My boyfriend of 2 years has his regular page with all our friends and of course me, his girlfriend on his top 8. Then, a couple weeks ago while browsing a mutual friends' profile i noticed a new friend that i didn't recognize so I checked it out to see if it maybe it was another old friend. Turns out my bf has created another "his"space. Problem is he's forgotten to mention it to me or add me even though he adds not only a few close mutual friends but also a few very attractive girls that are studying his major, whom I've never even heard about....and trust me i thought i knew everything since we live together. Wrong. He is laso listed as "single". I waited a while thinking maybe he was too busy and forgot but the profile shows he updates it daily and he still hasn't said anything. I know he loves me and he has never given me any reason to be suspicious before so I don't wanna jump the gun. So what do you guys think?
2007-06-04 14:13:29 · 16 answers · asked by elenewende 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off this is very shady. He is playing the field.
Second, if he is cheating on you then he will never admit it...even if you confront him about his second profile. Cheaters will keep lying until they are 100% sure they are busted.
You are not jumping any gun. He is doing "dirt". My suggestion to you is to install a key-logger (do a google search for a discreet one) onto your home computer in order to get the password to his second account. Then you can confirm for yourself 100% if he is up to no good.
Normally I would not suggest this, but you have a smoking gun, so to speak, that he is being unfaithful.
One warning is this:
If you would not leave him even if you found out he had been cheating, then do not bother investigating this any further. Just let it go.
If you decide to do this, you have to be prepared and willing to kick him to the curb if you find out the worst.
Good luck.
2007-06-04 14:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by Forreal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him, because you deserve better then him. When we're in an intimate relationship, our partners know the friends we are closest to. Vice-versa, our closest friends should very much want to meet our partners, to say the least. If he continues to have conversations with this..."old friend," you should simply say that you'd like to meet this friend he's so close to, because it's strange not to know a partner's closest friends (which it is). Who knows, maybe it isn't anything illicit, but he feels like you just wouldn't accept an opposite-sex friend. You've already done a lot - and good on you for confronting him. It sounds like he is staying with you because you guys are "comfortable." But he is treading in dangerous waters, and make sure that he knows this. Personally, I think it's pretty silly that you've stayed around this long, since he's made it perfectly clear that he wants to keep in contact with this person. Why do you want to live in a lie? Think about it - this life that you're choosing to live right now isn't perfect, and it won't even bee good if he continues to have his head in the clouds while you're standing right in front of him. It's too late for him. Also, don't be too quick to give your heart to him. If he's in his middle twenties, and you are younger, there is a chance that you aren't really what he's looking for at the moment. I know that might sound heart breaking, but once a person get's to the point of wanting to get married and settle down...there is not turning back. He might be getting scared. Living with you is a commitment, especially if he's in there with your mom and your sister. It could be overwhelming for a guy to have to spend so much time with your family. Maybe he wants to explore before he has to commit for real. 4 months is not enough time to completely know some one. Lastly, I'd certainly mention any double-standards you think are going on here. If you feel like it'd not be okay for you to be doing what he is -- whatever that is -- it's certainly something you two need to talk about. Double-standards really can't exist in a healthy relationship.
2016-05-21 07:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the bigger issue is why do you care? So he has another profile. So what! Its myspace. Its not like he has you and 5 chicks on the side. Do you trust him? If not, why are you with him? Second, has he given you a reason (other than what youve stated) for you to be suspicious? Does he snoop through your business? If he does i can see the flipside in you doing the same but otherwise it looks to me like you have trust issues that you and him need to deal with and unless his behavior dictates that he has done otherwise, your trippin.
2007-06-04 14:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES! It's very suspicious. Though most people have at least two MySpace profiles. At the most basic you have a real one and a back up one. Or you have a real one and a fake one.
Your guy sounds like a fake one. One he keeps open and single to have fun online.
2007-06-04 14:18:36 · answer #4 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be blunt, but you are kidding yourself if you think he isn't hiding something from you. You said he has never given you any reason to be suspicious before but you don't know that for sure, do you? I know you don't want to believe its true, but honestly, it doesn't look good hon. If you confront him I'm willing to bet he'd make up some excuse like he forgot to tell you or he hadn't gotten around to it yet. He has time to change his page every day but not time to tell you about it? I think in your heart you know the answer. Good luck. I'm really sorry.
2007-06-04 14:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely. I think he is hiding messages from other people with the other one. It could be long lost friends or acquaintances. I know someone who hides that he even has a myspace from his wife. He has been known to be shady and has a kid. It doesn't stop him. I would be cautious and ultimately confront him.
2007-06-04 14:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by Angelo C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MySpace is the DEVIL!!!!!!!!
Make up another myspace profile for your self just don't don't your pic, find another one of a real attractive woman. See if he will add you and and start flirting with and hen confront him face to face.
2007-06-04 14:22:09 · answer #7 · answered by Nicholas R 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in a way yes, because my husband had two profiles too, and i found out the password to the second one and he was talking to other girls and giving out his cell phone number too them
2007-06-04 14:19:24 · answer #8 · answered by KK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could be cunning and make a second profile and talk it up with his "new" profile and try and get a rise out of him that way...thats just one idea
2007-06-04 14:17:45 · answer #9 · answered by sisqo43068 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is out there looking for something better to come along. Dont let that happen to you, leave him.
2007-06-04 14:16:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋