She is more concerned with so called friends who do nothing more than hanging about street corners.She has also become involved in minor trouble through these same friends and I worry for her future.
2007-06-04 07:38:44 · 16 answers · asked by jayemess 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Kids hey!!!
Most kids like to be part of the crowd and like to try these things out and try to make themselves look cool.
Upsetting isnt it when they have allways been your "little girl".
She probably knows you are still there for her and she wont ever forget the lovely relationship you had, and i am sure that your lovely grandaughter will return, my daughters went through a stage they would hardly look at me when they were that age i simply wasnt "cool enough" but now they have grown a little they are back to my lovely girls i am sure your grandaughter will be the same at least she is lucky to have you and believe me she knows it, good luck x
2007-06-04 07:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by mum to 5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 going on 30 huh
yes i no you must be thinking how can she treat you like this the people who have been through think and thin with her
PLEASE don't feel that she don't love you she does
at the moment she is rebelling trying to be in with the so called in crowd
Teens want to grow up now and think they are and they think everyone that cares for them are just being a nag
we no that is not true but for a teen life is about having the latest gear to wear having the best looking guy on there hand and most of all they want to be miss popular
ALL i can advise is be there when she falls
why do i say this because i have been in your shoes but with my eldest child
please don't think she does not love you i bet she loves you more than words can say it is just at the moment she wants to spread her wings a bit
once she sees it is not what she really wants
she will be back for big cuddles and all the love you have
just be patient
Respect
shaz
2007-06-04 16:30:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all part of the growing up stage I'm afraid. I've not long been there myself - you can't expect a teengaer to want to hang around with their grandparents the whole time. I'm sure if you treat her normally you will still get the respect you have done for the last 15 years, but just not as often.
2007-06-04 14:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by Josh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to my mom and my son. They were very close until my son started hanging around a bad crowd. He started getting into some trouble. He ignored his gramma (broke her heart). However, she hung in there. She called and/or visited him often. She always told him that she didn't agree with the way he was acting but that she loved him and would always be there for him. While I was busy screaming, yelling and punishing him, she kept reminding him how much he was loved. During this difficult time in his (our) life, I think it really helped that he knew he always had his ace-in-the- hole, his grandma. My son is now out of that "stage" of his life and things are going great. He is now closer to his grandma than ever before and talks to her about things he can't seem to talk to me about (sometimes i'm jeolous) but I'm so greatful she is there for him. Also, there isn't a thing in the world my son wouldn't do for her now. It was a long hard battle but grandma won. Thanks to her, we all did.
2007-06-04 15:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by shandi232000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to my daughter and Mom. So I let my mother take over the Hair dresser trips and that has evolved into nails and shopping and even secret conversations. I am not threatened by it because the more people she has in her life that I trust the better. When Mom doesn't have the money for this I pay for it. It is good for the both of them.
2007-06-04 15:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl needs love and attention. Talk to her, tell her you love her, don't get on her case. Try and be her friend. Take her out & spend time with her. That's less time she spends with so called mates. Most of all do not be soft. Give her the shock treatment. It might break your heart at the time, but to secure her future, it is what she needs. It is not easy. I am in the same position with my nephew. Good luck!!
2007-06-04 14:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compared to being with boys and living on the edge of excitement for a 16 y.o. -being with grandma doesn't come close, you have to let her go ---pray for the best, she's not your little girl anymore. Whoever raised her din't stay on top of things. Besides she shouldn't have been doting on you, you sound self-centered. Find friends your own age.
2007-06-04 14:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made me think of my nan after reading this question!
It is all part of growing up, don't harass her to come visit you but let her know your still there for her - guilt trips won't work - only push her away further.
I do not believ money is the answer, you can't buy someone's love.....not real love anyway!
2007-06-04 14:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by smudger79 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds a typical 16 yr old tennager..i know it's hard but if she gets in trouble with the police don't help her,let her deal with it alone,,the shock treament is a good way for this behavior..
good luck..
2007-06-04 14:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by glen w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is growing up and at that stage friends and guys are on the cards. if she is with friends like that it is going to be hard try and take her and one good friend she likes out for the day.or try and talk to her and ask what she likes now as at her age she will not like the things she used to like
2007-06-04 14:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by mamsy0 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋