I have been married for 3 years and we have a 2 year old daughter. Things are going well, we have time and money to do stuff and live a comfortable life. We have an active social life (thanks to the help of reliable babysitters!).
My husband told me yesterday that he would like to have a second child. I am not sure I want to... we have everything going for us right now with just one. I dont want to lose my lifestyle or our freedom but at the same time, I dont want my husband or daughter to miss out on the extra sibling.
Help me decide, one way or the other! Thanks!
2007-06-04 15:39:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
if you aren't sure, don't. but, if you really want another child, go right ahead. this is something you and your husband need to discuss.
2007-06-04 15:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that we know that you have a comfortable life, an active social life, money, time, freedom and a reliable baby sitter, I would recommend that you change nothing. I can pretty much tell what is important to you and it isn't children. What's wrong with a little less social life, freedom, money, comfort, etc? Are these what life is about? For me the answer is no. Life has to be worth more than the stuff we acquire and the comfort and fun we experience. How about adopting a child in need? We Americans are so spoiled and self centered and we sound like it. Your priorities are clear. Keep the stuff, forget the kids.
2007-06-04 15:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
To have a child, you should want one!
Having a child to please your husband or to provide company to an older child, is not a good reason to conceive.
You might end up resenting this child for what it is taikng from you.
Enjoy your family life as it is right now and who knows, maybe in a few months or a few years you will realize you want another baby.
And if you still dont want another child, there is nothing wrong with it.
It is a very personal choice and youa re the only one that can make it.
But whatever you choose, do it for the right reasons!
2007-06-04 18:00:18 · answer #3 · answered by annelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide. If your heart is saying "no" right now, listen to it. I was an only child. My daughter is an only child. We're just fine. :) Only children can actually require MORE work, though, since they will depend on you as a playmate and you will have to encourage more friend visits, etc. Two could mean more fighting in the household and more expenses. There are advantages and disadvantages either way.
Just trust your heart.... maybe in a few years you'll feel you really want another? Maybe not? Doing it out of guilt or a feeling of obligation isn't right, though.
2007-06-04 15:45:50 · answer #4 · answered by Laura 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is a big deal. If you have to think about it then no. You should wait till you feel he time is right. You shouldn't have a baby to make someone else happy even if he is your husband you should have a baby only because it's what you want it's what your ready for. One is great more then one can get hard. I know I have 3. Best of luck!
2007-06-04 16:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unsure about having another child, then the answer is no, do not have another. You are the one who will carry the child in your body. You feel comfortable with your life as is.
I grew up an only child and I don't feel that I missed out on anything not having siblings.
If you are unsure in any way, the answer is simply no..
2007-06-04 15:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by mommyntn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an only child I beg of you to have another one!!! I was so lonely growing up, I always wished for a sibling to not just play with but I needed someone to fight with, especially in my teens years. And now even as an adult, I find myself feeling lonely. I still wish I had a sibling to call and talk to and share my life with. There is just something special about having a brother or sister, you love them and hate them all at once but at the same time you would never wish to have lived without them. ( according to my friends with siblings) I have had 3 kids now and I love it!!!!! I am so excited for my kids to get to grow up with each other! All the memories they will make with one another will be priceless. Please, at least one more.
2007-06-04 17:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by 3J&2A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 10 year old girl and my 6 year old boy fight non-stop. Today they even fought over who got more ice in there cups. They both had the same amount because I put it in there. It is the little things but life goes on.
2007-06-04 15:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Bones 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always wished I had a second child
BUt
I'm glad I didnt
I couldnt have afforded to send 2 kids to private schools and pay for their college tuition
2007-06-04 15:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't take this the wrong way, but you should not be asking this here. That is only for you to decide. We all know about 7 sentences about you.
I will tell you I believe what is meant to be will be, you know that old saying. Go with your gut feeling.
2007-06-04 16:21:52 · answer #10 · answered by Kimbabub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes when your 2 year old grows up and your older and cant do much she'll have friends but nothing like a good sis. when she is younger she might not want another sibling.
2007-06-04 15:54:02 · answer #11 · answered by Lexi Lou 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋