and does the hurting ever stop for your loved one? My baby sis passed away on May 20 and had just turned 19 on May 12... I feel as if I'll never be ok... She was absolutely gorgeous and an artist...
2007-06-04 09:27:14 · 6 answers · asked by bspitz89 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The hurting never stops completely. My father died a year ago May 10th and the wounds are still raw. You will be okay, but you will not be the same. Time helps the healing process. You'll have good days and crappy days. Grief groups and support groups are amazing resources. Memories will always bring tears to your eyes even when you're laughing and smiling at them. Her birthday will make your stomach hurt. The first year is the hardest, once you pass all the holidays the first time they get easier. Christmas and Easter and everything will suck a little but your family will help. Remember that they are hurting too. Remember that you are allowed to cry whenever you want. Little things will trigger sadness when you least expect it. It's okay to be sad and it's okay to feel like you will never see sunshine again. Just remember how much she loved you and how much she was loved and keep her alive in your heart. Use your closeness as a support for others, her friends are hurting too and they need your help, as do your parents. Keep yourself occupied even if it means getting a new hobby or taking up jogging. Jogging is a great way to go outside, be alone with your thoughts and expel some pent up stress. Everyone delas with grief differently but everyone is dealing with grief.
It is still very fresh for you. You and your family are in my prayers.
There is a book called "Good Grief" by Granger Westberg that you may find helpful, you can get it at any berievement center or bookstore or Amazin.com. It was a very helpful resource to stages of grief and the process for both my mother and me.
2007-06-05 01:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kristy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just barely learned of the death of a close family friend. It is shocking when you first hear about, but peace will come, I promise. I don't know if you are religious, but honestly, that is where I get the most comfort from. I am LDS and believe that there is an afterlife and that families can be together forever if we do certain things. I know that is because of Jesus Christ. That is the greatest comfort that I get from it all. Keep her in your memory and honor her. Try meeting with LDS missionaries and they can tell you some things about eternal families and where we go in the next life, what happens to us, and when we can see each other again. They can tell you about where we came from, why we are here, and where we are going in the next life. Like I said, that is the greatest comfort in the world for me right now. Go to these websites and request the missionaries. I promise you won't be disappointed and you'll feel greater comfort.
2007-06-04 17:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My heart hurts for what you must be enduring. What you've described is especially difficult to cope with since she was so young- -it just doesn't fit the picture of what we expect life to be. That being said, I encourage you to surround yourself with others who loved her--those who can grieve with you but who can also celebrate the person you loved. The process of your grief is just that--a process. There is no specified amount of time allowed and no switch to flip to just turn it off. Your life will never be the same. However, you will be able to smile again and to live without feeling completely swallowed up by the pain and heartache of the deep sadness you are feeling. Your sister and the relationship you shared sounds like it was joyful and love-filled. I sincerely believe that she would want you to continue to to experience a joyful and love-filled life--doing that will be the greatest honor you can bestow upon her memory. Wishing you peace.
2007-06-04 17:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear of your loss. it will get better with time. i know it doesn't seem like it but it will. at times, i still miss mine horribly and she's been gone for 10 years now.(murdered) i wonder about all the things we could have missed over the past 10 years. i know she would have loved my daughter and i would probably have some neices or nephews by now.
2007-06-04 17:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people don't get over things like this for years. It is still to soon to not feel this way. everyone has to deel with this and no one knows how long they will grieve for a passed loved one. Be thankful that she can be with her loved ones and God.
2007-06-05 00:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by TLHGSS6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear about your loss....keep her memory alive.
2007-06-04 16:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋