Ok so I am 15 years old and I live with my mom and my step dad. All my mom and I do is fight and she is always telling how everything is my fault and she should have never had me cause I was a mistake. Well its getting really really bad and my teachers are starting to notice stuff. I am really close with my band director and one night after practice she took me to get ice cream so we could talk...she told me that I needed to go talk to a counselor and see what options I have. I don't want to go stay with my real dad, and I could go stay with my grandparents but they live in Pennsylvania. So what options do I have? They aren't physically abusive all the time and even when they are I don't get bruises and stuff like that to prove it so what do I do??? I really need to know
2007-06-04 07:51:13 · 6 answers · asked by minifall 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it is getting so bad that for the last 6 months I have started cutting myself(i haven't done it for 3 weeks thanks to my bff) but i don't want to leave this town or my school
2007-06-04 08:10:45 · update #1
I am very glad that you talked to your band director. I'm glad that you have someone you can confide in. You do need to get some help with your cutting. That is a very serious problem. I'm sure you know that. You can get help and you can get better. Not everything is your fault. Your mother has some problems of her own, and she really is blaming everything that is wrong with her on you. That is wrong. This is a lie. What is happening is a serious problem You always have options. Even if you don't really want to leave the town you are living in, if you truly think about it, you may be better off than what you are doing right now. Please, talk to a counselor. Even if you do not move. You may be able to get your whole family some help with some things. Talk to your band director again and see if you can get to a counselor. I hope that things work out, and I really hope you don't mind but I will be praying for you and your whole family.
2007-06-06 08:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's look at the options.
Teacher is right - you need to talk to a counselor now - you're already hurting yourself - not a good thing at all.
Stay with mean mom and stepdad who says she's sorry you were born. - but you do get to stay in your same town you live in now.
Live with natural dad - only you said you didn't want to do that - but didn't say why. I imagine it's for a good reason however.
Can you tough this out for 3 more years?
Live with grandparents - who live in another state. Not a good option but do-able - at least they want you.
Live with someone else - like in a half-way house or group home. Talk with your school's counselor - and then go to the juvenile courts and speak with one of the attorneys there about your rights and how to maybe let you live with your bff's family
None of these options are ideal - but I'd seek out professional help - probably from the county health/human services department. You can also speak with the courts about abuse.
good luck.
2007-06-04 08:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the councilor at school and maybe if that is how your Mom really feels you should go to your Grandparents if they want you full time.
Maybe she doesn't realize the things she is actually saying or thinks that you know that she doesn't really mean them. Bottom line is that she needs counseling to stop and you need counseling to deal with what she has said.
Good luck and get help...
2007-06-04 08:03:55 · answer #3 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have a friend you can run away to , like go to their house i would do that. and i think a band teacher is required to tell law enforcement about what you told her. acting up in school is a sign to teachers that your crying out for help , next time a teacher gets after you for your behavior just spill your guts about whats going on at home
2007-06-04 08:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may not be physically abusive, but they are emotionally abusing you. How long before it turns physical? Even if it doesn't get physical, emotional scars are very difficult to hide as you move forward with your life. You need to talk to someone about this. It is not healty to be in that situation. I think your parents need counseling.
2007-06-04 08:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel so sorry 4 u. but ur directors rite, u do need 2 see a councelor. one whom u can tell everything ur mom sez. u need someone to talk to. a grownup that is made 4 this.
2007-06-04 07:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋