i need privacy!!!!?

Question

My grandma is so nosey! she is so nosey that she has a recorder on the phone so she can listen to whatever i say in my conversation ans now she is getting a thing on the computer that tells her what ever i am on and what i do or say on it!!! i don't know what to do she is way 2 nosey i like 2 know she cares for me but she has gone 2 far!!! What do i do?

Answer 1

Have you tried talking to her? Maybe its your age - She thinks you need to be watched for your own good. Tell her you need some space... tell her to remember when she was your age and that she did the things she did and that you have the right and ability to do the same and learn from your mistakes. If you tell her honestly and nicely what you think than probably she will understand.

Answer 2

Well - nosey is one way of putting it. Old school is another. If more grandmothers were like yours there would be less non-compliant children and teens in the world. Yes, she has gone a bit far, but look at the big picture. She may want to make sure you are not being intimidated and manipulated by boys, this can easily happen to our youth because you are at a very vulnerable age. Maybe talk to her and work it out where she can feel like she can trust that you will be alright. Confiding in her will make her feel apart of your life. You may want to communicate more with her about your activities because if you don't she will continued to find out "her way". Lot's of luck. You know - I snooped through my son's drawer before and found out that his girlfriend was pregnant (both 16yo) and her mom denied that she was sexually active - I now have an 8yo granddaughter. Had I not snooped on a gut feeling - don't know what would have happened.

Answer 3

I think that you should talk to your grandma about this. She might feel left out and wants to see what the kids are talking about and she really cares about you (as you already know) Try spending time with her and tell her some gossip (even if it's made up)

If this dosen't work then you should maybe save some money and secretly get a prepaid cell phone. These are usually cheap. around 20 dollar and the card can be as cheap as 5 dollars for like 100 minutes.

you can also look for secret places to hide your notes and stuff. You can get a book and cut out the insides of the pages to make it hollow. You can make a hole in the pocket of a jacket to hide small and flat stuff inside the jacket. Use regular stuff as secret hiding locations. Get a screwdriver and open up a phone or hide things in a crawlspace. Use you imagination. (BE CAREFUL WITH ELECTRIC THINGS. PLEASE UNPLUG THEM AND DONT TOUCH THE LITTLE CIRCUT THINGS BECAUSE THE CAN STILL HAVE ELECTRICITY. DON'T OPEN UP BIG STUFF.)

there's this great website called NAMED to encrypt (write in a code) your messages so that only your friends with the correct pass word and code can read the messages. The website in namabc.org/NAMED

I hope this helps you a little. Good Luck :-)

Answer 4

Did you ever do anything to cause her to be this way?

If not, I really don't think what she is doing is right. You need to talk to her about why she feels the need to keep this close of tabs on you.

I know she thinks its the best thing for you because she is probably scared that you might be spending too much time on the computer or phone, and whats to make sure you aren't in any trouble or talking to those weirdos on the internet, however enough is enough, something has got to give.

Answer 5

Are you over 18? If not, you dont have a choice. Your grandma is being smart. Yuo dont have to worry abuot what she hears to while you speak on the phone nor do you ahve to worry about where you go to when you suft the internet. UNLESS, yuo have something to hide. Teens always talk about wanting privacy when they ahve things up their sleeves such as bfs they are not suppose to have.

Answer 6

Limit what you do on the computer to homework and approved browsing sites only.

Limit your phone conversations to things that your grandmother would approve of - and limit how long you monopolize the phone.

When you're old enough, get a part time job so you can get your own cell phone.

Until then, it's her bills, her phone, her computer - her rules. Obey them.

Answer 7

depends on how old you are. under 18? not much you can do. You have no rights. Over 18? then you can leave, or i guess you could sue your grandma. though thats just mean. Shes most likely doing it cause shes worried about you and because she cares. Ya may just try talking to her. And ask you self, are you doing anything you shouldnt me? If not, heck, just let her listen for a while. maybe she will se you aren't doing anything wrong and stop spying.

Answer 8

borrow your friends phone and computer if you have one or better yet tell your grandma that you really need some privacy or wait why is it so important to have privacy I mean your grandma's just on old lady I feel sorry for her maybe she's bored

Answer 9

well as long as you live under her roof..you may have to abid..sounds like she is very concerned for you ..maybe she had problems with another child..if this is really a bother talk to her rasionally about it (calmly) and see if she could back off a bit..if not talk only away from ear shot and recorders..the weather is nicer now..you have more options

Answer 10

you need to have a talk with her and tell her how you feel. sounds like she is worried something will happen to you, with everything going on out there, but she is too protective. she should trust you some. are you at a age where you can move out?