Giving up sex!?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and have had sex for most of that time. We just decided to not have sex from here on out until we get married (when we graduate college in a year or so).

We are doing this for two reasons. 1. We feel like we've been putting sex above mental/emotional intimacy. 2. We're Christians and while we don't think that our having sex before marriage is wrong, we think it is out of repect for God that we wait to give our bodies to each other until we do get married.

I just wondered who else has done something similar or if you have thoughts on this. How did you deal or how do you think we should? Tips on how to not break our new vow? It's gonna be tough...

Answer 1

I think it's awesome that you guys realize how important it is to focus on each other rather than sex. Sex is a great addittion to a relationship, but is so much better to fall in love and know each other inside and out before you hop in the sack. So what if you have already had sex. I think it shows maturity and respect for each other to wait until you are married. It will make your marriage a lot stronger. Congatulations on the engagement and good luck in the future!

Answer 2

are you completely mad? going without for a year when you've already been doing it?
you can still have sex AND emotional intimacy, i think they go hand in hand when you are in a committed relationship.
i'm not doubting your faith (i have none) but did you not think about respecting god before you actually had sex for the first time because now the deed is done (many times) and you abstaining is not going to change that.

Answer 3

I think that is a very strong thing y'all are doing and if it works out I think your relationship will grow tremendously. Don't think of it as giving something up think of it as gaining a better non-physical understanding of each other.

Answer 4

Wish you can do that to me : ) ^