he asked me to marry him..what should i say?

Question

i'm 16 years old and my boyfriend is almost 18. he will be leaving for colloege in nashville this september. we are very much in love with each other and i do want to be with him always, but my friends well me i'm too young. i'm so confused...

i dont plan to drop out of high school or get pregnant. WE LOVE EACH OTHER. the only difference between living together and being married is a piece of paper. everyone tells me i'm too young but i dont think i am...i canlive my life even if i am engaged i just ca't screw around. he's the only guy i want...i love him, he loves me, and that ALL that matters..

Answer 1

If you have to ask me what you should you, then you are not mature enough to get married.

You MUST say no

Answer 2

You might consider taking some time off. Long distance relationships can be very hard. I went to a different college than my girlfriend and we were very much in love. It was hard and we didn't see too much of each other for the school year. It's the summer now and we're fine but the last school was even harder than I thought it would be. Even if you love each other, taking some time and then later going on at least some dates with other guys can help. Maybe you'll both realize no one out there is as good for you as each other...or maybe you'll find new people. Either way- you'll both be a little older, more mature, and more appreciative of each other if you do get married. If you're religious at all, I'd pray about too.

Answer 3

In my opinion, you're both too young! You both have a lot of growing up to do. College life is really demanding. There are many distractions and it can sometimes change people in way that you or they would never have expected. It would be a shame to marry him now and realize that he's changed when it's too late, right?

My advise is to take one semester at a time. See how it goes, call each other every night if you need to. If you still feel the same way about each other when you're 18 (and I hope you do,) you can get married then and still have a long life together. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

I would agree that you are too young also. I was proposed to at 18 and I am glad now that I said no. I loved him, but I am such a different person now.
I also think you should get a promise ring. Wait until you two finish school and would really be able to take care of each other. Just continue to keep having fun just being together. And REALLY make sure this is someone that you could spend the REST of you LIFE with. Not just someone you love right now

Answer 5

You are a bit young to marry legally at any rate. If you truly love him, then you'll always love him. Waiting a bit longer won't hurt. Say yes, but push for a long engagement. Or maybe get promise rings for each other. You can do a little ceremony if you want.

You should also ask yourself if you would regret it later on down the line. You're in love now, but what happens 2 years later when you're both at different colleges, 5 years later when grad school looms? Will you always be in love with him? Perhaps. But if it's worth getting, it's worth waiting.

Answer 6

In my opinion, yes, you are way too young. Chances are, you will go to college and meet someone.

I had HS boyfriends that I really cared for, but they are nothing like the people I met at college.

If you go to college with a bf/gf, you may be limiting yourself. You are so young and you don't even know what's out there yet!! Once you graduate HS, it's a whole new world!

Keep in touch if you want, but don't say yes right now. If you still love each other in a few years, then maybe.

Answer 7

OK i am not going to sit and here and say you are are too young to know what true love is because at 16 i felt the same way for a guy, but i think you are a bit too young to think about marriage. you have so much to do in life before you get married. I can tell you that at age 16 i thought i knew what i wanted and i thought i knew who i was. Looking back i knew that was not the case.If the truly loves you than he will wait for you and vice versa. My sisters BF left for college last spring. they knew they wanted to be together but she was not ready for such a big commitment. so her BF gave her a 'promise ring" and she is glad that they both are waiting to get married AFTER they have experienced life a little bit more. Good luck to you Hun!

Answer 8

16 is way too young to get married,as is 18. the 2 of you have a
lot of life to experience before being tied down to each other. i think time away from one another will do both of you a world of good. after he is done with college and you go on and finish school and you both feel the same way about each other,then by all means,go for it! by the way,i noticed you didn't say how or what the 2 of you will live on if you were to get married now?

Answer 9

If the answer is not clear to you then the answer is no. let's see- you're 16, he's leaving, and somehow in all this you're going to marry. Love is a fine thing, but it doesn't pay the bills. Marriage is a BIG deal- it will affect the rest of your life even if it doesn't work out. If you have parents or even an older brother you can confide in.... don't ruin the rest of your life this young. You really do have a lot of time ahead of you. Don't rush it.

Answer 10

I met my husband in highschool . Our first date was on my 17th birthday. We were the only two that believed it would last. We got engaged 6 months later. We were married 5 years later. That was 26 years ago! It can work as long as both of you want it for the right reasons. Take your time with the engagement part. That is the time in which you can decide if you really believe it is meant to be. You can always change your mind!

Answer 11

You are TOO young to get married. Don't you want to have a life before you get married? Also, you should wait till you're out of high school before even planning when to get married. I'd say wait a little time and, later in life, marry him. Just be patient. Quote from the Holy Bible, 1 Corinthians 13:4, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud." Please, live your life before thinking about having a family. I hope this helped!