and got back in the relationship again and he not doing right and you just don't know how to tell him that you need space you want to be by yourself what you suppose to do.
2007-06-04 06:39:47 · 25 answers · asked by mario07_2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him you need more space..... its not rocket science
2007-06-04 06:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by 2 good 2 miss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The main thing is just to be honest with yourself--for example, have you lost feelings for him or lost your ability to trust in the relationship, or... well, anything else? Then, be honest with him as you voice your feelings about the relationship.
By "he's not doing it right," are you referring to the direction of the relationship? Make sure your expectations of your boyfriend and the relationship are logical (for instance, a lot of women expect a lot of romantic things from their boyfriends that sometimes, it's just not very realistic).
And as far as you needing space goes, that's very reasonable! When you're voicing your opinions to him, make sure you tell him you need some personal time, as well.
So basically, it all comes down to confronting him in a calm manner and letting him know EVERYTHING--all your worries, your expectations, and your needs. Take it from there--if he treats the session badly, then you'll know you'll need to take more drastic measures (separate, take some time off, etc.)
Good luck! I hope you find yourself again :)
2007-06-04 13:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by calamityjanedoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and yourself...
You two broke up once before??? Ask yourself why didn't it work the first time and why were you willing to try it again...
If you want to be alone tell him this... Because if you are unhappy people are going to notice this...
Take a deep breathe and talk to him tell him that maybe you two should have just been friends and not tried to date again... Don't go on living away you aren't happy with...
Good luck
2007-06-04 13:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by Who knows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to garner up the strength and just tell him straight. It isn't working out. You're sorry, but you are dumping him. It is time to move on. Then just stop talking to him. If he keeps trying to get back with you, tell him to stop and ignore him. If that doesn't stop him, then tell him you will call the cops if he keeps stalking you. If that doesn't help, then call the cops. Likely it will never get that far. If you let him go and stay firm, it will happen for you. Good luck!
2007-06-04 13:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes as individuals we need our alone time. Sounds like you are due.
Suggest a trial separation from each other for a while, explain to him you need each of you to make sure this is really what you want.
Depending on his reaction, he might make it easy on you and break up, since he doesn't seem to be doing anything to make your relationship work.
Be honest with him and yourself.
2007-06-04 13:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to be honest and tell him. AS hard as it is, it is what you got to do. Just tell him that you need some space and time on your own. He should respect that and if he doesn't, he isnt worth your time. You gotta be honest. I had a clingy bf one time, and I had to tell him to give me space and to back off. Just be honest! Good luck!!!
2007-06-04 13:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by Rhianna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be honest period! It is not fair to either of you to stay in a relationship where you are not happy. Let him know that you really don't want to be in this relationship and you're sorry but it is now time to move on. You don't want to be unhappy, and it will not benefit either of you if you stay together.
2007-06-04 13:43:27 · answer #7 · answered by wilfeistykitten2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont put yourself into that position again it hurts the first tiem with someone that you love so why would you want to go through it all again? Dont do it..
2007-06-04 13:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow...i had the same problem....just sit him down and simply tell him its not working out...yu had a relationship with him already...it shouldn't be to hard to talk to him...be yourself and try to explain things in a nice and confortable way...good luck!
2007-06-04 13:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him this: "look, boyfriend i think we just arent right for each other. you are a great guy but not the one for me. i think we should see other people and be just friends. this is hard for me, because i do love you, but we aren't meant for each other."
2007-06-04 13:43:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him, that things are working out the way you wanted them to and explain.
2007-06-04 13:42:44 · answer #11 · answered by Tactical Medic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋