I have been with the same guy for 8 months. He regularly says he loves me and I love him. We both live in a city where we are both not from. He doesn't have a lot of friends here and neither do I yet, but a lot of my friends visit etc, so he's met quite a few of them. However, here's where the problem starts... I have never met ANY of his friends. His home town is only a few hours from here (mine is 1700 miles) and somehow we've met 10 of mine and NONE of his! Now we are finally going to his town next weekend and he's acting all stressed and weird... I don't know what to do.
2007-06-04 12:07:34 · 26 answers · asked by Shorty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my boyfriend is the same way.
he might not want you to meet his friends incase they don't like you or you don't like them, which could cause problems in the relationship.
his friend could be like "awe this girls a total bummer i dont see why your with her, you could do so much better" and that would put him in an awkward position because they ARE his friends and you ARE his girlfriend.
or you could be like "wow these are your friends? i dont see how, you are definitely not like them" and he might feel offended.
or maybe hes scared his friends with think your a total babe and want to steal you away from him ;)
ahaha you just never know.
2007-06-04 12:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by darkdaisy3816 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is proably a very good reason he doesnt
want you to meet his friends. here are just a couple hypothetical reasons:
a. there is something that his friends know about him that he doesnt want you to know about and hes afraid they'll spill the beans.
b. hes afraid his friends wont approve, or will treat him differently or something of that sort.
c. he might have something in his past that his friends know about but you dont and once again there is that fear that they will spill the beans.
in any case you need to confront him and ask him why
hes edgy about this. why he doesnt want you to meet people
that he calls friends. be supportive of him but dont back off.
tell him if he cant at least explain why he doesnt want you to meet him, ask him to tell you when he's comfertable in time.
but after 8 months i think he should have told you.
you need an answer, but be careful and gentle. you dont know
what skeletons he has in his closet and if they are painful
you dont want to pry. but tell him ultimatly that
He needs to be the one to tell you anything, you would much rather hear it from him than his friends.
2007-06-04 19:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is worried what you may think of his friends or is concerned because he doesn't really have any. I think he may also be concerned that you may look at him in a different way when you meet his friends. I would ask him why is is so stressed and what ever he has to say will not bother you.
2007-06-04 19:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pass rep, image problem in the past to what he is realy like with you thou he aches to be mith you may swerve the other way, fear of lossing you for the friends miss steps in life, and may just may in thy eye know it maybe a controle issue to keep you out of the light of somthing you should maybe know and been or be told.... If it's the parents hey in-laws do know more about there kid then most close friends so keep that presher in knowing who he was so you can help build in who he wants to become if you want this mans life. He may not have friends like you or I he may of had ac:u:ant:en:ces and others in town just don't care and dose not want to lose his masculent protrayal that you love about him making him look weak in front of you...
Good Luck in Your Findings
Your operatic grasshopper
JPMerrick
2007-06-04 19:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by JPMerrick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask him why you haven't seen any of his friends. There's got to be a reason behind why and after 8 months it better be a good reason. Almost seems like he's embarrassed for his friends to see you and if that's the case, dump him.
2007-06-04 19:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he's ashamed of you. and he doesn't went you to met any of his friends at all. if he loved you he would've had introduce you to some of his friends by now. and now since you are going to his home town he either has to introduce you lie about you to them. if I were you I would talk to him before go next weekend. good luck.
2007-06-04 22:04:34 · answer #6 · answered by thydarknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his friends are 'geeks' and he's embarrassed for you to meet them. There's not too much you can do but maybe tell him you're excited to meet his friends, they're probably great people and lots of fun just like him.
2007-06-04 19:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by Chrissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be a number of different things.
A) None of his friends visited
B) He's stressed over seeing friends that he hasnt seen in years.
C) He's embarrassed
2007-06-04 19:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by jay k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just a little nervous because his friends maybe will make fun of him, it doesnt mean he doesnt love you though, he's just a guy and wants to be kewl, or maybe he thinks you wont like his friends, it's okay, theres nothing wrong with a boyfriend not wanting you to meet his friends so dont worry about it. =]
2007-06-04 19:12:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he hasnt told anyone about you and you may not be the type he usually dates or maybe hes a little embarrased about you... you need to have a talk with with him before you leave for his hometown.... and get some real answers hes hiding you for a reason and you may opt out if you know what it is
2007-06-04 19:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by Selene R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋