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I have tried to compromise with her and said two half sleeves instead, but that still isnt good enough. I think its very selfish of her to make this statement, and I am tempted to just get them and deal with what happens. Any suggestions?

2007-06-04 07:16:51 · 16 answers · asked by Face on Fire 5 in Beauty & Style Skin & Body Tattoos

She has three small tattoos and I have three semi large tattoos already.

2007-06-04 07:17:13 · update #1

Thanks for the responses so far, jsut a little FYI. She thinks I will look like a "thug" or "white trash" to her friends and family. I have a great job already where I am required to wear full sleeve shirts, so they will always be hidden. For those that say "dont do it, what about when youre 85", liver spots, wrinkles, and skin blemishes arent that much better looking.

2007-06-04 08:13:30 · update #2

16 answers

I do tat's for a living...................you can get a sleeved tat that no one will see, if you stop at your wrist bone. I'm sleeved on both arms and when I where long sleeve shirt, no one knows.
Maybe the problem is what you want to get, that's just a thought, talk it over with her and maybe you can both come to some kind of agreement. If she loves you, she loves your heart
too, and if that's what you want, she should let it go.
If she thinks she will be embarrassed, well, that's a whole new ball game. It's still you, the guy she married, can't really see how that could change.................unless, it's like I said before...
she will be embarrassed.
Then again, if you love her, you maybe can compromise a little.
Try not to get upset,..............this is something to really talk over with her. True love will give the final answer.
.....and another thing..............when you're 85 and all wrinkled
who's gonna give a crap whether you have them or not......
so don't listen to that other persons answer...............lol
imagine the great stories to tell grandchildren...........

2007-06-04 07:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by cpt m 4 · 3 0

You won't be able to get a full sleeve all in one sitting. It would take too long. A good tattoo artist will only work on you for a few hours at a time. After that, both you and the artist need a rest. Plus it would be prohibitively expensive (which might not be a problem for you, but just thought I'd throw it in there). Best suggestion: find a main them and start off with a centerpiece (my husband is doing this with his backpiece). Then, little by little, add the surrounding related pieces, and before you know it, the sleeve will be complete. And make SURE you're going to want to look at it EVERY day for the next 60 years or so.

2016-04-01 01:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by Shennen 4 · 0 0

*gasp* What the..? What is wrong with her...??!?!?! Sleeves are the hottest kind of tattoo any guy could get. Especially when they have even more tattoos on their chest and back... I think it is selfish of her to say that too, especially if she knew going into the marriage that you said you wanted them your whole life. If she cant understand YOU and what you want, then you better find someone who does or she needs to quit being a damn hypocrite. its not like you'd become a different person or something, its a tattoo for Christ's sake. Go get the tattoo, and show up at your house tonight, lol she's probably just bluffing or trying to control the situation or some ****

2007-06-04 07:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

What a situation. Those kind of tattoos can't really be hidden, and unfortunately they do tend to inspire odd reactions and feelings from people. I do agree that it is your body but this is very permanent. You will never be able to restore your arms to pre-tattoo status. I say find out why she is so against them and really consider that. When my husband and I committed ourselves to each other it was body and soul. What that means to us is we signed on for a certain package. We try to be healthy and look pretty good for ourselves first and each other second. If i was wearing my hair in a way that he hated I would change it, after all he is the one who has to look at it and he would do the same for me. Mutual respect.

You guys need to work this out together because it affects both of you.

2007-06-04 07:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 1 0

ok--here is the way i look at it--i would try and talk to her and find out what she is really upset about...tattoos only change your physical appearance not the person that you are. you will still be the person she fell in love with--i personally dont see the difference between two half sleeves and one whole sleeve--maybe you can agree on what type of tatoos to get --make a compromise ( family related, religion etc)--ask her what she sees in the difference between two halves and one whole. i hope this helps

2007-06-04 07:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by christielynn9280 2 · 1 0

Sounds to me like you married the wrong woman!

I dont' mean to sound rude. But your wife needs to deal with it. I have several tattoos, but only had a couple when I got married. My husband only has one, that he got after we were married. But whenever I decide to go get another one, he doesn't say anything. He's a smart man.

Also- your wife shouldn't give a damn what your friends and family think. sorry. she just shouldn't. If she loved you without them, there's no reason she shouldn't love you with them.

And if your friends and family suddenly hate you for it, or think your trashy, then they weren't close enough to understand in the first place. Someone who actually knows who you are would be able to either understand, or deal with it.

I suggest you tell your wife the same thing.

If she is willing to leave you over something THAT inconsequential, then let her leave.

2007-06-04 08:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by nikkilee911 3 · 1 1

Welp, this is really a problem between the two of you. I know she shouldn't be making you choose, but she is. So it's your choice, which would you rather have?

She isn't respecting your wants or supporting you, thats not really a good thing. But if you're happy with her other than that, i guess stay with her.

It's just something you'll have to figure out for yourself. Sorry I'm not more help, but it's something you both have to work out.

2007-06-04 11:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by Rose 6 · 0 0

Some people are just hard to convice; don't discourage that no matter whose side its on. Independence is the best feeling in the world. Its not wrong to call her selfish or for you to get the tattoo. So why bother arguing?

2007-06-04 15:44:57 · answer #8 · answered by rocky a 3 · 0 0

I'm glad at least one of you has your head on straight. I know you said you want them and have always wanted them but the real question is, will you always want them? When you are an 85 year old wrinkled man will they look good? How does it look to future employers? Will your wife find it attractive? She is looking out for the best interest of you, her and both of you as a couple. Don't get them.

2007-06-04 07:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by jds 2 · 0 2

I always say.....Life is too short to be anything but happy.

Do what you want....as long as you're not hurting anyone.

I can't even imagine threatening to leave my husband over something like a tattoo.....

2007-06-04 09:20:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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