im in a friends with benifits relationship. i want him to want me to be his girlfriend. i know thats what he wants to. i want to back off and tell him im looking to find a serious relationship and cant mess around with him anymore, to see what he does. should i?
2007-06-04 15:56:39 · 15 answers · asked by bqbalchick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you should, he will probably quickly decide that he will get serious. I mean if he doesn't then you know he isn't worth it because he doesn't like you enough to keep you.
2007-06-04 16:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him no more sex.Unless he wants to become an official couple.Then tell him you have this three date rule,and hes going to have to wait.Go on the first date and make him tell you his life story.Tell him no references to sex unless you ask him directly if he slept with someone in particular.Before you accept the second date,put it off for two weeks.Make excuses of prior commitments you need to take care of.Wait two more weeks before going on the third date.If he doesnt call you almost every night during this time then tell him he's going to have to wait a while longer for the sexual relationship to start up again.No matter how much you want to sleep with him,wait at least four to six weeks.You will both get more pleasure out of it.Thats what my wife did to me five years ago.
2007-06-04 16:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by john s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, FWB relationships rarely turn into the "real thing" - in fact, that is the golden rule of "Friends With Benefits" (don't get attached).
The only thing you can try is to discuss this with him - but try to find a way to do so without cutting him off entirely. If he feels that the only way to get some "action" is to PRETEND to be in a relationship - and this is how he will see it if you cut him off entirely - then you are doomed to unhappiness.
Who knows? Maybe he does have some genuine feelings - us guys are notorious for hiding them...
Just try not to set yourself up for disappointment - if you can live without the romantic side of the relationship, then maybe it's better not to rock the boat rather than losing everything...
2007-06-04 16:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay flirty.. You can make comments about how cute he is or what you find attractive in him... Just don't mention relationships... And you should be on the right tracks boys love it when your flirty and just don't think if him in a boyfriend way... Just keep flirting and say that he's sexy and just make continuous comments on how he's gorgeous and funny and how his hair is Good luck!!xx
2016-05-17 04:15:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, as if I haven't seen this a million times. He'll say anything to keep you around as his **** buddy, and you'll believe everything he has to say until you finally get it through your head that guys like this aren't the type that you make relationships with.
The sooner you walk away from this thing and try to forget it, the sooner you'll move on.
2007-06-04 16:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by glass_commander 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah just tell him to back off. I was in this situation before and I felt miserable. I wanted to be his girl. I was not happy. I finally told him I can't do this anymore. And I started to see some people now and I feel happier now. Do it before it's too late!
2007-06-04 15:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by chrissy. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
come on. how simple is this. you dont want to be friends with benefits than dont be. tell him you want to be more than that to him and maybe give him some motivation- like quit giving him benefits. you ever heard yer grandma say why buy the cow when you get the milk for free? so true.
goldilocks
2007-06-04 16:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him this and mean it. If you are not happy being his bed buddy, then stop doing it. If he does not want more, then move on and find a true relationship. You deserve more than being a bed buddy.
2007-06-04 16:02:05 · answer #8 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I have this bridge I own and I'm willing to sell it to you, real cheap. You are a sucker to be in a relationship like that and maybe enough of a sucker to buy my bridge. All I need is a check for 5 million dollars..
2007-06-04 16:04:15 · answer #9 · answered by jhartmann21 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should say that to him if that's what you really want and I think you really do want that, but be ready to back away if he says he just wants a friend with benefits. I don't know why you'd say it just to see what he does.
2007-06-04 16:01:38 · answer #10 · answered by Mike H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋