My boyfriend and I have resently had sex for the first time. It was good and all, but I dont know how to be sexy for him in bed. I've tried the whole, 'arch your back' and 'stroke his hair'. But things like that dont really help. As in getting the 'big O'. I guess what I am really asking is, how do I stay sexy in bed?
And another thing, how should I react around him now? I mean, do I just go on like nothing ever happened? Do I act like I want him more? I dont understand. In romance novels I have read, they say, that the characters just go on with life and look at their boyfriends in completely different ways. But I dont want to look at Bob(not his real name) in different ways. I love the way I look at him, and he loves the way, too. If you cant tell I have some problems with sex, and, the whole after sex ordeal.
HELP!!!!!
2007-06-04 06:10:09 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wearing sexy lingerie with heels always spices me up! Candles with soft music puts the mood in place. Sometimes, watching adult movies together will bring the temperature. When I say adult movies, I don't mean the XXX movies. Try watching the NR versions or the sexual education videos. Fredericks of Hollywood always has a lot of sexy clothing. Surprise him one day with some nice stockings and bedroom slippers and you'll see what I mean. Enjoy!
2007-06-04 06:15:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Mui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-First of all congratulations.
-Second of all... Yes, you should act like you did before. Sex is just an extra.. it's not what your relationship should be based on, and you shouldn't look at him any different. You may feel different with him now, but that's just because you two connected on a level way beyond how you ever had before.
-Thirdly, if you have problems with sex, and after sex "ordeals" why'd you agree to do it anyway? Were you really ready for it? You didn't have to do it, and you dont have to continue doing it if suddenly you realize you weren't ready.
-Lastly, as for staying sexy in bed... you're going to do that naturally. He'll always find you sexy in bed. You shouldn't be worried so much about how to move and special tricks, just do what feels good. If you're worried about it ask him what he thinks you guys could do if you get boring. Be open with him, ask him what he likes. It's a fun time.. relax or you're never going to orgasm.
2007-06-04 13:19:44 · answer #2 · answered by LoveisfirE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax, that's a question for when you start having casual sex and you want to spice things up. If you were good the first time, no doubt he'll remember it, he's probably thinking of how sexy you were, but just isn't saying anything. A lot of guys won't tell you things like that out of bed, because they don't want you to feel uncomfortable and think they're a pervert when you're in a relationship with them.
2007-06-04 13:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is something that two people in your situation agree to have and it should enhance the relationship, not confuse it. You are new at this and it is normal to feel a bit funny after what you did but it is so common that you should not worry. Tell him you feel funny. maybe he feels funny too and you both will laugh about it. As far as acting sexy, you must have done something right, because you did enough for him to make love toy you and don't worry about the back arching because when you are ready to have another orgasm, your back will arch all by itself
2007-06-04 13:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by Frank L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see the thing about sex is it comes more and more natural the more it happens and he is attracted to you or else it wouldnt have happened act just as you feel if you want to do it again start it off kissing the neck or rubbing his leg he will get the hint im sure
and the thing about looking at that person different is a good thing you see them in a different way youve just made a huge connection with someone that you love (i know thats not everyones case but hopefully you love him and he loves you) hope this helps out a little bit!
2007-06-04 13:19:30 · answer #5 · answered by soccer_star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, first thing is to relax. there are no step-by-step maneuvers. and you never mention wanting the sex to be great for you. sex is just another physical way to express love/the physical aspect of your relationship. out away expectations from movies or romance novels. y'all seem to have intimacy problems. instead of asking strangers for help, you should be asking him what he likes. and you should be telling him what you like. sex should get better as you both learn what works for you. oh, it is NOT a failure to try something and discover you don't like it--you were just having fun. people will say buy sexy lingerie, toys--do things in public etc--works if that is what your guy wants. personally, nothing sexier than my woman in MY shirt. you could try to flirt--just touch him unexpectedly during the day. i'm not talking grope him--a slight brush-a whispered word about something you liked--playful--like word tag. this just lets him know that not only do you love all his other qualities--but also that you find him sexy and enjoy your afterhours with him. did i say have fun? have fun. don't make it seem like a chore--or something you are doing for him. let him know what you like too.
2007-06-04 13:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by quiet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! You had sex for the first time and you are worried about staying "sexy" for your boyfriend? If you want to see what he REALLY thinks of you, tell him you can't have sex with him for a while. THEN...if he REALLY cares about you, he will still want to be with you! If he suddenly comes up with some reason why he can't be with you any more, you will have your answer! Almost ANY guy will care enough for you to have sex with you. What you want is one who cares enough NOT to have sex with you! Then you know that they really care about YOU, not your "sexy body!" How does he act around you? Does he act the same as he did, or is he more distant? I would guess more distant, since he got what he wanted. You need to find out where his true feelings are, and make sure that they don't only exist below the belt line!
2007-06-04 13:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by Ken S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I mean yes you look at him differently but in a good way i mean u had sex for the first time so you see each other closer. But for the whole looking sexy for him trying cute outfits like costumes or go to Victoria secret ask him what his fantasy's are.
2007-06-04 13:16:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey from my experience, to stay sexy for him just let him know your having a good time in bed when he pleases you let him know be vocal it never hurts a guy to know hes doing it right especially if he has never had sex b4 and if your having trouble having the "big o" dont worry about it lots of girls are not lucky enough to be able to have o's during sex but thats why we invented forplay remember its not just for before sex its great during and after sex too. oh and dont change the way you look at him if he likes it why change it right? k well i hope i could help you if you have anymore questions just let me know i have lots of info about this whole thing.
2007-06-04 21:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest just relax and be yourself. Your only young you don't have to worry about being sexy for him in bed im sure he alread finds you sexy. All im saying is don't rush to do all the sexy nice things for him now because what is gonna be left for the future.
Ask him what his fantasy is and try and explore other things. Maybe nice underwear and stuff but don't rush it all because i know a friend that has done it all in like a year and now she has nothing else to suprise him with.
2007-06-04 13:15:46 · answer #10 · answered by xxsummerxx232 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋