relationships do work out. Rare but not unheard of. Anyway, moving in to live with him is a big step, and you shouldn't do this if you're not at least dating yet. Maybe spend some time together, like go on a vacation for a weekend or a week. The thing about long distance relationships is that you're always on your best behavior when you see each other.. so what you could do to compensate for that is to spend some time together on weekends. You don't have to sacrifice your career and your stable life right now. If things work out, you'll end up together in the long run anyway. Good luck!

Answer 3

Anything worth having is worth fighting for. Is a motto that i live by. I myself had a long distance relationship. During college i drove 3hrs each way each week to see my now fiance.

Is it worth it? Only you can tell. You won't know till you try.

But on the same note, hate to rain on your parade or sound like a hypocrite. But I'm very skeptical of long distance relationships. The reason it worked out for me was i made the effort and saw my grl on a regular basis, but if it was even further, or if i could not make the trips as frequent? That leaves so much time for ppl to grow apart. It leaves soo much time for lonely ppl to seek company amongs other ppl which in time, could be trouble.

It all comes down to the commitment that you are both willing to give each other, the trust that you both will put in each other. And the effort to make it work. It takes 2 to tango. If one side wanes, it could lead to heart ache. But it could also lead to a beautiful story, a story that you can tell you grandchildren, this is how i stole grandpas heart. Which story do you want to make come true. It's up to you 2.

Answer 4

I moved to be with my boyfriend (now my husband.) I miss my home, but not as much as I missed him when we were apart. I was the one to move simply because I was more portable at the time; I could find career options here that were as good as or better than the ones I had back home. If you ask him to move to be with you, you're not making him move; you're inviting him. It's still up to him to decide whether it's worth it to him. Alternately, maybe you could both try to find jobs in each other's areas, and see which one of you can get a good job and move. It may never be "fair" that one of you had to move for you to be together, but it may be worth it.

Answer 5

Good love is definitely worth it.

Before you make any decisions you need to decide together. Who has a better chance at a great career with the job they currently have? Do you have parents that need your help close by?

Talk with him, maybe keeping it long distance for 6 months will make the decision easier.

Answer 6

i'm still not sure if my bf is the one, but although i'm 17 and he's 21 and we live on the opposite sides of the world, we know that in a year we will be together so we are just sticking it out...and imagine...most people don't take note of this part...the last few months before you two will be togther> i'd say go for it!!!
=D

Answer 7

If youv'e been friends for along time, that's great you have to be friends before you can be anything. You should go with him it maybe the greatest thing in your life. Youll never know unless you try.Listen to your inner voice & you won't go wrong.
HUGS TO YOU
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Answer 8

well it would be leaving your life behind also..

but maybe you could ask your boss or whoever if there was the same job located around down there, and on all the olidays you and maybe this guy would go down with your family, and then it would sort of work out.

Answer 9

Why don't you both discuss?
Because - ultimately it will all boil down to priorities and decisions you take...

What ever you decide - make sure that you have thought it over - so that you won;t regret it later...

All the best

Answer 10

if you really love him, then everythings worth it. you can find another job, but you'll never find someone who makes you that happy. Make sure he feels the same of course, then if so, go for it!