I've been friends with this guy for about 2 years, we always liked each other but last year he got an american girlfriend, he still kept on saying how much he liked me, even when she was in the country and when he was there with her. He would always say he didn't think it was working out between them. When he got home from a visit to her, he asked me out for a drink so we met and the inevitable happened and we spent the night together. A few days later I heard on the grapevine that him and this girl were engaged?! How can I get back at him for treating me like an idiot! I know it is my fault too but I didn't know they were getting married I thought they were on the verge of breaking up! Revenge tactics please.
2007-06-04 07:46:49 · 38 answers · asked by guylian_chocolate_seashell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best revenge is showing him up.
I would get in contact with the fiancee and, under the guise of being "helpful", dish a lot of dirt.
I mean, you would want to know all about a guy's background, right?
But never with a malicious intent, it's just one woman helping out another
2007-06-04 07:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
So sorry you had to go through this. I know how much you must want revenge, but living well is truly the best revenge of all. If you did something revengeful you might regret it.
Protect your own character and get busy with family and friends to get over him. Just be happy you're not the American girlfriend, because she's going to marry a jerk and doesn't even know it.
Good luck to you.
2007-06-04 07:54:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lively 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge is living well. You don't need to get this guy back. Look at it this way...he's his own worst enemy! How good of a husband will he be if he cheated on his fiance with you?? Be glad you learned what a slimeball he really is before you got together with him.
Stay true to yourself, find a great guy and get married, and this other guy will come to realise how he messed things up with you. What better revenge is there than that?
2007-06-04 07:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do realize that "revenge" only works inthe movies, right?
You did this to yourself, you knew he still was with her but you accepted the date and it isn't like he forced you to bed. Don't call it the "inevitable" you wanted, and let, it happen. The hurt you feel is entirely manufactured from your own doing.
He didn't treat you like an idiot, you gave yourself willingly to an involved man. Take ownership of your mistake and move on. He chose her over you. Anything you try is just going to make you look like a jealous. spurnned psycho ex.
2007-06-04 07:54:06 · answer #4 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt go for revenge .. I would say rather u shud call his fiancee and tell her the truth ..so that she shud know the kind of man she is marrying and leave it to her choice .... U wud b doing the good deed of telling that girl what shes gettin into .. and preventing another woman from gettin hurt as u were!
2007-06-04 08:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by Dr DiGiT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He actually didn't do anything wrong, you knew when he was away that he had a girlfriend, yet you CHOSE to have drinks with him and spend the night. You cant fault a man for being a man, that's what men do. You have to be the guardian of your mind and body, don't fault someone else when you allow the bad to happen.
Chalk it up to lesson learned and move on.
2007-06-04 07:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Revenge is a dish best served cold.....
Invite him out for drinks and dinner at a really fancy restrant. Enjoy yourself.
Bring him a small gift in a box (a note telling him goodbye.....). Don't let him open it. Go to the restroom, sneak out and then get in a taxi and leave..... Leave him sitting there to pay the bill.
2007-06-04 07:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by flyfish_777 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No revenge here, you are to blame also, sorry you do not like your answer, but you knew what you were doing when you met him for a drink and the inevitable happened.
He just wanted one last stand with you, and you gave it to him, so I am sorry, I hope you learned your lesson, to not fall for this again!
2007-06-04 07:54:24 · answer #8 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well maybe the best revenge isn't revenge! I mean maybe taking revenge will only just show how hurt u r by him... Maybe u should just forget all about, move on with ur life, be happy and live every moment!!!!!
2007-06-04 07:51:58 · answer #9 · answered by angelcarrot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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At what point did sex become inevitable? Somehow I never had any inevitable sex, and I'm substantially older than you are.
Forgive him. You were the gatekeeper, and you left it unlocked. Now you are blaming him for your decision.
2007-06-04 07:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋