Christian husbands, please..?

Question

or anyone else that cares to answer.

My husband came home from work today, and said in passing, I love coming home. Our house is so full of peace.

I believe as a Christian wife, I am called to pray for peace and together with my husband create a place away from the bustle of the world. I took this as a great compliment from him, that we have acheived that.

My question is, with so many on here talking about being a submissive wife and all the debate of the writings of Paul, isn't that truly what he is saying?

Make a home together that you can find peace in?

btw, I do have a full time job as well as the home. We manage our time together, as well as our home.

Answer 1

You are a hero. You've no idea how much a husband desires peace at home and how much you are doing for him by providing it. Its like a safe shelter in a really bad storm.

Many people I believe mistake the "submissive wife" part to mean that the wife is lower than the husband or less valuable. The truth is as I understand it is that the wife simply has a different role than the husband. That doesn't make her lesser than her husband , just different. It is very difficult for a husband or a wife to fulfull the role of the other. Lets face it, women have abilities and strengths that men don't normally possess and vice versa.

Looking at it from another perspective, to build a house requires a carpenter, an electrician, a plumber, etc. None is greater and all are equally necessary, but they all have very different roles unique to their abilities.

When a husband and wife work together to accomplish a goal, great things happen. On the contrary, if each is fighting to be the greatest, or the "boss", little is accomplished for either one.

Great job! Don't let anyone discourage you.

Answer 2

I am in the 32nd year of coming home to a woman with your attitude. She is a blessing beyond measure. I have always told her that there is nowhere I would sooner be than wherever she is. After God, she is my partner, my center, my reason for being, my life.

We both work. And both our jobs are stressful (I guess everyone thinks that their job is stressful!). Sometimes work cannot help but intrude into our home, as we are both passionate people and care deeply about what we do. but having each other to talk things out with helps tremendously.

I think that you will find that being a submissive wife leads to a submissive husband. And, if you really study Paul's writings, this is the point he was trying to get across to married couples. That they submit to each other.
Submit is not a dirty word. The meaning goes so much beyond the concept of slave and master. Very few grasp that.

You are to be complemented in establishing such a household as you describe. In this day and age of confusion and stress, it is an invaluable asset to have. Guard it closely.

Answer 3

i'm a christian husband, and i tell my wife that all the time. and i mean it 100% as a compliment. we both grew up in turbulant homes. my wife is sexy, smart, fun and a great friend, but the fact that i can come home and leave the rest of the world out there, and be able to live in peace is great. even when we have conflicts, we resolve them and don't dwell. i would definitly take what he said as being good. my wife also has a full time job and all that comes with it. it amazes me sometimes that she will put that aside for me. and i try to do the same for her.

it sounds like you are a great woman. and have a great marriage. it encourages me to hear people like you because sometimes it seems like everyone elses marriage sucks and the norm is to be misserable. thank you for your question.

Answer 4

Brian S spoke it pretty well. My beautiful, smart, sexy, christian wife and I have been married for the best 23 (I think) years of my life and we agree that a peaceful home with a loving atmosphere is what Paul is talking about and it is a priceless benefit of a Christ-centered marriage. We are far from perfect, but our disagreements are not on important matters.
I think the best answer you will get is from someone who does not have this who wants it. Doesn't everyone want this?

Answer 5

When your heart is at peace the world is your home!

No GOD
No Peace

Know GOD
Know Peace


JESUS: I am the Way, the Truth and the Life. No man comes to the Father but by Me."

"Hear O Israel, the Lord is our God, the Lord is One"

(Shema Yisrael Adonai eloheinu Adonai ehad)

Answer 6

You are a precious jewel to your husband. I applaud your entire statement. To be submissive and raise the other spouse above ones self is ultimate respect and we are commanded to do it as a man also.

May peace and prosperity follow you all of your days.

Answer 7

You are correct. By reading the entire chapter it becomes evident that the husband has the greater responsibility to the wife. He is to love her as Christ loved and gave Himself for the church. Christ came as a servant to mankind and by that example a husband should be a humble and loving servant to his wife. It is only in this way that a wife can submit to her husband. Simply because she is submitting to someone who is also willing to serve her.

Answer 8

I believe that God created Marriage so a husband and a wife can love each other, which means having respect, promoting equality, honesty, etc. from both sides.

Answer 9

Christian husbands

Answer 10

A woman has no reason to submit to her husband (verse 22) if he does not love her (verse 25).
Glad you have a happy home. I know how important that is.