Well my bf realy likes me we have kissed lots but we have never had sex and tonight he asked me to come over should i go or stay? HELP!
2007-06-04 16:31:48 · 46 answers · asked by Shayna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have to ask, you should DEFINATELY NOT go!
2007-06-04 16:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by RadTech - BAS RT(R)(ARRT) 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please don't do it. True Love Waits!
Just think, when you start dating, you usually hold hands. That is special. As time goes by, you still may enjoy it, but it wasn't as special as it was the first time.
Later, you may hug each other. The same thing takes place, that first time, you heart JUMPS into his. Later it is still great to hug, but your hear may just skip a beat and not JUMP.
Then comes the First Kiss. You tell all your friends you kissed for the first time. But as time goes by, you don't tell everyone that you kissed again and again.
The same this will happen with sex. It is VERY special the first time. That is why it is best to keep it for a VERY special night. Just think about it. If you wait for your wedding night, it will be something you will never forget.
It’s not all about religion. It is about YOU and your mind. Trust me. If you give your virginity away now. It will haunt you. You will regret it on your wedding night whether it be this guy or another.
2007-06-04 17:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever let a guy pressure you into having sex. Sex is best after your married and where the two of you are totally committed to each other. It is your body and your right to say no to him, And if he dumps you or tries to pressure into having sex with you again, Then he is only into you for your body and wants you only for sex! That is by no means is a relationship of love. If that is all he's wants,Then he has no respect or feelings of love for you at all!! From your post it appears that YOU are NOT READY to have sex with him. That is your right, Not his!! To me it sounds like he is being very selfish, So i wouldn't go!! Don't do something you may regret! There are guys out there that will dump a girl after he has slept with them because he no longer respects her. He may just be trying to use you. I would advice you to wait until you are with the man you truly love and want to share your life with, It is always better that way. I hope this helped you and i wish you well!!
2007-06-04 16:47:30 · answer #3 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like him. That is the true question, what if you two break up?Is this your first time. He is really worth the time, are you gonna deal with the desistion your gonna make,..the truth is...the answer is in your heart, no body here can talk you out of having sex or not having sex with your BF, if you love him, and you know you are gonna stay together for the rest of your lives, go for it, but whatever you decide to do, be safe, use protection,
2007-06-04 16:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kacy! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend really loves you, he will respect you and not ask you for sex at this point. Sex can BEST be enjoyed in a marriage. It may sound very conservative advice but you will not regret it when you look back. Don't give in to pressure. Preserve your virginity and you will be proud of this decision in time to come. If your boyfriend gets angry because of this decision, let him go. Believe me, he is not worth your love. It is only for temporary pleasure.
2007-06-04 16:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by dolphin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how old you are and I don't want to "preach" to you. Just because a boy really likes you does not mean you have to have sex with him. Sex complicates things and I has many risks. It can be fun and yes good but only if you are ready. Don't let him pressure you. You decide when you are ready. What if your parents caught you sneaking out? Just trust your instincts they usually don't lie.
2007-06-04 16:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay home...if he has a problem with it...too bad. BUT if you dont take my advise make sure you use a condom or you'll regret it for the rest of your life if you, God forbid, catch an std!
or if you end up pregnant that is a whole set of new issues you'll have to deal with!!!! You're headed for a lot of heart ache if you sleep with bf's because they 'love you' let me tell you.....they don't. boys don't have the inkling of an idea what love is. Trust me, I've been in your shoes plenty times before and I wish I hadn't fallen for the 'love you' line
2007-06-04 16:40:22 · answer #7 · answered by Kmmv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! You should not go, simply because you're not ready to have sex with him. And, that's clear to me because you're on here asking for help with this situation.
You need to tell your bf you're not ready for this, and here comes the serious part...if he doesn't understand or still pressures you, then LEAVE him.
As you get older and mature you'll understand that no one should make you do something you don't want to. Sometimes when you're young it's hard to not give in to pressure, but believe me, you will love yourself so much more for sticking by what YOU want to do.
2007-06-04 16:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by it's me! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should stay. You are not ready if you're asking perfect strangers what to do. Wait till you are ready. It's not something you should or have to rush into. Do you know about birth control, stds? You're definitely not ready unless you are prepared and discussed those topics with him. Don't become another statistic.
2007-06-04 16:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by Surf Forever 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would stay and then ask him why he is moving so fast.You sound like you are not ready to take the next step yet.Plus its best to wait it out til you find the right person and to where you won't get into trouble with your folks.
2007-06-04 16:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should not be his decision alone. You should both share the decision and responsiblity. Ask yourself questions, Am I ready for this? Can I handle the repercussions? Do I feel pressured in any way? Am I strong? Use your conscience.
2007-06-04 16:36:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋