my fiance wants a simple court house wedding but I want something more how do I compromise with him?

Answer 1

Easy: Private (courthouse) wedding, BIG reception! It's all about the party anyway, right??!

Have fun with it.

Answer 2

Compromise for something you both agree on. Especially if this is your first marriage. If you give in and have a court house wedding, you will probably regret not having something more elaborate and intimate. If you both go into this marriage not happy with the compromise, then you both will have a resentment toward one another.
If the two of you are planning on going on an exotic honeymoon, then you can probably get married there, just the two of you. But if you want family there, and not a big ceremony and reception, try either a backyard celebration, beach ceremony, or a small reception at a nice restaurant. What ever you choose, just remember to both compromise, even on the very little details that may or may not effect him.
A couple should worry about the marriage, and not so much about the wedding. As long as you have your marriage in mind, and that you both are marrying for the right reasons; then the little compromises shouldn't be a battle. Good luck!

Answer 3

There are all kinds of places in which to have a ceremony; home, garden, country club, yacht, Art gallery, museum, B&B, farm, even the place where you intend to have the reception.
If he doesn't want a big affair that's fine, but he shouldn't cheat family out of witnessing this. You can bet that Momma pictured what he wedding would be like as he was growing up. If he thinks the courthouse will be cheaper, that isn't always the case.

To find an officiant type into Yahoo your city, state & wedding officiant (no 's' on the end) You will have a few to choose from, usually on the 2nd page. The larger bridal sites seem to get top billing. If you do go to the bridal sites, please visit the site of someone you think you might like. Those bridal sites make vendors & officiants pay for your contact info so you may not hear back from someone you'd hoped.

You need to sit down quietly together somewhere & discuss this matter. And if you can't compromise on this, where both of you can live with the decision.....how will your marriage be?

Answer 4

It depends on the details of the compromise. Is it because he doesn't want to fork out 20K for an event that lasts about 10 minutes?

Women have been suckered into the fantasy that a wedding needs to be the social event of the season! And they market that idea so women believe they must have the fantasy or else!

I got married by a judge. Only 6 people in attendance. Very intimate. I didn't want to fork out thousands, if not tens of thousands of dollars to impress anyone. To me, the wedding was only about my husband and me. I hate large weddings just for that reason. Large weddings kill the intimacy of that day because the bride and groom are pulled in all directions, all day! It's just not worth it.

Bridezilla's come to mind everytime I go to a large wedding. Neither the bride or groom remember much about the reception! The stress kills the moments that should be cherished and remembered! I'm with your fiance.

Answer 5

Hold the whole thing in a reception hall and build where there would normally be an arch, an entire set that looks like a court house! Don't forget to tell the deacon that he should dress like a judge, sitting behind the bench with a wood hammer and a justice flag... hey its a compromise! :)

Answer 6

Why does he want a simple courthouse wedding ? Is it because of lack of money, lack of commitment, or lack of importance ?

You and he should agree about the type of wedding you will have, and some compromise will be necessary to arrive at something you both want. But it sounds like he doesn't want a wedding at all !!! Does he even want to marry ? A court house wedding to me is no different than appearing before a judge about a traffic violation.

Answer 7

Try to compromise by having a ceremony on the beach with a judge still presiding. It'd be nice for both of you. A simple ceremony and then later on you can have a big reception with your family, or you could just do a simple backyard BBQ with family and friends to celebrate.

Answer 8

You might be able to talk him into a simple wedding, if you can keep it very small. Maybe getting married outside you can have a very pretty wedding outside and still keep it small. He needs to understand it is just as much your day as it is his. He needs to understand that a wedding is a big thing to a girl, and he needs to compromise with you too.

Answer 9

Have a small chapel wedding! Most churches have a smaller chapel in the church. Very intimate, costs less. Have a simple reception at a parent's, relative or friends house afterwords. Serve Appetizers, punch, coffee, cake and don't for get a few bottles of wine. Keep it small and you will have more for a nicer Honeymoon!

Answer 10

Have a small intimate ceremony with the close family and friends, and a nice tasteful reception. Both of you will have to compromise; which part of having "something more" doesn't he like? Try to minimize the unpleasant parts, while still having fun and doing something special.

Answer 11

get married down w/ the JP and have a nice, yet simple, wedding reception w/ all of your closest friends and family. personally, i just went down to the JP and had an intimate lunch w/ friends & family at a nice restaurant, because it's much less expensive & stressful that way. but if you really want something, then have an intimate reception so that it feels like you had a wedding w/o all the hoopla.