Hey Everyone!! So I have a situation. I have been seeing this girl for a little over three months. We have totaly been acting serious, but just arent together together yet. We are TOTALLY into each other, and rock when we are together. She has a pretty jaded past, let downs, disappointments, etc. and is very very scared to move forward with this. She says she totally wants too, but is just so scared. So I was like Ill let you go then, and she said please no just give me like a week to just clear my head. I was like fine. That was last Thursday, amd it totally sucks already!!! haha it really does! I totally like her alot! Anyway, is there anything I can do here? Can I text her or something, or better to just leave it alone?? What can I do!!! Im goin CRAZY!
P.S. I was thinking of sending her a text that said: "Just a heads up, this totally sucks! I miss you kid!"
wouldnt that be funny??? Haha
2007-06-04
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Tim R
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You have a tough situation that you are trying your best to deal with. The girl has been hurt. She is having a hard time dealing with your own feelings. She wants to trust you and let go and just let you be with her; however, this requires one thing of her that she cannot do right now. When you are in a relationship with someone you have to open yourself up to the possiblity that they just may hurt you and they just may leave you. You have to be vulnerable. That is something she cannot seem to do right now. That is what is going on in her head. First off, be a friend. Don't get angry at her because she isn't with you right now. Give her a chance. Second, ALWAYS tell her that if she needs to talk that you are there. Earn her trust little by little. Lastly, always be sure you are concerned with how her day is going and what she is really feeling. I know that may sound silly, but there are many people that don't care about the little things in the day. Care about the little things. As far as the text message, I would leave out the totally sucks part. Tell her that you miss her. That is sweet and is something she needs to know. She needs to know that you care about her and you aren't going anywhere.
2007-06-07 06:55:03
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answered by One Odd Duck 6
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You seem like you like her a lot so I would suggest that you be patient and wait on her if you feel for her like you say you do. You know about her past and how screwed up it must have been for her so just wait and let her come to you. Don't rush her or make her feel like she has to be with you or else. You said yourself that she is scarred to move forward with your situation so just be understanding and be there for her regardless of how much time she may need. If she is worth it then you will wait for her. I hope it all works out for the 2 of you. God Bless
2007-06-04 08:18:25
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answered by sharethalove 4
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Aww you seem sweet!!! I know from experiance that when a girl gets hurt, she builds up a wall around her heart and dont want to let anyone in! I have been there done that. So what you have to do is show her that you not like that(if your not!!) and text her and tell her that you want to prove to her that your not like the other people that have hurt her in her life, and if she gave you the chance that you would show her. Be pacient and she will come along, she just dont want to get into something to fast and get hurt again. Cause when women get hurt, they hurt so much worse then men. Text her and tell her that and she what she says back. If you dont mind to let me know what happens! you can e-mail me at
mannananna08@yahoo.com
Good Luck!
2007-06-04 08:10:31
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answered by Im always gonna be me! 2
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well i dunno you probably are scared. People move at different paces she may not want to be serious and it also depends on the age. Give her time. Act normal and if she doesnt repsond soon then you may know that she is either VERY scared or isnt sure. It is hard to make such a descision. Be the awesome one, and show her that she means a lot to you. Give her a rose or take her to a picnic and soon she might figure out what she wants, I know this is really hard, GOOD LUCK and i hope it all goes wwell. :)
2007-06-04 08:10:25
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answered by joanna 1
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Haha don't send that :D haha but what you should send is a text letting her know that you are here if she ever needs any help for anything. If she has such a troubled past, let her know that you are always behing her and that she can text you if she needs to get anything off her chest. THEN you can tell her that you miss her ;) Good luckk!
2007-06-04 08:07:05
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answered by JENNNY 3
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I'm not sure I understand why if you guys are together a lot your not an "item" yet....I sympathize with what you are going through but I'm not 100% sure she's being honest......Good Luck to you & if you do text just text something like thinking of you, and I hope your day is good (without expecting any contact in return)
2007-06-04 08:06:28
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answered by Karen 4
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just give her some time and give your self time 2 u can be away from each other for a little bit then if u just let her be and everthing might go well so just try not 2 think about her as much think about other stuff as well and mabey u wont miss her as much u could probably text or im her later and shell miss u and tell u when she sees u again
i hope i could help
2007-06-04 08:10:16
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answered by *vanilla 2
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You brazenly admit that she has been with the aid of alot in her previous relationships, so which you ought to grant her a minute to think of roughly issues. there is no rush, is there. you're nervous on account which you experience that too plenty time has long handed by on account that she spoke to you, do no longer project. even though it is not basic, for now, take it in stride. She desires this time to excise the ghost from her previous, so she would be able of make that next step into some thing greater advantageous with you. do no longer rush issues with a woman like this. She has been harm to a element the place she needs issues to go at a snails %., yet relax asured, in case you somewhat care approximately her, it's going to be worth it. in simple terms permit her take fairly time to get issues inorder in her head. you will income from her harm, do no longer project.
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answered by cosner 4
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First off.. If you think that you'd let her down too, don't even go through with it. It's not worht hurting a girl who's been hurt many times before.
If she really likes you, sit her down and have a calm talk about how into you really are. Let her know that with you it will be different because you care so much. Don't come on too strong but get your point across.
2007-06-04 08:06:10
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answered by Anonymous
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Let her have her breating room. If you text her or call once, it's not a big deal I don't think, but don't do more than that and don't push her when you contact her, just make small talk to let her see you're giving her space. If you know she needs space and you cross the line, she'll see you as disrespectful of her needs and end it. But don't call her "kid".
2007-06-04 08:06:56
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answered by Lady in Red 4
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