my son is so disinterested in life. it is like living with a bumb.
he gets suspended from school (all the time).
and personal hygiene, let's just say is not personal at all. he stinks!!
he won't take a bath or brush his teeth. deodorant is like cryptinite to him, he avoids it at all cost.
yes, i have to literally stand in the bathroom with him so he can bathe. put the deordorant on him. i have to brush his teeth or it want get done.
the father is in the home, and we both have to play tag team with him.
we have sought counselling, and this "do it for him, if he doesnt do it" was their solution.
but is this normal and would he grow out of it.
does anyone else has this type of problem and how do you deal with it?
2007-06-04 14:29:40 · 4 answers · asked by karMA_DAME 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You're describing a tough situation, because usually by that age kids develop interests. I would get school counselors involved, and try another counselor privately. Otherwise, maybe he could go to a day-camp this summer, or a specialty camp. I'm not sure why a ten year old would wear deodorant, but you must insist that he bathes and brushes his teeth, even if you have to force him to do it. You don't say why he repeatedly gets suspended from school, but this, obviously, is a serious problem that children professionals through the school should help you handle. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-06-04 14:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by Stephen L 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
has this been a gradual thing or its going on a long time? Maybe he is very unhappy about something? You need to get to the root of this. Do you pester him all day? I had a point where I totally ignored my son unless he did something dangerous boy did he start listening. Sometimes they are just very smart and find a way to make sure you really notice them. Good Luck!!
2007-06-04 21:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by cleanfreak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing all the facts, it sounds like your child is looking for and is in need of a lot of attention.... having said that I would recommend that you take a new tact. Find the book "Positive Discipline" by Rudolph Dreikers. It is a great book about working with child and getting them to take responsibility for their own lives and maintenance. It has helped me with my kids, particularly now that they are teenagers. If you don't get this under control now, wait till you get to puberty!!!
best of luck
2007-06-04 21:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by Sciencemom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly as he gets to the teenage years he will be less likely to care about hygiene. He wont grow out out of it until he has a girlfriend.Then you will find he wants to smell sweetly.You might be waiting a while.
2007-06-04 21:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋