i dont want to be mean, and i still want to be friends. how can i get him to leave me be.
2007-06-04 08:21:14 · 13 answers · asked by meg m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you don't presently have another relationship with someone else that you can use as an excuse, how about the next time he "hits" on you, you could say something like "You know, Joe, I really appreciate the compliment and I really like working with you and your a great friend but
1. I have a policy of never dating co-workers; or
2. right now I am taking some time off from relationships to kind of find myself and be self-sufficient and am not looking to start a romantic relationship any time in the near future; or
3. any other kind sounding excuse that you may think sounds better.
And knowing this I hope you and I can remain friends and still hang out but I would appreciate it if you wouldn't mention the possibility of us dating or anything. Thanks, I really appreciate it.
Good luck and God Bless.
2007-06-04 08:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most work places have strict rules about this kind of behavior.
First, speak to your co-worker. Tell him exactly what he is doing wrong and why you find it inappropriate. If he is your friend, he will stop. Everyone has different levels of flirting that they tolerate, but he won't stop until he knows yours.
Second, if that had no affect, report it to your supervisor and start keeping a log of the interactions you have with your co-worker. This usually takes care of the problem because you have given it to management and they will deal with it because they want to avoid a law suit that you might bring on the company. If you work for a big company, most have sexual harassment polices in place for just this reason.
Hopefully it won't get to step 2! Good Luck!
2007-06-04 08:30:50 · answer #2 · answered by fairbetsy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called sexual harrassment; your company should have a policy that gives you examples of how to handle it.
If not, do not worry about being mean. Use a simple, straight-forward, no jokes attitude. The next exchange, tell him that his remarks are unacceptable. Period. End of discussion. I worked in several construction offices and found most guys may test your limits but will back off when you draw a line. If it continues, go to your supervisor.
2007-06-04 08:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by C H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-10 12:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trick is to be subtle yet very clear in your meaning.
Your best option... Knee to the groin. You don't have to worry about stumbling over the conversation, and there's no words to take out of context. Quick, simple and to the point.
2007-06-04 08:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by Rhyno 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look him straight in his eyes, do NOT smile and confidently tell him to stop it. If you don't want it to feel awkward afterwards make a joke about something and smile to him. Keep that conversation going after that point or it WILL be weird.
2007-06-04 08:24:47 · answer #6 · answered by shaneaemerson 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him straight up; it's awkward as it is ever since he's been hitting on you. It's really nothing much you can do to make the friendship any better let alone he can't respect your space.
2007-06-04 08:25:54 · answer #7 · answered by Steven Fenix 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that it is weird for you, and you are not interested. Tell him it is making work really awkword for you. He will get the message.
If he keeps doing it then tell your immediate supervisor. IN WRITING.
2007-06-04 08:26:37 · answer #8 · answered by flyfish_777 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit hitting on me. I'm getting tired of it.
Truth is always best.
2007-06-04 08:24:04 · answer #9 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if it was that bad you could always threaten to file sexual harrassment charges...
but seriously start by talking to the coworker and telling them you are not interested ///that bothers you..
and if that doesnt work, go to my first answer.
2007-06-04 08:26:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋